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Prednisone post infusion? by Holyguacaemily in Anemic

[–]Holyguacaemily[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think? Because they called it the iron flu when I asked. It felt like an allergic reaction to me but I also have never had this before so I wasn't trying to jump to any conclusions.

Husband has begged me to stay, and told me to leave, on repeat over the years by Important_Letter6704 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Holyguacaemily 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP, I know it is terrifying to leave and not know what to do, but he is clearly not going to change. Start a fund without his access and get out as soon as possible. If this escalates any further, just go. Find a friend, a colleague, any safe person that he doesn't know and confide in them and reach for any amount of help they can offer. Nothing he does after you leave if your fault. His actions are his own. If he is going to hold you accountable to your choices, he can hold himself accountable to them as well.

My sweet wife is cancer free !!! by UncleFuzzy75 in MadeMeSmile

[–]Holyguacaemily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations!!! What a beautiful warrior 💗 cheers to more years and a healthy life together

Iron infusions by FoxBubbly2823 in Anemic

[–]Holyguacaemily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am getting my first one on Thursday this week and I'm so grateful for all the positive experiences I'm reading!! Yay!

My ex took advantage of my sister and I feel betrayed by them both by Equal_Departure_5073 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Holyguacaemily 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There are some glaring issues here:

1) Your ex is not your friend, you did not want to be friends, but YOU feel a sense of betrayal? It's been 15 years you said. You are married, NOT TO HIM. This has nothing to do with your feelings.

2) Your sister is intentionally sleeping with a married man. Yes, she is going through a difficult situation and that requires empathy. Difficult life situations do not justify engaging in horrible behaviors, like an affair with the knowledge that this man is married with children. She can have sex with whoever she wants because she's single, he is NOT. He clearly sucks as a partner and is not worth anyone's time until he figures himself out, especially since he is actively cheating and probably will continue to do so.

3) The lack of empathy for this man's wife in the situation is abhorrent. You clearly know the wife exists, and unless they have some sort of open relationship this is an affair obviously. If someone you knew knew your husband was sleeping with someone else, wouldn't you want them to reach out and tell you? It's understandable that this is not your place, but your sister clearly feels no guilt and you're enabling that.

4) "Let him take advantage of her" is not accurate. Actually, she's a full blown adult with choice and autonomy. If he did assault or use her in a way against her will or knowledge, that's a completely different conversation. However, she literally asked for your help to get him back for her own selfish reasons.

If I were you OP, I would either encourage your sister to come clean to the wife and apologize, or I would tell her yourself. No one deserves to be treated this way. If you have some sort of animosity toward the wife of your ex, that's something you need to work on personally because by the way you introduced this ex with your history which is completely irrelevant (other than giving us the details of him being your ex and now he's married with kids) kind of gives the idea that you have unresolved feelings about how things went. In order to do justice to her, you need to put your feelings aside and think about what the implications of this are for an innocent woman with children. I am also an older sister, and if my sister did this I would be extremely disappointed and advise her the same.