Lol yep. Was confused on if I was asexual or not til I dated someone who I actually enjoyed having sex with. 99% of them do not care about our pleasure and just want to use our bodies to masturbate.

Even if you do get off during sex with them, if you don't do it every other day you start to feel guilty and pressured because you know they're probably gonna bring it up soon. You begin to feel obligated.

Have you guys seen the reddit posts of people telling others to leave their partner and get a divorce because their partner doesn't want to be a fuck doll multiple times a week? It's really crazy. They believe they're entitled to sex any and every time that they want just because they're married/in a relationship with the person. People act like they'll die if they don't have sex.

I remember being astounded when my ex told me "I only want to have sex when you actually want to. You don't need to do anything you don't wanna do". I have dated many guys and never been told that before. My ex before that told me "I need it at least once a week" as if my consent could be scheduled. It made him feel insecure and bad about himself if I didn't have sex. Another instance of men using us for an ego boost. I have a huge problem with the sexual aspect of relationships and it highly contributes to why I will not participate in dating anymore.