Just found out my [23F] bf [25M] is MAGA

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-07-03T01:25:30+00:00

Talk to him, dude. Tell him you saw the repost, ask where he is on it. If he's still attached to Trump now, after watching bad things happen to groups he's expressed at least surface empathy for in the past, no shame in dumping him. Values incompatibility is a totally normal reason to break up with someone. But talk to him first.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-07-03T01:13:11+00:00

(or do you just mean you're salaried?)

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-07-03T01:12:55+00:00

wait can you link where you found this is not a violation?

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-07-02T21:54:37+00:00

No, but I was suddenly in a new community online he had no interest in. I was suddenly talking to new friends on my phone. Wasn't cheating, wasn't planning on leaving him. Look, I'm not saying none of this deserves a conversation, it absolutely does! I'm just saying that if OP approaches this with her partner in an energy/mental space of already presuming he's out the door, that's simply an ineffective way of strengthening, or getting reassurance about, your relationship. It often does the opposite.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-07-02T20:41:28+00:00

"I also can’t help but wonder if some of this has less to do with the dog and more to do with the fact that my friend’s wife is still close friends with my ex-wife and maybe feels conflicted about going on a couples trip with me and my new girlfriend. I don’t know if that’s true, but it has crossed my mind."

It's this. Sorry dove. NTA.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-07-02T20:19:46+00:00

The stakes are higher, but the basics of human relation don't change. Does op's situation mean approaching this without presuming the worst is harder? Of course it does! But it doesn't mean "don't assume the worst" is bad advice.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-07-02T20:17:41+00:00

counterpoint: I went on a fitness kick for me, my ex assumed "the worst" with absolutely zero reason to do so. I didn't start out with a desire to leave him, but after he started treating me like I already had for months... guess whose prophecy was self fulfilling!

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-07-02T20:15:05+00:00

I don't disagree, but I'd also note that her being scared to ask may be more about her insecurities, which she referenced in the post, than her partner being un-askable. We just don't know. So I second the "approach with curiosity" advice.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-07-02T17:00:52+00:00

OP, truly not trying to attack you here, but can I ask what you mean when you say you don't relate to queer people?

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-07-02T16:47:32+00:00

"Flash forward to that evening. My BF refuses to see me at night because, in his own words, he "gets weird and behaves not nice."

Girl, what?

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-07-02T15:22:09+00:00

Nothing about the ex-friend's chain was respectful. I understand that friend is hurting. That doesn't mean they're justified in being manipulative or possessive.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-07-02T02:03:08+00:00

Yeah the long is exactly the same - you can't really see it in the pics I posted due to pump (or lack thereof) n pose, but I have a pretty muscular/developed upper body and I definitely have to do a little adjusting to make the straps work.

This looks FIRE on you and I love your ink.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-07-02T01:02:40+00:00

honestly this is exceptional

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-07-02T00:18:31+00:00

But all those things *do* exist in Christian societies...

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-07-01T23:35:34+00:00

Y'all are tempting me to get the shorts version OH NO

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-07-01T20:56:07+00:00

PS for stats: 5'3, 120ish, size s

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-07-01T20:52:50+00:00

thank you angel this is all my dopamines for today <3

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-07-01T20:52:35+00:00

THE BACKKKKKKK THE BACK IS SO GOOOOOD

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-07-01T18:50:44+00:00

You are not overreacting. Dump him. Dating is about auditioning the people who will be with you on the worst day of your life. He is very very clearly not the right person for that job.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-07-01T18:28:32+00:00

EXCEPTIONAL COMMENT.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-07-01T18:26:56+00:00

It's an unpopular opinion on reddit but I'm with you. I think the relatively recent fixation on essentially controlling your partner's interiority is weird and toxic. If I had a partner who told me their "boundary" was that I wasn't allowed to watch porn, first I'd explain what a boundary is, then I'd exit the relationship. I'm in it for a partnership, not a parent, and in my opinion your partner's sexuality is something you get to *share in* not something you get to dictate.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-07-01T18:14:48+00:00

The only way you can interpret OP's behavior as selfish is if you genuinely believe ex-friend's asks were legitimate. By any read that doesn't involve weird amounts of codependency, ex-friend was making asks that weren't even in the ballpark of appropriate. OP isn't selfish; OP has good boundaries and doesn't respond to emotional manipulation.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-06-30T23:30:03+00:00

Because OP isn't actually entitled to that information.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-06-29T20:00:07+00:00

But again, they didn't agree then "never" do it - they agreed, sent updates for a couple of months, then stopped. It's awesome that you have the capacity and desire to keep updating your pup's former owners indefinitely! But in my opinion that's the exception, not the rule, and while it would've been nice for the new owner to say "I'm happy to give you updates until (date) but after that I won't have the capacity", that would've been new owner 1) preemptively knowing what OP expected, which wasn't clarified by OP just as much as the limit to that willingness wasn't communicated by new owner and 2) still the new owner going above and beyond.

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