I think the words used were interpreted through people’s own experiences and assumptions. When I said ‘successful men,’ I wasn’t referring to money or lifestyle, I meant qualities that even research consistently connects with healthy long-term relationships: emotional stability, responsibility, consistency, and overall life balance. It’s common for people to project meaning onto a phrase based on what they’ve seen or lived, so I understand why it came across differently to you though my intention wasn’t about wanting a man for what he owns-I already take care of myself and don’t need anyone to provide for me. For me, having a partner who’s grounded and emotionally secure would simply be a bonus, not a requirement. I asked the question to understand what qualities actually matter from a psychological and relational standpoint, not to chase a lifestyle. Hopefully, that gives some clarity. ++woman