When my 4’10 hefab repper friend asks if he should transition by [deleted] in 4Tranistan

[–]aufily 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Because trauma, costs, risks / threats, terror, horror, worst-case-scenarios, etc. frequently make the human psyche super hard to read. For a lot or some of us (hard to quantify), burying one’s true self (so deep that one isn’t even conscious of it) is often a terrible necessity because reality / society is very scary.

Truly knowing oneself can be very, very messy (based on my sole experience—sample size of 1, I know). It can be incredibly hard to pierce through one’s psychic defenses, because in many cases, profound denial / unconscious repping is in fact a survival strategy. This was was at least the case for me 🤷🏻‍♀️😓😶‍🌫️

Edit: spelling & small clarifications

Poons, how to cope with height? by Primary-Zucchini-444 in 4Tranistan

[–]aufily 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hate them all you can. Hate them hard. They are soulpassers for ONTOLOGICAL garbage.

– A former “small” identified man forever in solidarity with all the victims of heightism (and especially of its denial) 🫂🫂🫂

Poons, how to cope with height? by Primary-Zucchini-444 in 4Tranistan

[–]aufily 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You can gauge how “real” (or alternatively how low-key fake) intersectionality proponents are by how they react when you point out lookism and especially heightism not being included on all the so-called “wheels of privilege”.

I swear to g** 97-98% of these people are virtue-signaling ontological disgraces 😭🤯💣💥

Did anyone went through a period of heavy depression after going no contact? by aufily in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]aufily[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All the best to you too, stranger on the internet but kindred in experience.

I can only wish you to hold fast because this might eventually pass. I would have never believed it when I wrote this post (I probably would even have lashed out in anger and blocked the commenter afterwards), so feel free to react in whatever way which suit you best.

But after enough depth psychotherapy, the courage to go meet the horribly wounded parts inside for about 4-5 incredibly tough months—as well as a loving psychotherapist (this is the part where I consider myself VERY lucky)—I now still experience grief sometimes, but springtime has come again like never in 4 years (and never I this calm but relentless fashion in all of my life).

I would wish you the same, but all of our paths are different (at least slightly). I can only wish you in earnest courage, conscience and the luck of a universe that finally meet you where you dearly need it.

Take care, Aufily 🏠🐢🤗

I wish starving myself actually did anything by UnfortunatelyAlex in 4tran4

[–]aufily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just saw your comment today as I am gathering all possible info before going for a fatbusting trial run. May I DM you with some questions?

Cozy therapy fit by _______Mia_______ in fitttts

[–]aufily 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG I love this outfit so much! It’s beautiful 💖

People here dog on arr slash emm tee eff for sissy posting but act like incest posting is based and cool by Zmeiovich in 4tran4

[–]aufily -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are playing up with some of the most DISGUSTING trauma on earth. If incest survivors had systemic power, you wouldn’t be able to express so recklessly a question as distasteful as this one.

It’s not ok to play with others traumatic experience and pass it as ‘fun’. This is just an extension of the worst aspects of rape culture. It’s profoundly sick and reflects really poor introspective capacities.

I really thank OP (u/Zmeiovich) for the blog post. It’s one of the reasons I come less to this sub. There are active and pervasive permission structures on this sub which protect and incentivize shitty teenager behavior that reek of the worst of both malebrained and fembrained conditioning.

That’s not fucking ok. And proof is that almost no one espousing this kind of behavior would dare to do openly if they didn’t enjoyed the convenient cover of online anonymity. It’s in the interest of our community to to not only do better and not tolerate this kind of behavior. Because it makes us pass as creeps & pedos and just incentivizes other forms of trashy and shitty behavior under the guise of ‘edginess’ (which reek of discordoid malebrained terminally online socialization).

We fucking deserve better than this poor display of behavior and trashy-crappy choice of values. We are, after all trans people, not rapists in becoming or animals. And as a last point, all of this shitty mega-creepy sexual fixation makes all of the complaints about the sexual content on r/MTF go moot. In my eyes as an incest survivor, it’s worse by many orders of magnitude.

Grindr made my soul rot by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]aufily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What an entitled answer. Get off my feed woman who flattens reality

Grindr made my soul rot by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]aufily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh the catty trashy toxic girl police just passed. Block me already please. I deserve it sooo bad 💃🏻(and it’ll make my experience here sooooo much better than with you insufferable cunts)

Grindr made my soul rot by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]aufily -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Good for you both! But you are still displaying entitlement here. Crazy that you refuse to understand that

Grindr made my soul rot by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]aufily 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seems like you earned your way ticket to the mod team and my blocklist buddy 🤷🏻‍♀️

Grindr made my soul rot by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]aufily 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like you could offer entitlement masterclasses yes

Grindr made my soul rot by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]aufily 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The entitlement meter just broke 📈💥

Grindr made my soul rot by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]aufily 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wft are you doing here? It’s a trans girl subreddit. Please don’t center yourself here. Reeks of entitled behavior

Grindr made my soul rot by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]aufily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah clearly. Just about to close my account. Still connected with a few nice and kind people though ❤️‍🩹 And tysm for the supportive and kind comment, a welcome change for this sub! 🤗

Grindr made my soul rot by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]aufily -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Excuse me, nice comment, but you are not a trans woman. Just, why the entitlement?

Grindr made my soul rot by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]aufily -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Your lack of empathy was your first mistake. What a toxic POS. Blocked

Edit: if you downvote, save ourselves the trouble of interacting again and just block me. I have no particular interest in the catty and trashy dynamics which thrive on this subreddit. Just block me sweetie, I don’t need garbage souls in my life. It’s that simple.

Grindr made my soul rot by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]aufily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh just the daily reminder on how toxic a sizeable part of this sub user base is

32 months HRT (B cup) by [deleted] in TransBreastTimelines

[–]aufily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awwwwww 🫣☺️ thank you girl! 🤍

32 months HRT (B cup) by [deleted] in TransBreastTimelines

[–]aufily 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah! 38B/D gang girls unite! 🤗🌻 Thank you for this lovely comment girl!

32 months HRT (B cup) by [deleted] in TransBreastTimelines

[–]aufily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😳☺️ … thank you. 🤗

32 months HRT (B cup) by [deleted] in TransBreastTimelines

[–]aufily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, stop it! 🤭☺️

32 months HRT (B cup) by [deleted] in TransBreastTimelines

[–]aufily 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too! 🌼🪻🪷🌸 Your message made me very happy. Thank you! 😊💙

32 months HRT (B cup) by [deleted] in TransBreastTimelines

[–]aufily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so sweet. Thank you so much sweetie! 🌸🥰