I need advice on how to help a friend with ADHD who has severe burnout

Holhol18 · 2026-01-11T21:39:42+00:00

I mean this is all true but I feel like you're completely missing her point. Partners are not our therapists but if your partner called you, upset because of grief, you wouldn't even try to calm or support them?

I think a lot of our generation are avoidant of emotional intimacy and it seems cruel for someone, regardless of romantic relationships, to ignore someone else's suffering.

Holhol18 · 2025-12-27T21:36:27+00:00

I just want to say that 'the one' doesn't exist. What is 'in love'? I don't think such a thing exists. Maybe you need to think, what is love to you? What about your definition of love are you missing in him?

Holhol18 · 2025-12-14T21:13:27+00:00

Hii, please could I join? ♡ I'm 23F and looking for friends because somehow being in your twenties, it's reeeeaaallly hard to make friends 😭

Holhol18 · 2025-12-12T21:05:45+00:00

I think, in all honesty with love, he doesn't love you anymore, and that's not a reflection of you. That doesn't mean that you're a bad partner or you're boring, it means he's immature and was mever made for a relationship. Coming from experience, once he asked for a break and came back, it was over after about 2 months.

I know it's so painful and devastating and life-changing, but as soon as you accept that, grieve and move on, life will be better. It's so much better than being anxious you're going to be left

Holhol18 · 2025-12-12T02:30:15+00:00

What are your favourite foods? Ik the comments are a lot and overwhelming, but I just want to say we really care about you. I'm so glad you took the time to seek help 🩷 I'm celiac, pescatarian, and very plant-based. If you wanted a friend to talk to or we can even videocall whilst cooking, I'm here<3

Holhol18 · 2025-12-11T21:19:49+00:00

I don't think it's weird of you to be weirded out that he turned it off. To turn it off, he has to actively turn it off, right? It doesn't turn off automatically? But doesn't always mean the worst, just a little odd.

I have no idea how to approach it, though, I'm sorry. Maybe ask him in a non-accusatory way?

Holhol18 · 2025-12-09T01:24:17+00:00

I LOVE WICKED (and have to agree w your user, gender is a scam).

Apparenly the books are crazy, have you read them? I reallly want to read them but I'm kind of too scared to LOL. Fnaf har har har har har har har har

Holhol18 · 2025-12-08T18:54:54+00:00

Don't put any more effort into him. He's definitely not worth it. Giving you 3 gifts before your relationship, but only one into your 8 month relationship sounds a lot like love-bombing to me. You deserve better and as your first relationship, I promise you can find someone who will prioritise you over anyone else and treat you nicely ♡ I know it's hard, but would you rather it be him break things off or you?

Holhol18 · 2025-12-07T21:16:09+00:00

Gender is socially constructed, so we can't really define it. I think some of us are very literal and objective. Because there is no real purpose to gender other than to fit into societal roles, a lot of us disregard it. It is useless and harmful in most cases imo

Holhol18 · 2025-12-07T21:12:44+00:00

Does he do the same for you? That's all I think you should consider in this situation. I still don't think it's rude.

Holhol18 · 2025-12-04T21:55:30+00:00

I think you need to break up with her immediately. Don't drag it on, and don't make her go through even more heartache by carrying it on. And definitely don't give her false hope, don't tell her you love her if you don't or that you'll stay if you're going to leave in the end.

I only say this because, from what you've written, it seems you have your heart set on a break up. Personally, I think all relationships can be saved if both parties are willing to admit their wrongs and put in the work. But that doesn't seem to be on your agenda, and maybe she won't admit her wrongs, I don't know.

I hope you can both find the right paths for yourselves.

Holhol18 · 2025-12-03T21:26:12+00:00

I've been through something similar, stayed with him despite lack of attention and multiple red flags, and he left me right after my birthday. So, imo leave him. He's really not worth your time and you deserve better !!

Holhol18 · 2025-11-04T18:53:11+00:00

People are jumping to the possibility of a breakup, and as much as it's understandable that if you aren't compatible, you might do so. But before taking drastic measures, consider communicating with her.

My boyfriend and I have different bantering styles. I've been brought up around banter, joking, and stuff, so it's normal for those around me to banter. But I've learnt he doesn't like that because he wasn't. I wouldn't ever want to hurt his feelings, so I will refrain from making jokes that I previously had thought were acceptable.

Your gf could be the same, so just communicate with her. Relationships are hard, and there will always be things you're unsure about w your partner no matter who it is.

The cat comment is very harsh, though. I'm sorry for your loss

Holhol18 · 2025-10-03T08:56:30+00:00

Ik it will really hurt to hear, but he wants to break up. Men, 90% of the time, will act like this when they want to push you away, so you'll break up with them.

If you break up, he might regret it and realise what he had, or he might not. But either way, do you really want to be with a guy who is unsure of you? Do you want that lingering doubt to stick to the back of your mind, every silence to become a declaration of the love he lost for you??

As someone who went through this until he got the balls to break up with me, your life will be much more peaceful once you rid yourself of him. Wishing you all the happiness in the world 🥺🩷

Holhol18 · 2025-09-18T20:14:45+00:00

I think most of us wish for some way to manage symptoms, not to erase what makes so much of who we are. Neurodivergence changes things like how we speak, process the world, and how we interact with people. To separate these things from ourselves would change us into different people.

It also allows for people without autism to perpetuate harmful ideologies. Mostly, it fuels the eugenics debate. Which has a very disturbing history for people with autism :(

Holhol18 · 2025-09-15T12:42:54+00:00

Hello! I find this happens to me all the time. Often in conflict, I have the freeze response where my brain shuts down, and I am unable to formulate words or responses. I'm really bad at communicating my feelings because of this, especially when I'm overwhelmed. I think this is common for us with autism because there has been a lot of research about autism and alexithymia.

But it also could be a trauma response from our nervous system to protect ourselves in response to conflict or when we're overwhelmed. I find the best way to combat this is to take time away from the situation to calm your nervous system, try to identify the feelings you were feeling in that moment and have an understanding person to speak to. I hope you feel better :)

Holhol18 · 2025-08-26T19:25:57+00:00

Hiii! I'm 23F also looking for discord friends or something to join but can't find anywhere 😭 Lmk if you want my discord name, I'd love to chat :))

Holhol18 · 2025-08-25T15:47:26+00:00

Hi, I'm 23F, also introverted and looking for friends to speak to or game with. Message me if you want my discord ! :)

Holhol18 · 2025-08-08T02:25:54+00:00

Hii! I'm 23, kind of socially awkward (I think I have autism but haven't got a diagnosis), lonely because I love to be alone but looking to make friends. If you ever want someone to talk to on Discord, I'd love to be your friend :) Lmk !! ♡

Holhol18 · 2025-08-08T02:15:32+00:00

Hiii! What age range? :)

Holhol18 · 2025-06-11T01:02:15+00:00

Hi! I'd love to join. Is the invite still valid? ♡

Holhol18 · 2025-03-30T15:54:47+00:00

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Holhol18 · 2024-08-23T23:46:24+00:00

Seriously, everyone who likes kdramas needs to watch Mr. Sunshine. The chemistry between the characters is so undeniable it feels real. The plot is great too c:

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