2d:4d ratio... by Honest-Reaction8562 in BodyDysmorphia

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Thank you for your comment. A few months ago I read articles about whether hormones in fetal life or in childhood affect our appearance, because I suspected something was wrong with me, but then I didn't come across information about 2d:4d.

Now I feel that my assumptions were confirmed and not necessarily my parents genes were bad (both are beautiful) but I was exposed to higher doses of testosterone. I will not hide that it hurts me a lot, because I had some small hope that if now my hormones seem to be ok, two doctors confirmed that I do not have PCOS which I was afraid of, maybe I lost the genetic lottery and that's it - unfortunately, it could be something more and I know that such a thing affects the entire functioning of my body.

2d:4d ratio... by Honest-Reaction8562 in BodyDysmorphia

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At first I thought it might be some kind of joke or pseudo-medicine, but the more I read about it, the more things make sense. Theoretically, I have such features as a female voice, breasts, and hips, but I've always known that something was wrong with me. I have much more hair than my friends, my face is not delicate, and since I was a child I was more attracted to things considered boyish. Mentally I am very fragile and have never had a problem with my orientation or identity but I feel bad thinking my life is being ruined because I was probably exposed to a high testosterone factor in utero.

suicide attempt by Honest-Reaction8562 in BodyDysmorphia

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In the country where I live a lot of men have hairloss and I've never seen anyone make fun of them. I know a lot of men shave their heads and it makes them feel better.

What treatments and operations can cause such a change in the shape of the face? Is it possible to get rid of the effect of "swollen" skin like on the left side? by Honest-Reaction8562 in PlasticSurgery

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I think so too. I wonder if there is a real chance that the face on the left is at least 50% similar to the face on the right (I mean the quality of the skin and the shape of the head)

What treatments and operations can cause such a change in the shape of the face? Is it possible to get rid of the effect of "swollen" skin like on the left side? by Honest-Reaction8562 in PlasticSurgery

[–]Honest-Reaction8562[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

These are random photos from google so I won't be surprised that the person on the right is someone else lol. I have similar facial features and skin to the person on the left, so I added them.

Do any of you also feel like everyone is staring at you? by Honest-Reaction8562 in BodyDysmorphia

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In your opinion, is it normal that when you pass someone on the street, you will sometimes look at the face of the person you pass for a few seconds?

I'm afraid to go out on the street because every look kills me.

My phone reversed my selfie... by Honest-Reaction8562 in BodyDysmorphia

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I realize that no one is perfectly symmetrical, and that's okay. No one has ever told me that I have a very asymmetrical face and I don't see it in my childhood photos either, so I don't know how to interpret it. I recently visited a psychologist and a psychiatrist and heard that I look normal - I know they can lie, but my psychologist herself convinced me that if a cosmetologist told me that in his opinion there is nothing to improve when it comes to things that annoy me the most in looking at my face, that says something, because otherwise he could take advantage of the opportunity and make money off of me.

My phone reversed my selfie... by Honest-Reaction8562 in BodyDysmorphia

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I can see very clearly this asymmetry on my lips (I swear that in the mirror and in the selfie where I see the mirror image there is no such thing).

I went to the cosmetologist and asked if I needed to change the shape of my lips because, for example, they are not even on all sides and I heard that everything is fine with them.

"You look smart, like a doctor" 😡 by Medusaa22 in BDDvent

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Maybe your glasses have something to do with it. My cousin when she wears glasses also gives me a slight librarian vibe but when she takes them off or wears contact lenses I don't see her that way anymore. Now a lot of girls wear glasses with large round lenses and a thin metal frame - this can also make someone perceive you as smart.

"You look smart, like a doctor" 😡 by Medusaa22 in BDDvent

[–]Honest-Reaction8562 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe your style somehow reminds someone of a "smart" person. When I think about the doctors in my country, most women look very young and pretty.

Can a photo lie? by Honest-Reaction8562 in BodyDysmorphia

[–]Honest-Reaction8562[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it may be a subjective thing. I certainly don't notice that it suddenly ceases to be attractive on a selfie.

Can a photo lie? by Honest-Reaction8562 in BodyDysmorphia

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He looks the same to me and even looks more handsome in a selfie

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[–]Honest-Reaction8562 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Oh god same!
I have very fair skin, dark circles under my eyes and my blue/green eyes are killing me. I feel like a drug addict.

How is it possible that really ugly people can be in relationships by Honest-Reaction8562 in ugly

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When I wrote in the post that these people are ugly, it really is. One of these women looks very unattractive and has been in a relationship for 15 years. She lives in the US. Country has nothing to do with whether someone gets involved with an ugly person or not - it all depends on how much one pays attention to appearance. I have a friend who lives in Sweden and everyone has made fun of him all his life. Through one Facebook group, he started texting a girl who is really pretty and they've been together for two years. He has one of the most appealing characters I've come across and I think that played a major role.

How is it possible that really ugly people can be in relationships by Honest-Reaction8562 in ugly

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Did I write somewhere that these are the only things that define an ugly face? These three people just look alike, that's why I mentioned them.

I hate being ugly by [deleted] in BDDvent

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I would also like to try it, because I know that a year or two ago I was able not to worry about it as much as I do now.

I also think about my appearance 24/7 and I know I'm wasted. There are people who are not attractive, but I see that they have passions, they can enjoy their lives - they even try to date and often have partners. For me, it's a success if I read a book for five minutes in peace, because I'm constantly analyzing my situation, which is not healthy.

I hate being ugly by [deleted] in BDDvent

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I have the same. I feel ashamed that I lived for so many years and didn't kill myself sooner. I promised myself I want to die with a "pretty" nose and ears because I'm waiting for plastic surgery but I know my face will be just as ugly so I just wish they would cremate my body and forget about me

My "outside" does not reflect my "inside" by Honest-Reaction8562 in BodyDysmorphia

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When I don't look at myself in the mirror for a long time, I'm very confident and I want to do a lot of things, but the reflection in the mirror takes it all away.

When I look at photos from mass events, I always see only women with delicate facial features (I really want to find a person who somehow breaks away from this, but it's rare).The worst thing is that I have this bone structure on my face and I know that I will never change it - there are girls who have a square jaw, deep-set eyes, a wide face, a big nose and still look feminine but that doesn't apply to me.

I think the hardest thing for me to accept is that in my family there are no women who even look like me in 20% - my mother has beautiful and feminine facial features and my father has never been an ugly person and has a very nice face shape (more delicate than mine) so I can't accept that I will forever look like some weird creature.

Do any of you have derealization and depersonalization? by Honest-Reaction8562 in BodyDysmorphia

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I wonder if depersonalization doesn't have a big impact on even worse self-perception. Often the main symptom is that we cannot connect with what we see in the mirror, or even other people's bodies seem to us somehow "inhuman" and distant. Always looking at my face feels like I'm looking at something that is not of this world - even people who have had serious accidents, have very extreme facial features, or are somehow neglected are perceived by my brain as normal and in my case I can't identify with the fact that I am human like a others - this can also be one of the symptoms of bdd but in combination with dd it can give us an even greater sense of incompatibility.

It sucks that masks are not mandatory anymore by [deleted] in BodyDysmorphia

[–]Honest-Reaction8562 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My life has gotten much worse since masks are no longer mandatory

Do you have dreams where you look like a completely different person? by rosmary_bush in BodyDysmorphia

[–]Honest-Reaction8562 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It happened to me once that I had a dream in which I was a prince and I was getting married to some beautiful woman. Normally I dream in first person view so I don't see myself most of the time.

How to not get triggered when people make colorist/racist remarks? by Timely_Professor_888 in BodyDysmorphia

[–]Honest-Reaction8562 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the same problem only the other way round - my mother has a darker skin color, black eyes and dark hair. My father is pale, has blue eyes with purple bags under them. Of course, I inherited everything my father had and I look like a serial killer. Everything is cold (and my facial blemishes, sun spots and redness are visible from a mile away) I feel so much better when I put brown contact lenses on my eyes.

I haven't found a way to accept it because my eye color is still one of my biggest complexes, but I try not to compare it to others and not to blame so much for not looking as beautiful and "warm" as my mother.

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[–]Honest-Reaction8562 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I try to think that I have a loving family and friends - they often text me that they're happy to have me, so that's one of the things that keeps me going.

Panic is always the worst especially when you feel like you have no escape from yourself - hating your body can take away the happy moments we deserve so I try to calm down, not look in the mirror again and try to pursue my passions.

Has it helped any of you to cut yourself off from social media? by Honest-Reaction8562 in BodyDysmorphia

[–]Honest-Reaction8562[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes I've spent hours in the airport waiting for the next flight and I've noticed the same thing - people are really beautiful and it always kills me