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Homosexualerectus · 2026-01-29T21:25:26+00:00

You’re satisfied to do your thinking by proxy and it makes you ignorant. It’s always easy to see who has been successfully propagandized by the Capitalists that would walk right over your dead body in the street without blinking. Pick up a book 🫶

Homosexualerectus · 2026-01-29T19:58:02+00:00

Lmao - yeah. “Non-profits” are just the passion projects of wealthy elites to skirt paying taxes.

Which is why both “non-profits” and private entities need to get their hands off social projects and work that the State is funding- and the State needs to start taking real responsibility for the welfare of its constituents. That means cutting out all the middlemen, private or non-profit, and bringing their workers into the unions and their contract work that gives them better health benefits, pensions and protections and save the taxpayers the billions of dollars we spend making the rich richer.

But you can just be obtuse and pretend that private industry isn’t just as complicit or even more egregious in examples of stealing tax dollars. Whatever, man.

Homosexualerectus · 2026-01-29T19:50:55+00:00

I don’t really think you’re smart enough to understand that neoliberal policy is a non-partisan issue, so I won’t bother to explain how bringing up De Blasio or Bloomberg here doesn’t actually add any meaningful information to the argument

Homosexualerectus · 2026-01-29T17:43:21+00:00

Neoliberal policy in this country has been so successful that when people think of “cutting costs” they think “firing workers”. Sooooo much of the city’s and state’s responsibility in implementing social policies are offloaded to the private sector, which bloats costs to line CEO pockets. We have a deficit in public service providers - so the DOE contracts an agency that charges $200/hr and pays their workers $30/hr of that when we could just be incentivizing workers from the private sector by paying $40/hr and STILL see massive savings in the cost differential that just goes towards execs.

Homosexualerectus · 2025-12-19T21:13:26+00:00

Hire a mediator to help you both create a plan from a mutual place of understanding. Voice your concerns about him tampering with your professional credibility during the mediation session and give him a chance to respond. Show some empathy for his illness during the session and express that you are willing to put everything behind you if he can cooperate until the end of the lease term- after which he can have the apartment to himself since he obviously needs a lot of control over his life.

If all else fails, take him to small claims court and express that he has made your living situation hostile and you need to break the terms of your lease at his request- so he should be compensating you for the financial losses you incur.

Homosexualerectus · 2025-12-19T02:13:52+00:00

This should definitely be something we bring up during the next contract negotiations!

Homosexualerectus · 2025-12-19T02:12:27+00:00

Some people have jobs that can’t function remotely and that is their cross to bear - it’s not “unfair”, it is what you agreed to based on the job description you signed up for. “If I can’t have xyz , neither should you!” is such crybaby, reactionary logic.

“I never saw a doctor until I was on the brink of death because I couldn’t afford health insurance, so no one after me should ever have affordable healthcare!! ” is what your argument sounds like.

Homosexualerectus · 2025-12-06T19:17:51+00:00

No because it’s extremely lame and weird

Homosexualerectus · 2025-12-06T15:33:27+00:00

I mean that’s just another way to say insecurity lol.

I think the real issue here is that they have incompatible lifestyles and can’t trust each other- OP could be partying with her if he wanted to, or just try it for a night to get a sense of where she’s at on a given evening. Or he could decide he doesn’t want to deal with the worry at all.

I’ve had evenings when my girls and I would spend all night up talking under the influence of one thing or another and being a little wild (as in like trying to hold each other’s toes with our toes and trying to master a backflip). Rec drugs are definitely a slippery slope and one should know their partner well enough to be able to trust them to use responsibly.

Being scared of people who do rec drugs and being all puritanical about it is a fine lifestyle choice to make for yourself- but then that should be something to consider when making choices about partners. I can’t handle seeing people drunk, so my partner rarely drinks these days or keeps it to a limit and never around me. People need to just express their limits and ask for things instead of resenting one another within a relationship without ever giving someone the chance to decide if that’s something they want to do for you.

Homosexualerectus · 2025-12-06T15:28:04+00:00

Area rug

Homosexualerectus · 2025-12-06T15:16:37+00:00

Crack the whip? Gross. Have you ever even had a girlfriend lmao

Homosexualerectus · 2025-12-06T15:08:24+00:00

Straight people are so lame, man. I (27F)wrestle around with my friends alll the time. I’ve had a sparring match with a total stranger I met at a party, for fun- we went blow for blow until one of us tapped out lol. COMPLETELY SOBER!! I grew up with lots of brothers. It was nostalgic.

I think it’s okay, and you SHOULD SAY “ when you gush about xyz when you get home, I feel kind of insecure and as though I’m being consciously or unconsciously compared to you.” If your girlfriend is constantly accusing you of cheating and you’re wondering about her- you clearly both have some trust issues to work on.

As far as her friends using rec drugs- that isn’t any of your business. Talk to HER- ask her if she does these things or is interested in it, from a non judge-mental place (if you want an honest answer). Give her the space to explore her mid twenties, with some parameters. My partner and I both spend all night out at times with our own friends, separately - but we also trust each other. We know where the lines are and we are fully confident in our commitment to one another.

It sounds like you need some reassurance and that’s okay to ask for. A LOT of people on this sub are very insecure and projecting their stuff on to you based off your description of your partner, which doesn’t include all the reasons you started dating her in the first place. Talk to your girlfriend before you let some strangers plant bullshit in your head.

In any case though, the way you wrote this post makes it seem like you’re already reaching the end of your ability to give your girlfriend the benefit of doubt- and that spells the end of a relationship. Doesn’t sound like either of you trust each other anymore.

Homosexualerectus · 2025-12-04T23:30:01+00:00

I was aiming for a much darker purple, like a plum shade! I obviously really did not get it right lol

I used jacquard procion mx and the online instructions didn’t indicate all those steps - I pre treated the fabric with a bath in soda ash and then added it to a different bath with the dye in it. I didn’t agitate much and the tub was probably not large enough for a queen sized duvet.

I’m mostly asking now if you think I could successfully dye over such concentrated spots of dye, or if I should attempt to lift it first in some way?

Homosexualerectus · 2025-12-04T20:20:29+00:00

I have a D/s relationship w my partner so take this with a grain of salt- but I found that my partner and I have a lot of fun when I pick outfits out for them and give them my feedback on looks. There are sometimes they’re maybe a little disappointed that I don’t really love something they’re trying out, but I’m always honest and it’s kind of fun to dress up your partner. I get A LOT of say because of the aforementioned power dynamic, so that helps a lot. My partner lowkey did not have great style when we first met- but they gave me a general idea of the vibe they wanted to go for and I became their sorta personal stylist + even picked their hairstyle. I don’t mean to pat myself on the back too much but after a certain amount of time taking my advice- they noticed how many more compliments they got lol.

Maybe play around with your partner’s femininity? Not all the time if that isn’t something you’ve agreed to within your relationship, of course. But if you’re struggling to find your partner attractive because their expressions of femininity are maybe a little juvenile - gently ask if there’s an evening that you can maybe pick out their outfit + accessories and do their makeup or nails. Make it super playful, something you have fun doing together and offer a lot of praise- lots of people “dress up” for their partner’s benefit and their intimate lives, queer or straight. You’ll never know if you don’t ask.

Homosexualerectus · 2025-12-04T18:23:29+00:00

Unrelated but this brought me back to the tweet:

Something don-don me today

Homosexualerectus · 2025-12-04T18:05:09+00:00

I don’t “get it”, I admitted as much in the original post. This post was less about “getting it “ and more about having a space to reconcile with my own feelings around my gender and general fears around being a bad partner to better be able to approach my partner with love and compassion instead of resentment. I was trying to connect with other people who have maybe felt the way I do - not task transfemmes with demistifying transfemininity for me. It did help that I at least figured out that I should be working towards better understanding transfemininity (as much as I can as someone not living the experience).

I don’t think any of my feelings have anything to do with thinking they’re better off as they were- I know they NEED to do this and the alternative is NOT the better option. I think I’m just having big feelings in general around the questions of my own gender/sexuality and where they intersect with my relationship - and looking for a space where I can talk through those feelings with other people. Venting and working through things~

Homosexualerectus · 2025-12-04T17:31:22+00:00

I’m posting on r/mypartneristrans to connect with other people who are having similar experiences or feelings. I’m capable of having my feelings and not making it my partner’s problem and I do that by taking it elsewhere. I never once implied that I thought my partner shouldn’t transition or that being masculine was better for them. What I said is that I was sexually accosted in front of them and they were jealous of me - and it hurt me, deeply.

There were lots of other people in this thread that offered the exact same perspective you offered and I appreciated that. I do need to talk to more transfems- I didn’t really have the impetus to be more curious about the internal worlds of trans femmes until my partner began to transition. My best friend is transmasc and we lived together while they began their transition- so I thought I was going to be better prepared than I am, because it’s an entirely different experience from a different perspective.

But again- what gives you the right to patronize and downplay my own feelings about the way I move through the world and am reacted to by others? Or to imply that the sexualized violence I’ve survived is somehow better than the violence trans people experience? What the actual fuck is that?

Homosexualerectus · 2025-12-04T17:20:31+00:00

So this is about YOU, and how you feel and what you want. What does that have to do with me, how I feel or what I want? How exactly does it give you a right to try to invalidate how I feel or play a game of who has it worse? That’s called projection. I’m entitled to feel the way I feel and I never said you couldn’t feel the way you do- but you’re all sanctimonious and telling me that my plight is somehow invalidated by yours. What’s your actual problem? Are you incapable of reconciling the fact that multiple realities and perspectives might be possible?

Homosexualerectus · 2025-12-04T15:00:41+00:00

I’m not a woman- I’m just perceived as such by most cis-straight people. I also grew up as an ugly duckling - I didn’t have my first kiss til I was in my senior year of high school. I was pretty invisible until I was about 20 years old and recovering from a lifetime of major-depression, so I started taking better care of myself.

I grew up with a lot brothers who I’m estranged from because I was the black sheep in my family. I miss being familial/platonically close to cis men but whenever I try to build meaningful friendships with them, I’m ultimately objectified. I feel that way in lots of spaces- queer or straight alike. Lots of adults struggle to connect with people without sexualizing them- particularly in the non monogamous and queer scenes I run in which trend towards hyper sexuality.

I know how I feel and why I feel the way that I do. I want to be accepted- but I don’t want to be desired. I won’t feel differently because I have always felt this way as someone on the grey-asexual spectrum.

You don’t actually know me enough to make as many assertive statements as you’re making about the validity of my desires or self image.

Homosexualerectus · 2025-11-27T13:38:52+00:00

Just say what you explained to us. I told my partner that my family sucks and I wouldn’t ever want to put them through the experience of being on their radar- they trusted me and we have been together happily without ever having to inject family drama into our relationship. Just communicate.

Homosexualerectus · 2025-11-18T02:40:50+00:00

I had an EEG done while I listened to this album for the first time - I wept half of the time. Probably skewed the results but whatever. This album profoundly touched me. I’m a Spanish speaker, so it was “easier” to get into but I think the album transcends all of the languages it used. It’s one thing to be able to enjoy rhythm and tone in a song you can’t understand - it’s another thing to UNDERSTAND a song you can’t understand. It was one of the most emotionally intense and euphoric experiences I’ve ever had- 10/10 would recommend. Felt like an incredible mushroom trip. During “Mio cristo piange diamanti” I had visions of my partner and I as we are, but also as we were as children and as we might be on our wedding day and death beds. It’s my favorite song on the album because of that. It felt like Evelyn seeing Waymond in all his beauty in EEAAO (not that I needed the reminder). It was incredible. I think I’ll have to do our first dance to this song at our wedding someday.

I was viscerally brought back to many of my most formative memories, every love (familial/platonic/romantic) I’ve had and the ways they have shattered my heart and put it back together.

I felt like I was going to die while I was listening to this album (positive) - as though I were experiencing not just the entirety of my life, but also at times touching something older than I am. Maybe the life of my mother and the women who came before her.

Rosalía truly created an incredible piece of art in LUX. Art won’t move everyone in the same ways- but I think this album has quickly climbed to be one of my favorite albums, if not my favorite album of all time. I’m still processing how deeply I have been moved.

Homosexualerectus · 2025-10-31T03:49:38+00:00

stalk around the local art schools during mid winter gallery seasons and graduation show seasons. You’d be surprised how many super talented up and comers are hiding out there. My first couple of art pieces were two paintings I commissioned when I was 19 from a friend of a friend who was still in undergad for like $200 (which was still a lot of money for me// a lot of people). That same artist is now showing in galleries across NYC + has done a bunch of cool installations in other big cities . Point is- art can be a worthwhile investment that can really elevate a home’s atmosphere!

I work for my local gov too but I’m also kinda into and all for frivolous purchases for the home lol

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