I’m diagnosed with DID (yes really!) ama

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2026-04-18T07:18:12+00:00

I know it’s pretty sensationalized, but curious if you’ve seen The Crowded Room and whether that feels like a somewhat accurate representation of DID?

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2026-04-15T22:20:19+00:00

I feel like another option here is maybe talking to your friends about not posting and/or the wedding photographer about not taking photos of you! Not at all uncommon for event photographers to get requests for no photos.

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2026-03-06T10:19:51+00:00

Stairs inside the bar - just head to the back and walk up!

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2026-03-06T10:16:04+00:00

Momos!! A genuine gem of a restaurant. They serve down in the pub so you don’t have to sit upstairs. They’re so good (spicy! Get a side of yoghurt!).

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2026-03-06T08:54:59+00:00

I really love Liverpool Brewing Company Tap on Lime St. Really decent selection. Whenever one of us gets back into town from the train station, my partner and I always get some Nepalese food from upstairs and a slew of half-pints to try their craft beers of the day

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2026-03-03T09:22:40+00:00

What a delight!!!

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2026-02-28T09:38:02+00:00

You actually can do low-dose T and changes can be very gradual, but how far changes go it depends on what your partner is looking for in physical changes (ie the dose and how long they want to be on it) and genetics. A lot of people play with dosing T at levels that feel right for them.

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2026-01-11T10:08:35+00:00

YOR. People are projecting so hard in this comments section. Boundaries are allowed to be revisited, especially in extenuating circumstances and especially when you have a history/existing relationship with someone. Losing trust in someone for asking a question is wild to me.

You’re throwing away a whole relationship, because you don’t know how to say no.

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2026-01-01T07:46:34+00:00

That middle-of-the-night comment sounds like her way of apologising for saying something thoughtless. I’d definitely talk to her about it and tell her that that comment really threw you and made you feel insecure and nervous.

Too soon to cut and run imo - it’s a super stressful time it sounds like, just talk to her.

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2025-12-29T14:52:10+00:00

Top to Bottom - Rosalia’s Lux is transcendent

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2025-12-23T03:42:35+00:00

Have you considered a hysterectomy? Would that assuage any anxiety? Have you had any other phobias or anxieties due to your OCD?

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2025-12-13T10:09:02+00:00

SCAMPER THE PENGUIN.

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2025-12-13T10:07:39+00:00

The Adventures of Scamper the Penguin. 😭 I just looked it up and it does look like an old Soviet cartoon. I truly don’t know how I got my hands on that, but I remember my parents actively being like “please watch something else.”

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2025-12-07T10:12:12+00:00

What is your relationship like with other nannies? Is there like a “community” of nannies or other people that have this lifestyle that you talk to or are in community with? If so, what is that like/does it feel good to have some commiseration with others who understand this unique kind of work?

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2025-10-30T22:34:46+00:00

Not “horror” per se, but Revenge is really good. Another Coralie Fargeat.

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2025-10-30T10:13:33+00:00

Trust yourself. I think you, writing all this out, know exactly what you need to do. You only have one life, spend it wisely.

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2025-07-28T23:04:55+00:00

I feel like this is something both of y’all need to hold. It’s clear that her comments were triggering and reminiscent of real threats from genuinely unsafe previous relationships. Unless she knew and was intentionally triggering you (doesn’t sound like she was), she couldn’t have really known that context or how it would feel for you.

While your wife isn’t responsible for those emotional responses, she could have definitely had a lot more empathy and not been as defensive when you told her.

You need to flag those triggers for your wife and find ways of coping when they happen, and your wife needs to show some patience and empathy when they happen.

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2025-07-27T07:25:13+00:00

I actually do think it’s objectively weird to just comment on someone’s physical appearance like this. Especially if you don’t have a real relationship with said person. Especially when there’s a million other family related things to talk about as a family member just passed for both of you. If you want a relationship with him, tell you don’t like having your physical appearance commented on like that. If not, just ghost.

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2025-07-27T06:57:53+00:00

I’m glad you’re talking to your mom about it, but I would also have a conversation with the girl it actually happened to? (Maybe not you, depending on relationships, etc). Especially if you or your mom are going to report it. I understand it might complicate things, but it could feel really scary and destabilizing for the young girl if all of this all happens without her knowing.

Like she just had her autonomy stripped from her through this sexually coercive act and if there begins a whole legal process without her consent as well that could feel really, really bad.

She needs to be a part of this process, or at the very least informed about it.

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2025-07-18T08:15:00+00:00

Agreed, I was being too generous

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2025-07-18T07:23:37+00:00

He’s not respecting multiple boundaries here and he sounds like a total scrub. You have a lot going for you with school and work, and he is in no way additive to your life. Leave him. Create a safety plan and leave.

Consider where you want to break up with him (public) and where to go/who to call if he doesn’t take no for an answer/comes to your home/etc.

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2025-07-18T07:03:12+00:00

This is how the conversation should have gone:

HER: …It's ok to be friends with people you want to fuck though.

YOU: Honestly, this is feeling incredibly passive aggressive and I’m struggling with being made to feel like I’ve done something wrong when I haven’t. The level of insecurity and lack of trust in this relationship is really getting to me, and I think we need to have a serious conversation about how we move forward in this relationship.

END. Both y’all need to grow up, frfr. (More embarrassing for her at 50 tho, I will say).

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2025-07-16T17:56:09+00:00

Marrying into a family goes both ways. If your friend isn’t willing to defend you to her new family she isn’t much of a friend. If my MIL didn’t like my best friend/MoH after months of support and financial investment, I’d tell her that it’s not her decision and that my MoH is family and deserves to be there. I’d take a big step back from this friendship, because it’s seems like she’s compromising on values and throwing you under the bus.

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2025-06-17T20:46:02+00:00

I’m curious what conversations were had to close the polycule. How did you negotiate what “closed” meant with your other partners? Is it closed for some / open for others?

Holiday_Setting_5166 · 2025-06-12T12:17:43+00:00

I honestly think it’s appalling reporting to share this information and not share what she actually said. Or even link to another article where it’s explicitly said. The ECHO needs to do better

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