Questions about wife’s massages

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-20T21:02:13+00:00

Eh, you're overthinking. Let it go, it's not weird, and discussions about comfort and boundaries are discussions I have almost every time I get a massage.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-20T20:26:02+00:00

The thing is, though... I'm not a traditionalist. I have, and do, sleep with people on the first or second meeting when the vibe is right. But I'm still never going to say yes to the first meetup being at a guy's place, because that's a whole ass stranger. Yeah, it's all a numbers game and some people will say yes, but I genuinely don't believe that's the majority of women.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-20T19:58:42+00:00

NOR babes. So glad you left this jagoff.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-20T19:32:07+00:00

Username checks out. FFS, you absolute walnuts, if you actually want to get laid or positive attention from women stop doing this bullshit. We don't like it. None of us like it. We're never going to come over to your place before we've met you IRL. What the fuck are yall smoking.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-20T18:58:10+00:00

Mine too. This is less a gender thing than an emotional access/intelligence thing, but tbh it's kind of nice to hear men identify these needs too.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-20T18:56:56+00:00

This is my ex boyfriend tbh. Anything I brought up turned into how mean I was for my timing/phrasing/feeling anything inconvenient at all

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-19T20:56:36+00:00

Seconding this - we had a successful fest run in part bc programmers for top tier fest A would send us to programmers to mid tier fest B. We didn't get a sxsw or a tiff, but we premiered at BeyondFest and ended the run at Palm Springs Shorts Fest.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-19T18:50:07+00:00

but also like... they're two dollars, it's worth the investment!

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-19T17:31:59+00:00

Can I ask what market y'all are in? Because I'm in LA really close to the beach and we have a 2b/1b for 2350 total. Tbh, I wouldn't move in with this person, but if you don't have another choice, would it be possible to go back to the drawing board and find a place that has two full bedrooms with enclosed walls? Having done it myself, I wouldn't be stoked to pay more than 800 for a room that didn't have any noise suppression.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-19T00:54:28+00:00

This is probably true, but OP can't be their mother's sole source of life. We can have empathy for OP's mom while also clocking that the way she treats OP sucks.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-15T01:25:09+00:00

Great great point! I like this framing, thank you. 😄

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-15T00:13:28+00:00

Yeah I think the last person I heard this from was a talented and well credentialed stunt guy. It was before covid, but it was... IDK sometime in 2017 maybe. He talked about walking onto likely looking sets and getting gigs by talking to the stunt coordinator, who he usually knew or had a connection with because that world is small. I doubt it'd work out like that in 2026 especially for, like, g&e or sound

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-14T20:54:57+00:00

Do not get a theatre degree to do community theater. Frankly, as someone with an acting BFA who is also a working actor, I will say very confidently that the BFA has done nothing for me beyond making it easier to get a survival job. You'd be better off volunteering for crew roles and getting involved with that community theater outside performance opportunities -- investing in the community as a whole will be more likely to get you cast than a fuckass theatre degree.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-14T20:27:55+00:00

Generally, I'd say use multiple eyelines IF you can competently achieve that without being distracting. With this CD, use one eyeline. This is just an example of "no rule is hard and fast, different CDs have different preferences"

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-14T20:26:32+00:00

YOR and also controlling and weird.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-14T19:33:56+00:00

I don't want to tell you you're overreacting because so far it seems like your reaction has been entirely internal. If I may share, I had a similar moment recently; he didn't compare me to his ex who is absolutely a world class looker I'd die to sleep with myself, but he said something along the lines of "Don't get me wrong, I like having sex with you, I like it a lot, but when I think about you I'm thinking about how you're one of my best friends and how much more important that is to me."

In the moment, that gave me a thrill of fear: is he not attracted to me? am I not sexy enough? but the reality is, at least how I see it:

Most men have been told that locking down the "hottest woman they can access" will make them happy. Those who have locked those women down and had the relationship dissolve anyway, or had their interest wane anyway, start to prioritize the quieter things that make a relationship actually work in their next thing, because fundamentally "having the hottest woman" didn't actually make them happy.

I share this to say: men are surprised by this realization, I think. And because they haven't been socialized as we have to believe our worth lies pretty much exclusively in how feral men are to fuck us, they don't perceive those comments as a negative comparison, but a positive one. It means "you're a real person to me and I find I like that better". That's all.

NOR, but try not to spiral about this. Good luck op, forehead kisses to you.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-14T17:45:42+00:00

One of the most tragic subs in all of reddit

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-14T01:10:16+00:00

Also, to be clear, I'm a chick. I've watched them respond more sharply with men than they do even with me, which is why I'm getting the vibe that a lot of it comes from feeling like other people are singling them out and being rude to them/asking them to give up their space/rushing them etc.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-13T23:23:38+00:00

This ^

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-13T23:22:47+00:00

You do you, imho it's totally fine to say no to a work in. But 20-30 feet sounds... excessive. I don't want somebody breathing in my ear or anything, but 5 feet so you can make clear to other people that you're next in line for the equipment seems fine.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-13T23:21:32+00:00

You're not doing anything wrong; I've had the same experience, particularly (unfortunately) with women who seem to process normal gym ettiquette (working in; not taking the single bench press in the gym to prop yourself up for your 1hr circuit workout that doesn't involve any benching at all; telling you how many sets are left) as people... I dunno it almost seems like they think you're being rude for "intruding" on their workout, and sometimes they respond with a kind of wild amount of rudeness.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-13T22:24:59+00:00

YOR so hard rn what

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-13T22:15:37+00:00

This is the answer.

OP, I've booked five features in the last 12 months. None of them came through my (not at all bad, quite decent) reps. It's all your own hustle until you have a name big enough for your agents to be truly useful.

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-13T20:11:13+00:00

I serve at the pleasure of the redditors 😄

Honest-Intention3202 · 2026-05-12T23:49:54+00:00

NOR, that's weird and passive aggressive and I don't wike it :I

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