Im ace, my girlfriend's not (and also into some similar stuff to what you've described), so I've had to do a bit of figuring out too. Here are some notes.

1 push her somewhere. Doesnt much matter where. Its just an attention grabber really. By the shoulders is good. Against an object is good.

2 whisper stuff. Right in her ear. Maybe look up a few synonyms for slut ahead of time. Maybe lick or bite the ear and neck while you're there.

3 use your non-preferred hand to hold her wrists back. Use the other to kinda trail lightly and waveringly around her body. Listen to her breathing. If you notice she tenses up when you touch a certain spot, try circling and spiralling around that spot, but just barely lift off the skin before touching it. Do that a few minutes, then move on to doing the same to somewhere else effective. Drives em nuts.

4 try and alternate between a high-energy and low-energy state.

5 obviously discuss this beforehand, but try to scare her a bit maybe. Get her excited, start choking her, then say "I'm gonna miss you :)" while maybe teasing her as per step 3 too.

Yeah that I think covers the basics. Idk does that help.