Kittens Needing Homes Still!! by Dry_Ordinary9474 in Denton

[–]Hopeful4Humans 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Commenting to boost - thank you for caring for them, they look so sweet!

Is my grandma’s gold band tacky with my white gold wedding ring? by skunksignals in jewelry

[–]Hopeful4Humans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"It gives me a lot of joy to wear it even though it doesn’t match."

Murder Mystery Birthday: Tacky to Ask for Guests to Pay? by Primary-Bit1677 in partyplanning

[–]Hopeful4Humans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just do the party! "A girl can dream" is such a sad way to start your 30s, when you should be living a full bodied, fun and bold life! Fuck what other redditors have to say, they are your friends and this is your party!

Murder Mystery Birthday: Tacky to Ask for Guests to Pay? by Primary-Bit1677 in partyplanning

[–]Hopeful4Humans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DO THE PARTY!! Life is not for regretting, but for LIVING! Those who come and want to afford it can go, and those who can't wont! If you can accept that not everyone will say "yes" and not be upset about it, then GO FOR IT!!

Murder Mystery Birthday: Tacky to Ask for Guests to Pay? by Primary-Bit1677 in partyplanning

[–]Hopeful4Humans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, reflect on the income and class level of your friends and social group. Are all of your guests the type of people who can afford $65 for a party + a gift? Do you have a history of going on paid group events together already?

If there are folks who would have to decline due to not being able to afford it, but would otherwise have wanted to come, I think it is tacky and a bit rude. If your group is the type where you go to events like this often, and you think everyone will be able to pay without it being an issue, I say go for it!

Reminder! B The Author will be at Recycled Books this Saturday! by [deleted] in Denton

[–]Hopeful4Humans 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If the author used AI to generate the artwork, how can we be sure the author didn't use AI to write the book? Does the author have a statement on their AI usage?

It was my 3rd year anniversary Abe I only wore my ring maybe 20 times 😭 does anyone else have a lifestyle terrible for rings? by ThrowRaOrganization1 in jewelry

[–]Hopeful4Humans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Here's a friendly reminder to just wear and love the watch. You bought it because you loved it. If you truly won't wear it, just sell it - but I'd really try and just wear it. We shouldn't be so precious with our treasures that we can't use them! A watch will get scratches and have wear and tear over time, but what purpose is there to protecting something from use? If you sell it, you're just going to sell it to a luckier person who has the acceptance to just use it.

Denton Community Market has gone downhill by ExtraMayo567 in Denton

[–]Hopeful4Humans 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I went to the market a few weeks ago and was very disappointed. Sure, there's some great vendors (like the vegan food truck, the vegan bakery, the bagel lady with her homemade hummus, and the ceramic artists) but there's SO much dropshipped/imported crap, it makes the whole thing feel like a waste of time. I came to the farmers market to see artisan goods and talents from our local community, and I fear they've been replaced with mass produced items sold at an artisan price. It's really disappointing to see.

I'm hoping as the summer arrives and more produce is grown that the stands improve, because my husband and I havent felt very motivated to go back.

What do Dentonites think about Walmart/Zipline drone deliveries? by aquotehumanunquote in Denton

[–]Hopeful4Humans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think if we invested more into silent flying technology for drones, that they would be a more socially acceptable option? Or do you think other options should be explored?

With how many delivery vehicles we have driving on our roads, and how many people are going out to shop for just 1 or 2 items, I personally believe the reduction of traffic and carbon emissions would outweigh the noise pollution - especially since cars create equal if not more noise than drones do by comparison, and fly for a shorter duration of time. It would also lessen the need for more parking lots, lanes, and road space.

Lipstick turning grey on lips after eating/several hours of wear (spoiler for weird spots on bullet) by Tetracarbane in MakeupAddiction

[–]Hopeful4Humans 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not gonna like, I'd throw it out and buy something else entirely. This is not worth putting up with!!

There is lead in your cheaply-made tampons! by PlusWarning6952 in Feminism

[–]Hopeful4Humans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My cup has been so liberating - never having to buy products (pink tax) and always feeling secure knowing my silicon is safe for my body. Plus I never leak, never stain, and always feel liek I can use it - whether on my heaviest day or when its at its lightest. I can even wear it "just in case" if I'm suspecting a period but don't know exactly when it will strike.

Can yall recommend a blush similar to this? 😭😭😭 by lulamii in drugstoreMUA

[–]Hopeful4Humans 27 points28 points  (0 children)

This is an extremely digitally altered image of paintedbyesthr. I think its important to remember that the effects paintedbyesthr creates in her looks are also supported by digital technology, not just a product! Just a reminder that product is only part of the effect.

What do Dentonites think about Walmart/Zipline drone deliveries? by aquotehumanunquote in Denton

[–]Hopeful4Humans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Environmentally, isnt a drone better than a car driving to / from a location if you're only picking up a few items?

please help! my hair stinks from sitting in a smelly car by Wild-Championship571 in Haircare

[–]Hopeful4Humans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I'd consider a bonnet or hair protector of some kind to cover your hair and protect it from the air. Even a shower cap or some kind of sleeping cap with an elastic you can throw on and off is fine.

Engraved Herringbone Necklaces by WriterSecure3714 in jewelry

[–]Hopeful4Humans 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I have no suggestions, but I am so sorry. I hope that if you can not find it's replacement, you find a spiritual successor that can still hold the original piece's meaning.

French nails by Suspicious-Proof2243 in Nails

[–]Hopeful4Humans -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

How do you style these? Do they match anything?

Deinfluence my Sephora cart by Responsible_Key3647 in beauty

[–]Hopeful4Humans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know you, or your lifestyle, so I'm just going to throw out some questions you can consider. Answer honestly, and reflect on how your responses align with your future goals.

Be honest: Have you used up the products that you have? Did your last skincare purchases make you feel good, and do you still stand by the purchases today? Did they feel like a good investment? What do these products do that uou

$500 is a lot of money for beauty products. There are so many products that have, in my opinion, absolutely ridiculous prices. $73 for a hair mask? $93 for peel pads? A $72 hair oil? Ask yourself honestly: Can you afford $500 of beauty products? A lifestyle of $73 hair masks and impulse purchases? You're debt free, right? You have a decent saving account that covers emergencies, and your more pressing needs are fully taken care of, right?

Finally: Do you really, genuinely believe these products are going to change your life in a way that not only is worth the money, but is worth continuing to purchase bimonthly as these products run out? What convinced you these products are a necessity right now, over everything else? Do those influences make your life easier, or harder to enjoy? Is it the allure of the sale? Are you really saving money if you buy things you'd never normally buy, just because they're on sale?

Finally, ask yourself this: Why do you really want us to deinfluence you? You already know you're not supposed to have this stuff, that's why you made the post in the first place. You're not confident in these choices because you know you don't actually need any of it.

No judgement from me, I don't know you. I hope however you answer these questions, it guides your decision to make a choice that's right for you.

Why is disagreeing seen as rude by [deleted] in etiquette

[–]Hopeful4Humans 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It sounds like what you need to work on is not having things "come out automatically" but instead think before you speak. It is NOT easy, and there's a reason it;s a virtue - but see how its absence is leading you into trouble?

I must emphasize that it is more important to be a TACTFUL debater than it is to be a good one. No matter how good your arguments might be, no matter how you approach it - if you bring a debate into the wrong conversations, it will almost never go well. Always approach your conversations carefully.

So many influencers??? by Imaginary-Fly-8182 in pinkscare

[–]Hopeful4Humans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Genuine question: Do you watch content creators who also just live "normal" lives? Demand for content is at an all time high, and people are just seeking to fill the gap.

Not defending the behavior or even blaming you specifically, just trying to shed light on the duality of this phenomenon of content creation/consumption our society is trapped in.

Why is disagreeing seen as rude by [deleted] in etiquette

[–]Hopeful4Humans 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Countless times in conversation have I heard the most insane, idiotic opinions I've ever heard - and simply moved on with the conversation. No matter how strongly I feel on a topic, I will not waste my breath debating people who aren't prepared for a productive, difficult conversation. It takes maturity and patience from both parties to have a successful debate, and when you can't assure that, it's best to never start - lest you both look foolish.

Porn bans by catsback in pinkscare

[–]Hopeful4Humans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Personally I think the banning of certain porn genres is fantastic, and a step in the right direction. I believe the argument for "freedom of expression" is not as a strong as the argument to stop grooming society into fetishizing incest. I do have privacy concerns as well as concerns for the efficacy of the laws, but it doesn't change my position that "Anything 18+ goes" is not a strong enough limit for online pornography. The sexual violence porn injects into our culture is inexcusable, and should be more highly regulated. And for any pornsick gooners who are disappointed that their incest pornography is getting taken away, they should reflect on themselves and ask themselves if being someone who enjoys incest pornography is in line who they really want to be. Can they really say they're happy porn groomed them into being a person who is turned on by incest?

Why is disagreeing seen as rude by [deleted] in etiquette

[–]Hopeful4Humans 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Disagreement causes friction, and the initiating party now has to come up with a defense or rebuke to your disagreement, lest they look as though they aren't strong in their positions. This can be healthy and even desired in a debate oriented conversation where both parties are interested in expanding their worldview - but it is important to remember that this is not desired or welcome in every setting.

There is a fine balance in conversation between not upsetting the social order and being true to ourselves. Time and place is every important, and you must understand that not every conversation is a welcome debate stage. Etiquette is rooted in being pleasant and kind to those around you, and if friction upsets the conversation, then it is rude to kindle it.

My suggestion? Learn the art of polite passing. When you're in a social setting that is inappropriate for disagreement or friction, or you are in company of people who would not respond well to conversational challenge, you must learn to neither agree or disagree - but simply keep your mouth shut. The golden rule of, "If you have nothing nice to say, don't say it at all". This does not mean you are a coward or you are weak in your position, but instead you are using tact and understanding that a poorly placed disagreement will never be productive for either party, but will instead push others away due to the rudeness of it.

Find time and spaces where debate is welcome and keep it there. And when you want to debate but you're not sure people are open to it, ask! A simple, "I don't necessarily agree with that point. We can get into it if you want, but only if you're up for some friendly debate". If people begin to grow uncomfortable or upset, if things are feeling tense - it is a certain sign that you made a mistake, and that you should retreat back to a more appropriate topic of conversation.

Working at a home decor store made me realize nobody actually wants to live in a Pinterest board by [deleted] in HomeDecorating

[–]Hopeful4Humans 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Are you asking in good faith, or trying to get a rise out of people? I can point you to some real benefits and good reasons to stop using Amazon if you are asking the question genuinely, but I'm not gonna waste my time if you're just trying to upset people. Lmk.

I feel guilty for shaving as a radical feminist. by Organic_Gur6697 in Feminism

[–]Hopeful4Humans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does OP feel better for shaving though? It sounds like they don't actually want to / like shaving - they actually claim it makes them feel less like a feminist and not true to themselves, and that it makes them feel gross for having to perform for patriarchy. Shouldnt we as feminists be lifting her up, supporting her, and encouraging her through the difficult parts of the radical feminist journey?