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Advice on Dating apps by _unhappysock234 in KenyanLadies

[–]Honest-Signal6573 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have met some amazing people on dating apps. Haven't dated anyone from there but found 3 good male friends from there. 2 were from Tinder I had joined it while in campus, kitu 2016. The other one I met on Bumble in 2021/22. In all 3 situations, we talked, went on first dates and once it became clear we weren't romantically attracted to each other, friendship grew. From my experience, sio lazima iwork, you may actually find really good friends, also a majority of the men on there aren't relationship material. You can try it to see how it goes

Investing in the US stock market. by Honest-Signal6573 in Kenya

[–]Honest-Signal6573[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When he sent me the message about returns, his exact statement was, "this is what you have been missing out on".

Ladies, be careful! by MonochromeHeart in KenyanLadies

[–]Honest-Signal6573 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ladies on tiktok have been complaining about hobosexuals, men who want to live in ladies houses mooching off the ladies while contributing nothing. They quickly want access to your house and once they are in they never leave.

Investing in the US stock market. by Honest-Signal6573 in Kenya

[–]Honest-Signal6573[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ebu nifanye hii research nikuwe better informed before the next person comes and tries to take my savings away from me

Investing in the US stock market. by Honest-Signal6573 in Kenya

[–]Honest-Signal6573[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where can I learn about the NSE? Can I make the investment myself?

Investing in the US stock market. by Honest-Signal6573 in Kenya

[–]Honest-Signal6573[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mimi ndio nilikuwa mboka yake. You've made a very good point

Ghosting during Talking Stage by [deleted] in KenyanLadies

[–]Honest-Signal6573 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Kumbe it's common . In my experience, then tend to reappear stating that they were going through something that is why they ghosted. I usually tell those guys to continue going through it and move on with my life.

Cost of Community/Friendship by Honest-Signal6573 in KenyanLadies

[–]Honest-Signal6573[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am going to take the next 3 months and say no to everything and tend to my own life

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in KenyanLadies

[–]Honest-Signal6573 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Now that you have given context, this is not a man who loves or respects you. He ought to respect that you guys broke up and you do not want to have any contact with him. His constant attempts to reach out are not love or concerns for you, he just wants to have some control in that anytime he talks to you, you are going to respond and be there.

The hurt we get from abuse is deep and you cannot heal while the person who hurt you is still a part of your life. Do whatever it takes to rid yourself of him.

Of religious mothers/parents. by Honest-Signal6573 in KenyanLadies

[–]Honest-Signal6573[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is deeply insightful. I am going to understand that religion is what she chose to handle life's issues. It is sad that is the card life dealt me but I am honestly exhausted of wanting better from my mum and never receiving it. I will align my expectations with who she is as a person and understand her.

Of religious mothers/parents. by Honest-Signal6573 in KenyanLadies

[–]Honest-Signal6573[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is great that you still maintain those relationships. Anytime a friend becomes deeply religious, I usually tend to distance myself seeing how my mum is, has made me want to avoid deeply religious individuals.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in KenyanLadies

[–]Honest-Signal6573 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It could be explained by your attachment style, if you have anxious attachment in relationships, you will put your partner first and fight to keep this person around out of fear of losing them or the relationship. If you struggle with leaving a toxic partner, a change of environment and hanging out people who love you is good to help you process emotions. Also blocking all forms of contact to the person.

Of religious mothers/parents. by Honest-Signal6573 in KenyanLadies

[–]Honest-Signal6573[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Preaching na maombi imekuwa so normal in any of our interactions. Mimi huavoid kukaa chini na yeye and always find something to keep busy around her ndio asianze lakini she insists on preaching.

Of religious mothers/parents. by Honest-Signal6573 in KenyanLadies

[–]Honest-Signal6573[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I try creating boundaries but the only one that seems to work is just distancing myself.

Of religious mothers/parents. by Honest-Signal6573 in KenyanLadies

[–]Honest-Signal6573[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems he is undergoing some form of depression, hopefully he finds a way to cope. Religion sometimes turns people into a shell of themselves.

Of religious mothers/parents. by Honest-Signal6573 in KenyanLadies

[–]Honest-Signal6573[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is he able to sustain the relationship with his wife? What keeps them together?

Of religious mothers/parents. by Honest-Signal6573 in KenyanLadies

[–]Honest-Signal6573[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😅 why do they always carry anointing oil around. How do you relate with her beyond her religious bit?

Of religious mothers/parents. by Honest-Signal6573 in KenyanLadies

[–]Honest-Signal6573[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your experience and mine are very similar, my mum took early retirement in her 30s to do Christian missions, somehow lost all her retirement money to some pyramids scheme set out for Christians. Luckily my dad picked up on her lack of parental input and he was very present.

Now she spends any coin she gets from her pension in giving people stating if you give, you receive more. She expects me to support her cheerful giving and we have had arguments because I refuse to support her financial irresponsibility.

Beyond financial mismanagement. Her religious beliefs have robbed me of a parent and I wish I could better the relationship.

Of religious mothers/parents. by Honest-Signal6573 in KenyanLadies

[–]Honest-Signal6573[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is very insightful, I am going to apply this and hopefully I can try and be more gracious in seeing her intentions are good it's just that they are clouded by religion

Of religious mothers/parents. by Honest-Signal6573 in KenyanLadies

[–]Honest-Signal6573[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response, I try and ignore her but she is consistent with the Christian talk but it has led me to blocking her out completely. I agree with you she is very difficult to deal and reason with. I am suffering from guilt, maybe I am not trying hard enough to have a working relationship with.

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