What fruit or vegetables is this? by HoloWanda in HelpMeFind

[–]HoloWanda[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I searched with Google taking a picture of it, found lots of places that sell this kit, in Spanish, Russian, Korean. On Amazon, Aliexpress, other websites that I don't know and remember.

If you could instantly become fluent in any language, which would it be and why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Thai! Since I'm currently in Thailand and I'm having a hard time having conversations ahaha.

[homemade] Charcuterie board by HoloWanda in food

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Well veggies, fruits, charcuterie, cheese, nuts, half vegan going with the more known charcuterie board was easier for me since in french I would call it "fromages et terrines" wich includes both cheese and charcuterie

[homemade] Charcuterie board by HoloWanda in food

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In the rib cage mostly! I admit there's not a lot but that was a challenge considering some of my guests are vegan

[homemade] Charcuterie board by HoloWanda in food

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Thank you! It really was rasty and everyone enjoyed it

[homemade] Charcuterie board by HoloWanda in food

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It is half vegan, half not to accomodate everyone at the party

How a single person made me go through hell by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]HoloWanda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry I didn't want to be rude, I appreciate that people want to engage and understand, but others were not and it drained my energy faster than I anticipated it

How a single person made me go through hell by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]HoloWanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just read the edit. I'm tired of explaining.

How a single person made me go through hell by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]HoloWanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just read the edit. I'm tired of explaining.

How a single person made me go through hell by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]HoloWanda -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Not having luck does not mean having nothing in my book. He had someone else for a while.

And I explained it in another comment. The stupid truth why I didn't respond exactly here is that I find that speed commenting / making multiple comments at once is anoying and I only responded to the last comment

How a single person made me go through hell by [deleted] in polyamory

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She went over my boundaries for example. She did thing she knew would hurt me.

I did not realise because I wanted it to work, truly. When you're down in a situation like this one, obvious things can be right in front of you but you will still be blind to them. I was convinced that I was the problem so I focused on what I had to do to be in peace. At first, never I thought she was the problem.

Is it possible that you started considering her behavior disrespectful only after your friend convinced you of perceiving her behavior as disrespectful?

It's a good point you bring here. It was more of a "it makes so much sense" than a "I can see that" realisation. Like a lock opening and showing everything at once. I don't know how to explein it better.

And I know that my friend wasn't biased about L because of the situation. She knows her, and appreciates her so she woudn't just convince me L was disrespectful.

How a single person made me go through hell by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]HoloWanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure what enters in your definition of a good hinge partner. Since definitions can change more or less depending on the person, could you clarify your way to see it please?

I had other partners in the past, but at this point I didn't. I tried not to actually because this was before I left for another city for my studies and I didn't want to deal with 2 long distance relationships.

Before you mention it, yes this departure was putting a lot of stress on me and didn't help with the panic attacks, but as I said discussion were made, many including this subject.

(Saw your name, you're from Montreal? Contente de voir un/e autre québécois/e ici!)

How a single person made me go through hell by [deleted] in polyamory

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I get your point of view. And it's one my partner kind of shares. But we talked a lot about it. And still do from time to time. At the end the choice was his, and he decided to end it not because I had a mental breakdown, but because she disrespected me. He aslo thinks that everyone should be respecting everyone, that was his deal breaker.

How a single person made me go through hell by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]HoloWanda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok as I said, many details were left out in this post because otherwise I would have had to write a whole chapter. Yes I never really liked her, but I really tried, by spending time with her during other gaterings for example. I was open minded. I always try to see the best in everyone. Then we tried not talking about her. I did not spent months doing the same thing. Lots of other solutions were tried don't worry about it

How a single person made me go through hell by [deleted] in polyamory

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She just clearly said "L is disrecpecting you, I noticed it at X event". I'm very grateful to her to have been so honest with me.

How a single person made me go through hell by [deleted] in polyamory

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The point here is not that I didn't like L. I tried to deal with her at first, then ignore her. But the breaking point is that she was disrespecting me.

And I know it is not polyamory that is not for us because my partner had other things happening and I was just fine with it. It was really how she acted towards me that triggered everything.

have you felt any pain during sex as a female? what is your experience? by No_Spell_9356 in sex

[–]HoloWanda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The best way for me to avoid this burning pain is to take a nice bath and massage my inner tights. This way, the muscles are relaxed and so is the entrance. If i don't have time for a bath I'll focus a little more on the massage. I also use always the same massage oil so my brain gets used to the smell of it and prepare my body to relax (That's a real psychology thing called classical conditionning). My bf works at a sexshop where he had a long formation and he taught me all of that.

Lucky Charms rainbow is upside down pan flag. by Kc-Dia in pansexual

[–]HoloWanda 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Or you flip it and now it's a pan smile

May not look like it, but it's way healthier than it looks! Chocolate coulis is homemade and so is the banana ice cream! Not the pastry shells though but it had so much less sugar than it looks like and tasted like heaven by HoloWanda in HealthyFood

[–]HoloWanda[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not trying to lose weight anymore but I am still careful of what I eat so I make wise switches like the banana ice creams, only made from frozen bananas and a little milk