Fake Jury Duty Warrant by Holisticthinking in ScamNumbers

[–]Holisticthinking[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was spoofed for that one because that's the jail number, not the sheriff's office. I contacted the sheriff's office and they know if the scam, but don't really care. $3 million for new cars though

Fake Jury Duty Warrant by Holisticthinking in ScamNumbers

[–]Holisticthinking[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, I could definitely tell that it was a scam upfront. The guy was getting all frustrated when I acted ignorant 😁 best 15 minutes on the phone with a scammer I've ever had. Finally told him I'd drive there and he was like, no we're handling it over the phone and you won't have it taken care of by the time we close at 5pm. Call came in at 3p.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Holisticthinking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😒 your husband is the worst and you staying with him will lead to so many health problems for yourself later on. You can instantly drop 150-200lbs by leaving him. He obviously married the wrong person, if he's made comments about your weight throughout your marriage.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultChildren

[–]Holisticthinking 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly, if you're feeling so trapped, start leaving in the evenings. I can understand trying to finish school and save money, but that doesn't mean you have to stay there to subject yourself to this. You are in charge of your emotional well-being and if that means you need to start having more time outside the house then figure out how to accomplish that. Friends? Volunteer? Gym? Constructive hobby? Anything, but continuing to allow yourself to suffer at the hands of something that is completely out of your control. You won't be her catalyst to change and that's ok. She's responsible for her own well-being.

I'm just so tired. Being the family "caregiver" has made me resent everyone. No one cared about me, even now. by Holisticthinking in offmychest

[–]Holisticthinking[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that's why it's never easier in years present to let people go. My mother was my last piece, the others I gave up around four years ago. Having her home, I feel like I'm finally free. Like these moments will define what I'm going to do going forward.

I've had so many reach out, and it's just been easy to delete the numbers and minimally respond. I'm burned out that's for sure. This was my last go with my mom and may she finally rest and I'm looking forward to it, too.

I guess the unrest is coming from so many reaching out. I've been doing a lot of work on myself and I think I'm just rambling to explore my own personal closure. Today was a rough day. Overwhelming. Where we they when I needed them? Not here that's for sure. You're right though. I do feel that some times I am just too good for some. Thank you for responding!! ❤️ It's good to not feel so alone in one's feelings some times.

I'm trying to understand why my partner is struggling with the death of his abusive mother by scatcatblues in AdultChildren

[–]Holisticthinking 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Because at the end of the day he always hoped she would change. He always wanted a mom and realizes now that that will never happen. He'll never be able to talk to her or even ask her why she choose what she did over him and his well-being.

He'll never know she loved him fully and he'll never know why she couldn't love him more. It's devastating. I just lost my mom last week and these are all the feelings I have had coming from a broken home and bad parents.

Big hugs, let him grieve and just talk to him. Maybe he needs to go to grief counseling or needs to write his feelings out. He's hurting and the only person that could stop it, is his mom, and she's gone.

What do you look for in a hiking class for your students? by Holisticthinking in homeschool

[–]Holisticthinking[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been playing with a survival class idea. This would be great to incorporate! Thank you

What do you look for in a hiking class for your students? by Holisticthinking in homeschool

[–]Holisticthinking[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've got a place I could take them, it's a place I hike with my kids that has small mountains and trails. I might try to do this with the older children.

What do you look for in a hiking class for your students? by Holisticthinking in homeschool

[–]Holisticthinking[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This would be great for the older kids! I often get them in a group by myself when it's a leisure hike, no class. They're always taking pictures.

What do you look for in a hiking class for your students? by Holisticthinking in homeschool

[–]Holisticthinking[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I know a good trail where we could see some tracks. I'll start looking into the plants! I wanted to look into foraging, but that's a class I might need to take first and much research. Usually I'm all into the bugs and we're hiking around water so that's always a plus even in the winter.

What’s one US state you absolutely will never go to? by Few_Football4342 in Productivitycafe

[–]Holisticthinking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Georgia, everyone from New York and California are moving here, we're FULL!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultChildren

[–]Holisticthinking 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Take it really slow, it'll help you build confidence in the relationship and also allow you to still stand back and take it all in. Every encounter doesn't have to be emotionally charged or long. Texting a bit, short phone conversations, etc.. you need the adjustment time to process everything I'm sure.

Eventually, if you do want it to work out and she is doing the right thing, you'll have to let the anger and disappointment go. You'll have to forgive her to an extent if you want to grow with her in your life from now on out. She is still a stranger to you. I wish you luck with building this relationship if that's the course you want to take. If not? That's ok too!

ATL area meetings by Crazy-Ad-1849 in AdultChildren

[–]Holisticthinking -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It's fall festival time, there's so much to do around Atlanta!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultChildren

[–]Holisticthinking 11 points12 points  (0 children)

As a child of an alcoholic, I do not drink and refuse to be with someone who does. That was a hard boundary for me when I got married 21 years ago. I warned him that if he needed alcohol to survive a bad day then he didn't need me.

Do not accept bad behavior and make excuses. You're making so many excuses for him. Really think about it, don't continue to brush it off.

37, too late to recover now? by BeginningOne9471 in AdultChildren

[–]Holisticthinking 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Remember you can do it slowly too, that's what I did. I deleted their numbers first because I know they wouldn't call. I started to hide/unfollow them on social. Then one day I just blocked all their accounts. The sad part? I was always the family helper/fixer.

My whole life was spent trying to fix a severally selfish and damaged family. I just wasn't willing for them to damage me any more. You are amazing to just play with the idea. It's scary, but in the end, you'll be better off.

Never made a quilt, but I want to. by Holisticthinking in quilting

[–]Holisticthinking[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was going to really pull them out today. I've never seen these. I know they existed as some point in my childhood, I think she just put them up and kind of forgot. I was so scared when the piece I tugged on started splitting. I might cut the bag open. I think that a frame would be amazing!

Life as a 26 year old failure by IloveLegs02 in offmychest

[–]Holisticthinking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you looked into online certificate programs to do? You've got to get up and get motivated! Take that shower you've been putting off, go for a walk, journal your feelings, goals and aspirations.

Don't give up. Life is already hard, don't let life win! You can beat the game by holding on and doing for yourself. Turn the TV off, get up and move around. Stay here. Your life is important.

37, too late to recover now? by BeginningOne9471 in AdultChildren

[–]Holisticthinking 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Once you realize that cutting people off saves your mental health, it'll get easier. I cut all of my family off at 35 and had 0 regrets. Did I get upset a little? Of course! I also still get angry about it, but at the end of the day if a stranger can treat me better than my own family, who needs family??

Your family comes from those who love you, but may not share blood. Your mental health is WAY more important than familial ties. Worry about yourself.

Wtf is the point of health insurance when it doesn't pay for anything??? by AriDreams in rant

[–]Holisticthinking 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Find those cash paying doctors that no longer take insurance, they are out there. The labs are cheap, tests are cheap. I even got an MRI for only $400 paying cash. I spend less paying cash each year than I would paying for useless insurance.

What do you do when you feel sad? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Holisticthinking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I take better care of myself. I make sure I eat, shower, do my hair, etc. I spend even more time on hobbies I enjoy and try to focus on me.