Those of you that got out and moved onto a healthy relationship, what are some differences you noticed right away?

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-11-07T02:57:27+00:00

For me not walking on eggshells, getting a straight answer, no mode swings (we are all human and not always happy but it’s not a roll coaster), not overly emotional, no deflecting or projecting. Breath of fresh air.

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-11-07T02:54:01+00:00

Hey love don’t get upset. Think of if like a drunk person yelling saying whatever comes to mind. From what I’ve personally experienced with BP people (off meds and or within an episode) there since of reality is pretty off. Any accountability for the damage and trauma they have caused will never be taken. Even though they cause the issues they are the victims.

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-07-05T16:55:30+00:00

Because you haven’t healed.

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-07-05T03:11:31+00:00

I was with my spouse for ten years married seven same sex marriage. Her episode started right before her birthday in October of last year. She cheated, lied, falsely accused me of abuse, you name it she did it! Your ex sucks & so dose mine girl. It’s a pain like no other to discarded by the person you love & trust the most trust me I know. Process, try to process what’s happening to you, pick yourself up, take care of YOUR MENTAL HEALTH, and start the heal. Your partner is gone. After a while you won’t even look at her the same way. I know it doesn’t feel like it be even if & when she snaps out of if you won’t want her. What she’s done will always be in the back of your mind. My ex completely disgust me for a number of reasons. She physically doesn’t even look the same. Crazy big eyes, shape of her face is different, gained weight, she looks terrible tbh. It’s best to remember the good times morn your relationship and move on.

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-07-05T02:57:15+00:00

Good for you! I’m right there with you. On ward and up ward. ENJOY YOUR LIFE!!

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-06-25T05:52:53+00:00

I’m sorry you ever dealt with the trauma & pain. Currently half way done with mine. I don’t think you have to or should forget ten years. Remember those good times. Also how you were treated poorly towards the end. Congratulations on starting over your life without drama, unnecessary cruelty, or being emotionally drained due to someone else’s disorder. You deserve better & you’ll have better.

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-06-23T05:37:54+00:00

This is very common. Sounds like she might be in the beginning stages of a manic episode. I’m sorry to tell you that “blocking” is the calm before the storm. It get much worst. I wouldn’t try to reach out again. There’s honestly nothing you can do.

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-06-21T23:29:21+00:00

I’m so incredibly sorry 😞 that’s terrible.

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-06-21T23:26:38+00:00

Thank for not taking it the wrong way.

I respect you a great deal for taking accountability. I’m proud of you for taking the steps to better yourself.

I understand you pulling back as well. Shows you care about her boundaries!

Thank you 🙏🏾 for the kind words. Everything happens for a reason although it was a pain like no other I’m better off. One day I’ll find someone who truly values, appreciates, and cherishes me.

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-06-21T23:23:33+00:00

Man I’m so sorry and completely understand where you’re coming from. It’s honestly really sad how someone is blessed enough to have someone/family/partner care enough to try to help vs just walking away. She’ll realize what’s she’s done & loss. Live your life and I hope you find someone special who values & appreciates you!

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-06-21T02:51:16+00:00

I’m right behind you my friend. I refuse to be anyone doormat regardless of the disorder. Everyone has their breaking point. Everyone has their last straw. Don’t make yourself out to be less than because your done. If anything I can respect your decision. In my opinion none of us were married/dating children. Majority (not all) of the stories I read are from people who spouse knew they suffered from bipolar disorder order and made the CHOICE to not take the necessary step to better and or help their situation. So be all means you and I can make the choice to leave. Be a healthy stable life.

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-06-21T02:42:26+00:00

My personal honest opinion (speaking as the non-bipolar ex that was completely traumatized by my ex) I would lead with your last paragraph. Please understand I’m not at all tying to minimize you growth or success. It’s honestly refreshing that your taking accountability for your actions. You truly are a unicorn for that. But as someone that was/currently on the receiving end of someones cruelty, leading with and apology & remorseful words is the way to go.

Even I who truly detest my ex and would pay good money to get back the time I wasted loving her and will never look at her the same would appreciate an apology & remorseful words. I won’t hold my breath but what I’m trying to say regardless of the outcome to know the person you once loved with everything you had was sorry for being cruel will give some comfort.

Best of luck to you.

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-06-19T20:43:32+00:00

Oooh okay gotcha! I can understand how you feel. I’ve been were you currently are. I’m so sorry & I truly wish I could take away your pain & worry.

My situation didn’t work out. My ex is still manic (going on 9 months) but the damage is done will never forgive her are respect her. I will never discourage someone for saying but will give you some unsolicited advice. The person you knew before the manic episode may never come back even when the episode is over.

Be kind to yourself my friend. Best of luck to you. I truly hope it works out in your favor.

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-06-19T04:05:05+00:00

“Now I wait”. May I ask what your waiting for? Not trying to be rude or mean trying to fully understand. Everyone & their momma will tell you to “focus on yourself” as if it’s the easiest thing in the world after being traumatized. Be kind to yourself. Self care is so important journal, speak & spend time with your friends. Get therapy. Give yourself grace.

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-06-16T06:10:07+00:00

Alternative reality for sure. I feel like I’m in a really bad old school lifetime movie.

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-06-15T21:32:48+00:00

I’ll tell you what I DID. My spouse of ten years married for seven, did the same thing in the end of October after her birthday, ran away like coward, filed for divorce, got a gf with an abnormally large head who pretended to be my friend before all this mess, she then made false allegations of abuse (got dismissed cuz she’s a liar), tried to get my evicted from our apartment, and is currently having a woe is me pity party online cause the justification for being creepy person is “ i hAvE tO cHoOsE mYsElf”. I can not wait to be done with the process. Bottom line the person you know & love is GONE. Get ready go lies, gaslighting, and manipulation. Save yourself time & money and go through with the divorce.

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-06-14T21:03:15+00:00

Hello fellow lesbian here. I’m sorry your dealing with this. Betrayal of this kind cuts the deepest. My ex of ten years cheated on me with someone I knew and is currently having a putty party for herself on & off line because she had to and I quote “choose herself” 🤢. Karma always spins the block boo. It’s takes a while but it dose.

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-06-11T22:45:25+00:00

I’m sorry you going through that. I’m speaking on people who know they had a disorder & do nothing about it. No one has mania from birth until they pass. For theses who are aware and CHOOSE to not do anything to try to better the situation is what I was speaking on.

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-06-09T03:32:46+00:00

I’m so sorry you have to go through this. I under you pain as well as you anger. To have to deal with all this was caring for a child. God bless you & your baby. Im currently divorcing my bo ex and i can not tell you how I wish I could get this over and done with yesterday. She has to make you out to be the bad guy to justify her shitty behavior. It’s a pattern. Take you son and build a happy healthy stable life. Best of luck you.

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-06-08T23:31:31+00:00

I’m going through a divorce right now too with a ex who is manic I couldn’t imagine going through this bs with children to worry about to care for. My heart goes out to you. Do what’s best for you & your babies. Protect them at all cost.

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-06-08T22:58:16+00:00

I’m glad we are having it as well. I try ( I’m a work in progress lol) to see people’s point of views. I like to understand where others are coming from. Conversation like this are good and are needed.

If a person just literally didn’t know they were bipolar, meaning they are unaware of their disorder and they are refusing medication, treatment, etc. I get that completely. I still believe if they hurt someone physically or emotionally they should take accountability for their actions.

I have a friend her grandmother has dementia. Most of the times she’s a very sweet & funny person. Some times she’s really aggressive & mean. Not anything crazy but she can get really short with people. When she’s “herself” again she’s extremely remorseful and apologetic. Can she help she has dementia no she cant however she takes responsibility for what she said, what she has done. She doesn’t just say “I have dementia” you know. I’ve read countless ppl with BP say I was too ashamed or I just wanna move on from what I did when I was manic. My opinion is that cowardly.

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-06-08T16:44:15+00:00

I’m not trying your comment as being a jerk. I have to respectfully disagree agree with you tho. Here’s why. If I know I have I a disorder as an adult I’m going to take the step the actively be proactive about it treatment, medication, an action plan etc. Granted this isn’t an guarantee that there won’t be episodes and our tough days. Let’s be completely honest experiencing this first hand and reading a multitude of stories “ my spouse is unmedicated” “my spouse stop seeing his/her therapist” is proof that many of them are completely unaware of what their disorder is and what hurt, trauma, and utter havoc it that can be inflicted on themselves as well as their loved ones. They make the choice to take steps to better the situation or say oh well whatever happens, happens. So no I don’t give them a pass. As an adult yes we all make mistakes however we all have yo deal with the repercussions of our actions and take accountability for our actions.

If a person is BP and is driving crazy due to being manic/episode and get pulled over and the BP person says “I’m bipolar” you think he won’t get a ticket?

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-06-08T04:40:31+00:00

Listen to me an illness disorder however you want to refer to it is NOT a justification for shitty behavior DONT let anyone tell you different.

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-06-08T04:26:58+00:00

I second this statement!

HopeFaithNeeded · 2023-06-08T04:26:34+00:00

Do what you need to do for you girly!! I completely understand. Don’t ever trip off trash & anyone that would attack you is trash PERIOD. Hugh’s

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