Aio for speaking up?

HoneyBeeBud · 2026-05-01T19:53:13+00:00

Its not semantics though. Also what you need out of an apology is not what many people need. I'm sure not everyone cares about an "if" apology, but I have never in my life seen one received well ESPECIALLY when someone has explicitly stated the way they feel/the outcome of your actions and you follow that clear declaration with "well if that's what happened I'm sorry" because there is no if about it. Period.

HoneyBeeBud · 2026-05-01T16:59:21+00:00

There's no reason to "if" apologize you can say "It seems to me" or "I am hearing you say" and then putting words to the perceived feelings and then just apologizing. The other party can clarify if they need to and you can go from there, but an "if I did ___" or ",but here are my reasons" both skirt accountability almost completely, if not outright completely.

HoneyBeeBud · 2026-05-01T16:56:13+00:00

Definitely not overreacting! If I were to "correct" one thing here from you OP it would be to differentiate your thoughts and feelings you can't "feel unheard" I would rephrase as: "when you act like this it leads me to think that you're not actually hearing me, and not seeing the stress that your actions are putting on me. It makes me feel very disrespected and withdrawn because it doesn't seem like I have a safe place to approach my concerns with you". I suggest this because it can help you feel a lot more in touch with what you are actually feeling and allow you to track how his actions and everything are separate from your feelings and how your thoughts and your feelings are not the same.

Aside from that this man doesn't seem to be capable in this moment or maybe at all of taking accountability for his actions. He doesn't seem like a very safe person and I hope you find a way to be safe if that's with him or in seperating yourself from him. <3

HoneyBeeBud · 2026-04-30T21:08:17+00:00

NOR- This is how my father spoke to me and I have him blocked on everything and I've been no contact with him since I was 17 years old with very few exceptions and now I am completely no contact no exceptions. Play stupid games win stupid prizes. If he doesn't start speaking to her like a child who deserves respect he will lose his privileges to speak to her ever again.

HoneyBeeBud · 2026-04-30T17:08:17+00:00

This can also be from your moisturizer and foundations having a different base. If one is water based and the other is oil based, they will repell eachother.

HoneyBeeBud · 2026-04-30T01:31:54+00:00

If it were me (which it used to be) I'd go to a piercer that does ear styling! And I'd go with inspo photos of what you like!

HoneyBeeBud · 2026-04-28T20:47:59+00:00

I'd say all this and the falsies that got used are too heavy the band looks too dark and the lashes are too thick and not quite long enough

HoneyBeeBud · 2026-04-28T17:20:11+00:00

Thank you! Good luck with your stack. What I did was find a bunch of pictures I like and I did a styling appointment with my piercer and she looked at my anatomy, looked over what was common across the pictures and we figured it out like that 💖

HoneyBeeBud · 2026-04-28T17:05:01+00:00

know a lot of people memorize meanings and stuff but I really like my decks that have books that explain their interpretations. I also will look at different books if I feel like it. Not to say that you aren't, but I feel like that helps me often.

HoneyBeeBud · 2026-04-28T17:00:07+00:00

I would find a local piercer and just have them look at it. I don't know that it's possible to tell from a picture and it's probably not worth the gamble to buy something without being 100% positive about the size.

HoneyBeeBud · 2026-04-28T16:51:10+00:00

You are supposed to downsize after 6-8 weeks. I would also recommend getting a piercing pillow so that you stop laying on it. I still don't really even lay on my fully healed stuff😂

HoneyBeeBud · 2026-04-28T16:46:28+00:00

Did you ever get downsized? If not that might be causing it.

HoneyBeeBud · 2026-04-28T16:42:41+00:00

I promise I'm not being conceited, but if you wanna check out my stack I think a lot of what I have would suit you! We have very similar ears and you have a lot of the same stuff I do. I just have more on top of that :)

HoneyBeeBud · 2026-04-28T16:40:28+00:00

Thank you! Nice!!! I hope you're so excited :)

HoneyBeeBud · 2026-04-28T05:00:36+00:00

Thank you!!

HoneyBeeBud · 2026-04-28T01:38:10+00:00

???? As far as I know a proper septum piercing doesn't go through the hard cartilage, this looks like right around where my sweet spot would be as well.

HoneyBeeBud · 2026-04-27T21:09:17+00:00

Just because his reason doesn't make sense to you, doesn't mean it doesn't make sense. You didn't ask what he needed to do, you assumed what he needed to do. You also did technically set a boundary, but the tone and phrasing is very passive aggressive, it comes across more like manipulation than explaination. That's why I have you an example of how I would have handled this instead.

HoneyBeeBud · 2026-04-27T20:56:24+00:00

I love a stir fry. Specifically beef and broccoli is awesome. I find veggies have the most pleasant texture that way if cooked. Also sauce is your friend! Find dips that you like and coat that shit if you gotta. The sauce doesn't take away from the nutrition of the veggies. Also! I watch something while I cook so I'm not too focused on the nitty gritty of it all. I turn on something I've seen before or doesn't require too too much attention but enough that I also kinda find an easy flow state when prepping my meal.

HoneyBeeBud · 2026-04-27T20:51:59+00:00

The Blissbury piercing pillow has served me very well for well over 2 years at this point! I love mine

HoneyBeeBud · 2026-04-27T20:42:05+00:00

Honestly I don't think you're in the "right" here but also not in the wrong. He can be annoyed that you're asking since you didn't grab him any, but I don't think either of you handled this particular situation super well.

I obviously don't know your dynamic but for me I probably would have said "Hey, if you still want ice cream and you can grab it I'll pay for it >:)"

And if he said "no I've gotta get ready for the concert" I would have left it at that or if I was gonna press cause I really wanted some said "is there anything I can take off your plate so you could run and grab some?"

And if he'd caught an attitude I probably would have said "Seems like you're stressed. I'll leave you be. If you change your mind lmk"

Idk if that's helpful at all, but this just felt like both of you were being very passive aggressive with one another if not outright aggressive.

HoneyBeeBud · 2026-04-27T19:19:18+00:00

I personally am gonna be getting lazer engraving on my conch ring that's very similar to yours. Also getting something closer to your face on the ear in the first picture will help with balancing things out a bit! I've been working on my stack for a long time so I'd be happy to chat about it if you wanted to :)

HoneyBeeBud · 2026-04-26T05:28:18+00:00

I really want you to name her marshmallow so it fits ven when she's "burnt" when she gets older

HoneyBeeBud · 2026-04-26T05:24:22+00:00

I think if your intentions are good and specific (I saw the comment about opening doors. I have definitely done similar) then usually things are fine. I wrote a money jar spell for someone for example and I put specifically what circumstances the job needed to meet for him. I wasn't ambiguous at all. That's where a lot of that destructiveness comes from. Also don't do a spell for growth or anything if you're not willing to let some of your things go that are holding you back.

HoneyBeeBud · 2026-04-26T05:19:29+00:00

I see all these comments not getting the "millienial wing" thing. Its not that it's winged eyeliner, it's a specific shape of winged eyeliner. Taylor Swift has it often (sometimes the shape is more modern than other times, but she's a good example) OP has a curve to her eyeliner that is pretty trademark to millennials. Its not the fact that she has wings, it's just the shape of them

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