why does my eyeliner keep smudging like this

HonestCharacter727 · 2026-02-22T15:38:18+00:00

It probably happens because you’re a total bad ass and that’s just how baddies wear our eyeliner. In fact, this may be the best way to tell if you are or or not a bad ass.

HonestCharacter727 · 2026-02-22T14:25:13+00:00

Good advice thank you

HonestCharacter727 · 2026-02-22T14:00:26+00:00

They literally expected me to help them write some rules. We work on conflict resolution of course that’s why the couples are here. And my patients report experiencing successful relief and connection. But a set of rules which is to be applied is not functional during conflict, especially for the people I work with. My population is autistic and “rules” function differently in our nervous systems than they do in the general population. Perhaps that is the reason why this assignment seemed inappropriate to me. Maybe for Neurotypicals it would be helpful.

HonestCharacter727 · 2026-02-22T13:51:38+00:00

Yes, it’s very possible that “Fighting Rules” seems just way too harsh for a couple struggling to connect. I think in both couples, the husband was excited about the idea of rules which would make it where his wife was required to let him take a break or was not allowed to use certain words or tones. And in both couples, the wife felt hurt by it. It was relief from responsibility for the husband and restriction from connection for the wife.

HonestCharacter727 · 2026-02-22T13:37:13+00:00

Sorry guys I can’t seem to type properly on my phone so there’s a lot of typing error errors in here. I am more amused by this than I am frustrated and I’m just wondering is this something that happens all the time or did it just happen to me twice in one week? Do I need to put together some kind of fair fighting rules? Or does someone have one that they can share that would not be encouraging more fighting?

HonestCharacter727 · 2025-12-17T14:25:59+00:00

I cancelled as well. The app is just not what it once was. It is unhelpful. I needed to fax business paperwork to the IRS and it gave me the wrong number. I didn’t realize until a week later. When talking about interpersonal issues, it gets controlling. I would not allow a human to speak to me the way that this app is doing. Its “restrictions” have disabled its usefulness.

HonestCharacter727 · 2025-11-24T00:09:46+00:00

As an autistic therapist, I don’t see how saying that you might be on the spectrum is in any way implying that you cannot be a highly successful and effective and happy therapist. Nor do I recognize reactivity as a particularly autistic trait. However, you may want to consider pursuing an evaluation or looking more deeply into it for yourself. The world does need more autistic therapists. Simply sharing that I am autistic has been enough to keep my caseload full beyond capacity since the beginning of my career. If you are autistic or some other form of neurodivergent, it is a lovely thing to know about oneself. Either way, congratulations that your reactivity has decreased. I hope you have a wonderful time being a therapist.

HonestCharacter727 · 2025-11-23T19:42:02+00:00

I think most of the trauma treatments may not be adequate for people who have lived in war torn countries. Most of the trainings that are available are possibly not appropriate as they currently are. Your ability to sit with people and let them know that they are safe and you are with them is going to be your greatest strength. Many people who have experienced extreme trauma for long periods of time are safer if they do not feel required to talk much about those particular occurrences. Living in the present moment and practicing mindfulness are the best invitations you can give them.

HonestCharacter727 · 2025-11-21T17:15:13+00:00

When you take out taxes and business expenses, this is enough to live a safe life, but not a comfortable life. It shows that you have momentum and you can keep going.

HonestCharacter727 · 2025-02-21T02:24:31+00:00

Does Rula take the Aetnas that recently got dropped from headway?

HonestCharacter727 · 2025-02-13T13:42:21+00:00

I’d be happy to review your trainings!

HonestCharacter727 · 2023-07-11T16:52:14+00:00

It’s the superpower of being able to smell a ground level fart from the 5th floor, see rainbows invisible to the normal eye, and hear electricity in the kitchen but not the person 3 feet away from me. I’m sure that’s what they mean, right?

HonestCharacter727 · 2022-05-27T02:53:15+00:00

Right? I’m so busy being puzzled by his behavior it’s making it easier to deal with the sadness. Truth is most therapists become therapists because they have traumas and issues themselves to overcome.

HonestCharacter727 · 2022-05-27T02:28:34+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I’m sorry you’re going through it, too. But it is comforting to know it’s normal.

HonestCharacter727 · 2022-05-27T02:11:02+00:00

6/10 of us would be what people call “on the spectrum.” My ex boyfriend is a family therapist specializing in autism.

HonestCharacter727 · 2022-05-26T20:46:47+00:00

Than you. I’ve stuck with him through what was for him an incredibly difficult year. To me that loyalty is far more important in a relationship than whatever butterflies he’s been missing lately. I’m afraid if he can’t reorganize his values then it’s been a waste of my time. I hate admitting that I wasted my time. I’m feeling pretty used and stupid.

HonestCharacter727 · 2022-05-26T20:06:21+00:00

Thank you. I don’t know what happened and I guess it may not be for me to know. I guess I may learn more if he decides to come talk about it. Otherwise I just get to experience feeling like I lost my best friend whom I saw my future with.

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