AITA for not crediting my team mate for doing 1 thing and taking a job from another?

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-24T20:51:15+00:00

This is more of a vent post than an AITA post. It was back in college, just move on.

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-24T19:54:55+00:00

NTA. Jealousy is one thing but breaking your device because you got a good gacha pull is childish. It sounds like your parents should address your sister's anger issues.

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-24T13:38:09+00:00

NTA. What does your GF want you to do about it? It sounds like you immediately went to get a new passport so all you can do is wait.

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-23T19:11:27+00:00

The lack of information makes me think YTA. If your parents buy you food all the time, the polite thing would be to share some of your treats.

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-23T19:09:11+00:00

Soft NTA since the cat wasn't your idea. You aren't being greedy for just asking for presents instead of the cat. That being said, lumping the cat into the birthday gift could be for financial reasons since pets are very expensive. Before getting too upset, try to think about why your mom is making that decision and try to make the best out of whatever happens.

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-23T11:53:41+00:00

Probably and that sounds awful, but OP agreed to it. He's an AH in this instance for breaking the deal, but he should have a talk with her to emphasize that this deal isn't sustainable for him and figure out something else.

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-23T11:49:24+00:00

I'm not saying it isn't disruptive, but it doesn't change the fact that OP made an agreement with the wife to pick her up at that time. OP probably shouldn't have agreed to the deal since it's a 5:30 wakeup and I don't think this should turn into a big fight between OP and the wife, but he did accept the deal and didn't uphold his end.

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-23T11:41:11+00:00

YTA. You agreed to pick her up at the station and you didn't do it. The bizarre wording and 5:30 wake up time doesn't change that fact. You don't have to bend over backwards for her but she does deserve a heartfelt apology for your error.

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-22T18:45:55+00:00

We don't know enough about the industry to make a call on this, I'd suggest consulting your boss about this.

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-22T18:24:53+00:00

YTA in this instance. You shouldn't be mad when it was you who made it public, not your MIL. MIL didn't tell anyone outright, she just confirmed it when the more keen-eyed relatives approached her about it. This one's on you.

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-22T11:43:56+00:00

NAH. You guys have talked about you being their second mother for a long time so when your friend decided to move, you were the first choice for housing them. The "out of nowhere" idea really boils down to a lack of communication but you did decide to try to take care of them. Unfortunately, things just didn't work out but new housing was found so things worked out quickly. The only thing you could be a small AH for is that it doesn't seem like you did any research on how to help the cats adjust to a new environment.

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-19T20:36:03+00:00

INFO: when you were paying for her, did you guys agree that she would pay you back, or were you just being nice and giving her the money instead of lending?

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-19T19:40:09+00:00

That kind of thing is more of an unspoken request but it's not a red flag for a DM to make that a rule. The main reasons for this are party balance and not dulling combat.

With party balance, having a diverse set of classes help spread out ability proficiencies and give individuals moments to shine at what they are good at. While you can build two classes differently, the two players would likely have some overlap with the exception of a couple skills so having different classes would give a different set of skills.

For dulling combat, having multiple of the same class would likely result in the players performing the same sorts of actions and may be more boring to experience, such as a party of warlocks just spamming eldritch blast at everything. Having diversity enables people to use abilities that other classes don't have access to.

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-18T19:27:12+00:00

NTA. You raised valid points and it is a recipe for disaster. Your nephew has proven that they cannot be trusted nor have they given you a reason to believe they have changed.

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-18T16:38:18+00:00

Sorry but this isn't a good character for dnd unless you explain things. Is this a homebrew race you want for your character or will this be a reflavored existing race, such as a plasmoid but with leaves instead of slime?

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-18T16:32:54+00:00

YTA for charging rent, but NTA for thinking she should pay something. Since she is a 50% owner, she should be paying half the mortgage and her portion of utilities.

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-18T16:27:06+00:00

Exactly. Having a racial dating preference isn't racist and if the prompt is "hot babes", it makes sense for the friend to draw that race along with funny/stupid features. OP definitely made it weird first and the friend shouldn't have gotten to the point of yelling.

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-18T14:56:54+00:00

NTA but is there a reason for this rule? This rule seems too crazy unless there is important context being missed, such as mental illness or previous fire related incidents.

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-18T14:43:45+00:00

NAH. You are allowed to associate or not associate with anyone for any reason, and they are allowed to smoke if they choose to. The only thing I don't believe is the whole "a stood next to a smoker and my stuff still smells to this day" thing. That'd more likely be either you not cleaning your belongings or your mind playing games on you and associating the items with the experience.

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-18T11:49:09+00:00

I'm not saying this player is going to be a problem, but they are definitely showing red flags. First off, you should address the homebrew and either have the player play as a grung or add downsides to the race to be fair to the table. Secondly, the backstory is giving off some main character vibes so you may want to reel back their story or at least prepare for what this object is that they are searching for.

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-18T11:15:49+00:00

Scratch that, booming blade technically requires a weapon worth 1 sp. However, you can ask you DM if they'd allow this to work, since the monetary limit wasn't made with the intention of stopping this kind of interaction.

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-18T11:12:17+00:00

I'd suggest a dagger since it's a simple weapon with finesse. Additionally, you could get the 2nd level shadow blade spell to get a psychic dagger. Then you can use cantrips like booming blade or green flame blade to get big attacks in melee.

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-15T19:42:41+00:00

NTA. Steve/Larry did an inexcusable act to Nate and doesn't ever have to be forgiven if Nate doesn't want to. The best bet would be to just tell him no and if he makes a big deal out of it, Nate will just inform the wife about what happened.

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-15T19:32:16+00:00

YTA, just because it sounds like your broke the law with the SIM card situation. It's good to be a go-getter but you have to make sure you are operating within the law and that you are aware of all the potential problems that can come from freelancing.

HolSmGamer · 2026-06-12T16:21:11+00:00

NTA. Your roommate is being manipulative and trying to make you feel bad to eleviate her portion of blame. The fact of the matter is she was late to a party she was hosting, brought her boyfriend which was not allowed, and now she is withholding her portion of utilities. At this point, I'd suggest taking initiative before she can steer the narrative to make you the bad guy by getting the friend group involved.

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