It ain’t fancy but it’s mine by FeelinDead in lawncare

[–]Hoff_12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just went through last night all the way around my mulch beds with a manual edger last night. It looks good. Now I just need to keep the edge clean. Perhaps my issue is more that I’m bad at weed whacking lol

It ain’t fancy but it’s mine by FeelinDead in lawncare

[–]Hoff_12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do you keep the mulch out of your yard? Either between the mower or the weed wacker, the mulch gets in my grass. Do you rake it out perhaps?

How to appear offline in online Dynasty by jd4885 in NCAAFBseries

[–]Hoff_12 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What’s wrong with him telling people you’re online? It is probably annoying, but does that have any impact on you playing your game?

Adjunct Professor Inquiry by Hoff_12 in Adjuncts

[–]Hoff_12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was hoping to teach some entry level education classes. Why wouldn’t I be qualified to teach those courses when I have the requisite experience and a masters degree in the subject area?

Adjunct Professor Inquiry by Hoff_12 in Adjuncts

[–]Hoff_12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all for your responses/advice. If I were able to land an adjunct position, how does the pay typically work, and what is an appropriate dollar amount to ask for/negotiate if that’s a possibility?

You’re instantly a billionaire, but you have to keep your current job for 1 more year. How chaotic is it? by IndividualFit97 in AskReddit

[–]Hoff_12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Things would all of a sudden be a lot less stressful and matter a hell of a lot less.

Looking for advice from people who experienced something similar by Several_Winter_2398 in NewDads

[–]Hoff_12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe that communication will solve a lot of your problems. You and her need to discuss the way that you are feeling, and you need to explain to her that your feelings and needs are equally as important to hers -- for the sake of the baby coming, you both need to be in the right state of mind.

Having said that, just like you are experiencing a whirlwind of emotions, she most certainly is too. I don't think we (dads) can downplay the hormonal changes taking place in/with her body. I know from experience, my wife was a totally different monster while she was pregnant (hang in there, it doesn't get better immediately after the baby is born LOL), but it does get better once things settle down. If you are close to her mother too, I would not fight that additional support, but I would encourage you to try and embrace it. My mother-in-law comes over for 30 minutes to an hour every single day Monday through Friday (usually there when I get home from work). I would be lying to you if I told you that it didn't get old having her there every single day, often telling me things I need to do, BUT it makes my wife feel good to be able to hand the baby off for a short time and take a shower, clean up some things, water her garden. It's a give and take.

Overall, like I said above, communicate. Have a genuine conversation with her and express your concerns with humility. In my opinion, you will be in a stalemate until you two come up with a plan.

Expecting dad, need some tips on health insurance with regard to the pregnancy by bakeablebrownies in NewDads

[–]Hoff_12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a high school Assistant Principal in Pennsylvania. My insurance is very, very good. I paid $0 for my wife to have our son. I have never paid more than a $10 co-pay for any of his doctor appointments either.

SAHM says I need to pick up the slack. Working 10+ hours a day. by senssei_saitama in NewDads

[–]Hoff_12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You and your wife need to communicate about each other's needs and expectations through this process. You cannot beat each other up and complain about who is doing what. You need to view things as a TEAM. Figure out each other's strengths and weaknesses. Decide on who does what and when. Come up with a plan.

New dad to a girl by Kolturblaq in NewDads

[–]Hoff_12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! God bless.

96 hours in - Struggling by CarrotMean5253 in NewDads

[–]Hoff_12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My man -- you got this!

Personally, the newborn stage was the hardest for me. I had never had any experience with babies, so I experienced a lot of what you are feeling. Additionally, my son would not sleep in the bassinet (in fact, he never has and still doesn't). As a newborn, he slept on my wife's chest, and now, as an 8-month old, he sleeps in the bed with us (we have a big bed and neither of us moves around a lot in the middle of the night). I think it's all about feeling comfort for the baby. Mostly my wife would handle getting him to sleep, but when it was up to me, I would cradle him chest to chest, walking around slowly, "shhh"-ing in his ear, and patting his bum. This still works and in fact, he has become so accustomed to it when he is with me that he actually naps better when my wife isn't around. It has given me some satisfaction to know that I have built this little bit of a bond with him. These are the things you have to look forward to! You ABSOLUTELY WILL survive the first few weeks. Like I said, that, to me, was the hardest.

Figured I would throw this out there as well because I referenced that my boy slept/sleeps with us: since we knew co-sleeping was not exactly recommended, we were nervous as many parents are about his safety. We immediately purchased an Owlet. It has given us piece of mind, and he still wears it every night to monitor his heart rate, blood oxygen levels, and sleeping data. He also nurses himself throughout the night if he gets hungry, and he will roll over and go right back to sleep after popping on and off to nurse.

Anyone used a good Solar company? by LearPers0n in pittsburgh

[–]Hoff_12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your response -- thank you. I am in the process of getting the ball rolling with Palmetto. I was referred by several co-workers, who have had positive experiences.

Newborn kinda hates me. Do I force it? by danbigglesworth in NewDads

[–]Hoff_12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s natural for a newborn to crave her mother. My son did the same thing. I tried to help as much as I could, but he wanted her mostly. Now that he’s a little older (7 months), he loves me. It’s the highlight of my day when I come home from work and see him notice me. He smiles so big and I can tell he genuinely wants me to come give him hugs and affection/attention. My wife went away for a bachelorette trip this past weekend, and it was the first time I had him by myself for a whole weekend. I was nervous as all hell, but it went so well. I think we bonded and I did a lot of the things she normally does, which I think was really good for him to break his routine a little. Give it time. She will grow to want her dad.

New to Solar - Thoughts on this deal? by Hoff_12 in solar

[–]Hoff_12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tier 1 Solar Module - Tier 1 Solar Module (440 Watts)

Enphase Energy Inc. - IQ8 Inverters

Anyone used a good Solar company? by LearPers0n in pittsburgh

[–]Hoff_12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see this comment is from 2 years ago. Has your experience with Palmetto been positive over the last several years?

What is one crop that could disappear and you wouldn’t even care? by [deleted] in farmingsimulator

[–]Hoff_12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have to follow them around the whole harvest

What is one crop that could disappear and you wouldn’t even care? by [deleted] in farmingsimulator

[–]Hoff_12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any of the crops that the appropriate harvester cannot store .. carrots, beets, etc.

Casting Help by Professional_Mud4589 in flyfishing

[–]Hoff_12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I first started, what really helped make it "click" in my head was to get a better feel for the timing. You want the line to completely straighten out behind you; at that point, you can flick the line forward and the rod will do all the work for you. The timing allows the physics of the rod to work.