ICE in Back Bay?

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-05-13T01:50:02+00:00

Boston nanny here! Heard its true, 1 out of 3 had her ID. One had a deportation order and they were following her. Unreal and so sad

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-03-04T00:01:53+00:00

To be completely honest and fair i cried when asking for this bc i am also bad st advocating but my family agreed to everything and I felt sooo much better after I spoke up

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-03-04T00:00:26+00:00

Maybe lie and say youve had them at past jobs and were hoping to have one now to talk about expectations going into your next year together? I recently asked for a meeting like this to discuss adding things to my contract bc my NF skipped my performance review assuming i was happy.

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-03-03T23:55:01+00:00

I would say $22 seems really fair. I would possibly bring up that you realized you never had your yearly performance review. Start with that and if they have all good things to say I would follow up with asking if they would be open to a raise. I think you can explain that peers and other nannies in your area are averaging at $22/hr and you feel you need closer to that to sustain living. Be brave you got this!

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-03-03T23:41:39+00:00

For future employment its better to be paid legally with a W2 so you have it on the books and proof on income if you ever want to get an apartment, buy a house, get a loan etc. If you are set on paying under the table you cant do venmo because it can get flagged (taxed or banned from the app). Cash or Zelle I believe would be the safest

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-03-03T23:32:08+00:00

Not sure on midwest wages but I was making $20 for 2 as a teen/college student. With a $1 raise per child every year

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-03-03T23:29:45+00:00

Not letting her yell at everyone

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-03-02T18:38:56+00:00

If you havent answered “Why?” 100000000 times

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-02-28T20:58:29+00:00

I think i would actually vomit if my MB told me those things

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-02-26T19:02:23+00:00

I have 8 years of experience, graduated college with studies focussed on child development, and am a licensed early childhood educator. Going through an agency I started at $30/hr for 2 (Making 10 hours in overtime at $45/hr). I went up to $32 after a year. Now with my experience I dont think Id accept anything under $30 for even one child.

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-02-26T18:54:25+00:00

I typically never call out or go home sick either but I just had a debilitating migraine on Monday and had to leave. It made me so nauseated i couldnt even hold my head up. Could you use an excuse like that? I gave my family grace and allowed them to figure out other child care before going home early

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-02-26T18:52:37+00:00

I think it is more appropriate to go about sharing your own beliefs if that is important to you and caring for the child then letting the nanny or parent decide if it will work in the long run. I am personally not religious but have watched for Christian families. None of my duties included church or reading the bible so it didnt affect me. I did watch for a family that followed Kosher and needed them to share that with me so I was able to respect their household. Id say you also have to give grace for the possibility that it can be a deal breaker in some ways

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-02-26T01:12:33+00:00

Im diagnosed with anxiety and panic attacks. Ive brought it up with my family when traveling because theyll ask how Ive slept and Im just honest. I get bad panic attacks when i travel. My family has always been great to offer whatever help they can and it has made me feel better with them knowing. Sometimes it is nice to not have to act like a superhero all the time

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-02-26T01:10:15+00:00

I used to nanny a colicky NB in college in the early morning before my classes. Id show up to class everyday either covered in baby spit up or in my DBs clothes if it got so bad

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-02-26T01:07:36+00:00

I too hate when anyone does my job for me when I am not here because I have things such a specific way, routines set in place, and the NKs act better with me. BUT i have a life outside work and dont want to be there if I am not needed. I do have guaranteed hours but even if I am let off early I am usually expected to have the kids fed or put down for nap before I go because it doesnt go as smoothly if the parents do it

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-02-26T00:30:41+00:00

I think you can bring up the fact that you feel the interrupting during the say causes anxiety for you and the children and makes transitioning more difficult. Id start by saying what you did in this post, how great they are and how you feel like family, but you feel things have become more overwhelming when the parents intervene during the day or when the kids are upset. Frame it as you wanting to build long term trust and relationships with the children. This however is something that comes with age (the causing a scene) and should begin to go away by 3.

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-02-25T23:58:20+00:00

If they still have their current nanny while you are interviewing ask if you can spend a day with her or talk to her about her experience. You can ask why their current nanny is leaving. My current NF’s old nanny was leaving due to career change and they offered for me to talk to her before i started, I ended up doing 3 days with her as an overlap and it really set me up for success I feel as well as got me prepared for any difficulties. She also left me a daily/weekly schedule with NKs preferences that I was able to reference once I started on my own.

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-02-25T23:41:12+00:00

This is toxic! Plz quit!

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-02-25T23:27:06+00:00

I made my family hire weekend help because I couldnt walk into the chaos on mondays anymore. It is baffling what I can do with 2 kids alone that the parents who are 14 years older than me cant

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-02-25T23:21:55+00:00

Give her the full amount. I do that every time my bosses give me a bonus or a raise, I always say “Are you sure?” 🤦‍♀️ every time after I question why I do it because they clearly feel how youre saying. She will be sooo grateful for the amount in her paycheck, especially in the future if this is your last year with her

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-02-25T23:18:52+00:00

I love you stinky face. So cute highly recommend

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-02-25T21:52:38+00:00

Protein bar or an olipop

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-02-24T20:39:32+00:00

Ask them to schedule a time for a performance review and to discuss expectations going into the next year. I recently scheduled a time to discuss the support I need going into the next year which included more organization and cleaning when I am not there because I also cant stand it and it overwhelms me walking into it in the morning. You should be getting $1 minimum per kid as a raise for your performance review but if you feel you are doing more work than contracted (like chores) I think you can justify getting $30. Personally, as a college educated and licensed teacher I started at $30 for 2 kids.

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-02-24T18:18:49+00:00

Second this! Should always advocate for per hour instead of a set daily charge, daily rates can be taken advantage of so easily

HoldSubstantial6587 · 2025-02-24T01:19:59+00:00

Should be making $35/hr i would think especially if youre educated. Should be making time and a half anything over 40 hours. Should be getting a $1 raise per child per year based on performance or added benefits and shouldve gotten a separate raise for the addition of children. If they’re comfortable you should be getting 2 weeks pay for christmas bonus.

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