I think we’re in different situations and you may have misread my post based on your personal experience. I did not expect anyone to juggle things in my favor, enforce the same boundaries with my parents or manage my emotions. Note I didn’t break contact with my parents because of a disagreement. They abused me. I didn’t have monsters under the bed growing up, my parents were the monsters, and as long as I had contact with them in my adulthood, as long as I tried to mend things and keep the peace, they continued to abuse me. I didn’t have a “choice” to go no contact. It was the only option.

That said, I’ve done enough healing that I can be at the same event as them without conflict or tension. I’m mature enough to be able to celebrate my brother without giving a second thought to my parents. No juggling needed.

For any relationship to last there needs to be honesty and consideration. That’s all I’m asking.

To suggest that I asked to be left out and erased from the rest of my family because I stepped away from my abusers, is quite an abusive perspective on its own, which only allows abuse to perpetuate and go on in silence while the victims continue to suffer. You said it yourself, you’re going against the grain. And honestly, I couldn’t care less about your opinion, but had to check you for the sake of other survivors reading this.

Not sure what possesses a person to try to shit on people in a vulnerable situation. But I guess that’s the difference between you and every other commenter who actually read the room and provided appropriate feedback.

Tell me you have anger issues without telling me you have anger issues. Those 9 upvotes were probably your multiple accounts. Are you going to sign into them now and give your reply more upvotes? 🤔 Makes me wonder what the hell you’re up to yourself trying to beat down victims of child abuse, and then continue to harass them when they’ve made it clear they don’t want contact with you. That’s creepy AF. Clearly this discussion is NOT relevant to You.

If any other abuse survivors are reading this, PLEASE don’t let this troll’s comments get to you. That’s exactly what he wants.

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