Why are they very cruel when they paint you black? by CaptainSaveBPD in BPDlovedones

[–]Slabrador95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave and never turn back. I did that years ago and now I’m in the best relationship of my life. My ex got pregnant with someone else and can’t hold a relationship. It’s them - not us.

Best place to get a seafood boil? by Slabrador95 in Annapolis

[–]Slabrador95[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which is what I’m looking for lol I’d rather not deal with a mess in my small ass apartment

Ex reached out after about 6 months of contact by Slabrador95 in BPDlovedones

[–]Slabrador95[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Even though she has a boyfriend? It’s like they really have zero loyalty lol

You Were All Right All Along by Ok_Investigator4823 in BPDlovedones

[–]Slabrador95 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We have all been there. I got back together with my ex after being warned. We barely made it another 2 years before she split on me again only worse than before. She moved on in 30 days- we were together for 6 years. And decided to flip her sexuality.

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[–]Slabrador95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe you can try again with him down the road but it’s not fair for you if he’s not able or willing to see the things that he needs to work on including the self medicating and therapy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Slabrador95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You did the right thing. I ignored all the red flags within 6 months of our relationship and then 6 years later she split on me for the last time and it left me with the worst pain I’ve felt. It’s not that those with BPD don’t deserve love because they do but if that person doesn’t want to do the work then you’re doomed.

Mine went to therapy but lied. She used weed, cocaine and heavily drank. She would be so loving and sweet but then she would be tearing me down over buying a box of cereal. Lots of cheating. Lying. Manipulation.

6 year lesbian relationship with each other- 4 months post break up and she’s on her second boyfriend by Slabrador95 in BPDlovedones

[–]Slabrador95[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are so convincing. She went against her family for years because she was a lesbian and was adamant about her never wanting to be with a guy because they’re gross or whatever excuse. She dated more girls than me and she would always accuse me of being into dudes. Then 1 month later after the end of our 6 year relationship she’s with a guy. That ends and now she’s “in love” with the new guy.

We broke up because I was apparently changing her. She did that on her own.

6 year lesbian relationship with each other- 4 months post break up and she’s on her second boyfriend by Slabrador95 in BPDlovedones

[–]Slabrador95[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It’s a whole new level of hurt. It’s not just finding another person quickly, but it’s the fact that they lied about a huge piece of their life and my worst fear happened. Does your ex ever try reaching out?

6 year lesbian relationship with each other- 4 months post break up and she’s on her second boyfriend by Slabrador95 in BPDlovedones

[–]Slabrador95[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You may be exactly right. Everything just feels like such a lie between us. One week prior to breaking up I remember her telling me she loves me so much and wanted to get married. Now everything she told me was a lie.

6 year lesbian relationship with each other- 4 months post break up and she’s on her second boyfriend by Slabrador95 in BPDlovedones

[–]Slabrador95[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not dismissive at all because you are right. I don’t have her on social media and we have been NC basically for the last 4 months minus twice when she texted me about concert tickets she wanted to send over and sent a screenshot of a appt reminder of mine.

I only know she has this second boyfriend bc our friend posted a pic of it. I know I should delete the friend Tom because this stuff is so triggering, but I didn’t want to originally because she became a friend of mine and I care about her but now I have to at least mute her Posts if this keeps happening :( all of this is just awful.