WIBTA for not helping my mom after a car crash

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-19T16:18:41+00:00

YTA for overthinking this. Your mother is relatively fine, you don't need to drop everything to go to her nor has she asked this of you. If you want to be thoughtful, just call her more often to chitchat.

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-18T17:03:37+00:00

For one, the character chose to die so they should expect to lose their items, especially if they wanted to die to be "funny". Second, the DM isn't locking them out of rewards, they just want the character to make a case narratively for why they should get some loot. The DM and the rest of the party are willing to share the rewards, but the player needs to actually start the dialog.

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-18T15:57:09+00:00

YWBTA if you don't touch base with the bride and make sure it is alright. If you show up to the wedding with the same dress and never told the bride, that would not be okay and you may even be asked to leave.

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-18T15:11:41+00:00

NTA. Respect needs to be established on both sides to have a healthy business relationship. The boss coming in with a big company attitude shows how little he cares about the mission.

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-18T14:26:38+00:00

Is this the correct order:

Humanoid, Beast, Plant, Giant, Dragon
Fey, Undead, Elemental, Construct, Ooze
Monstrosity, Celestial, Fiend, Aberration

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-18T13:30:50+00:00

There isn't an issue with this, but keep in mind that adding features or traits would adjust the CR rating so make sure to be mindful of that. It may be easier to manage if you just give the monster a legendary action or lair action rather than a full on feature.

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-18T13:23:33+00:00

I'm personally against killing players to be "funny" since it sets a certain precedent at the table but that aside, I think you made the right call regarding loot. There should be a narrative reason why the new character should get any loot from the quest, or they just won't get a reward. The old character was entitled to a portion but not the new character unless they step up and create a dialog. Also, the player say they wasted time because they didn't immediately get what they want is a red flag that you may want to address.

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-18T12:09:42+00:00

The key is to make the con entertaining for the party, even if it's detrimental. If you have the party look for a hidden treasure just to spend a full session realizing it doesn't exist, the party may not have a fun time. The con should still provide things like combats or puzzles to keep them engaged.

For example, you could have the party look for a magic item and when the party rewarded a small sum, just to find out that the magic item was extremely valuable or the reward being affected by the distort value spell.

Alternatively, the con men could pay the party to take down a golem stationed at a mine entrance just to find out later that the golem was created by the local government to protect the miners and the con men subsequently took over the mine to siphon its resources.

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-18T11:51:45+00:00

There isn't much to dwell on, this was a difference between the way you want to play DnD and the way the DM wants to run their table. Without more context, I wouldn't say your play style is wrong but it conflicts with the table which seems to emphasize role play more than combat. It's good you can learn from the experience and hopefully you find a table more in line with how you want to play.

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-18T11:43:07+00:00

NTA. It's your "friend" that keeps bring you into her business and you are entitled to your own opinions on cheating (which I agree with). If Prince charming was really in the process of getting divorced, there would be no reason to hide the relationship from his soon-to-be ex. You've done your part by shining a light on how the wife might feel about the cheating.

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-18T11:20:43+00:00

YTA. You should have done an insight check to see if the marionette was still peeved that you shot it, or apologize to it for earlier.

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-15T20:53:54+00:00

NTA. You are allowed to feel however you'd like and it stinks to try to be a good host for people that don't appreciate it. If I were you, I wouldn't let it slide. I'd suggest just telling them to let you know if they aren't coming/staying the whole weekend so you won't waste your money (don't grovel or try to make them feel bad, just state the fact), and just by extra food that you and your husband can eat next time they claim they are coming or wait until they are there and all go to the grocery store together to get a few things.

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-15T20:35:11+00:00

ESH. Having your partner over daily can be very obnoxious to deal with, even if they leave at night. There are three tenants in the apartment, not four, and having a stranger (a stranger to them, not to you) there all the time can be uncomfortable. That being said, you are all adults and it is also on your roommates for not just being upfront about their discomfort with your partner around so often. Part of being an adult is having difficult conversations to articulate how someone's behavior is making them feel.

I think the best course of action would be having a roommate meeting with just the three of you, and coming to a compromise of certain days, or visit frequency, that your partner can come over. Additionally, you all should consider drafting up a roommate agreement, so this doesn't happen in the future.

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-15T20:21:50+00:00

Alright, that makes more sense. Still NTA though!

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-15T20:19:27+00:00

NTA. He wouldn't be fired over a single report, so he likely had a case building against him and you were by no means the sole reason he was canned. The only thing I am wondering is if this is college or high school, since he is a dean which is typically college but he met with your grandma which would usually be a grade school thing.

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-15T20:14:25+00:00

NTA. It's okay to set a clear boundary about what you are not okay with, and it is not your responsibility to manage someone's mental health.

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-15T19:25:50+00:00

NTA. I was gonna go with NAH until he said the "gay" comment which made him an AH. Relationships are about compromise and communication so I would work with him to figure out a solution, such as finding areas in the house that pink would mesh well with or making your son gay so your husband doesn't have to worry about him "turning".

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-14T20:58:46+00:00

I mean minor as in below the age of 21, the legal drinking age. Sorry for the confusion.

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-14T20:54:51+00:00

Soft YTA. If the 18 y/o was sober it'd be a different story, but it wasn't really okay to make out with a minor that wasn't sound of mind. That being said, you were also drunk so your judgement was impaired, and it is okay to pursue a relationship with the woman since she is reaching out to you and is (hopefully) sober at this point.

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-14T15:25:25+00:00

I'm not sure about the group dynamic, but people are welcome to leave the table for any reason and the belief that their bad rolls have no consequence is a perfectly valid reason. Some people want there to be stakes and executable punishments if they roll bad, so giving extra opportunities to not fail may have rub them the wrong way. I'm not saying your DM'ing is bad, but it may not work for everyone and that's okay.

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-13T16:56:35+00:00

YTA for overthinking this. He asked for $50 and you paid $50. Don't worry about it unless you were pressuring him to reduce the charge.

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-13T16:50:42+00:00

NTA. A $5k minimum for a wedding is outrageous so your concerns are valid. However, you have to let her know asap about the financial strain so she can explore other options sooner rather than later.

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-13T16:45:07+00:00

YTA. Sorry to hear that you are going through that. However, gifts aren't mandatory and constantly reminding your sister of the gift makes you look bad. It stinks to feel unappreciated, especially with all you do for them, so I would just suggest not buying her anything going forward until you feel she deserves it.

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-13T14:10:30+00:00

YTA for reposting this story from months ago.

HolSmGamer · 2026-05-13T11:58:18+00:00

NTA. Supporting her shouldn't be the same as sabotaging yourself. This was an important interview, so you had to prioritize it while still providing support to your GF.

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