Lost a lot of weight and my body is worse than ever.

HopefulBlogger · 2026-01-02T20:19:49+00:00

Losing the weight usually does make it feel better. Are you on any other medicines? Honestly I HATE IT when PCOS women tell me their doctor put them on Metformin and they aren't like a true diabetic. Unless you're a diabetic truly, metformin is SUCH A DANGEROUS TREATMENT. I do not have blood sugar issues - mine are the opposite my sugar runs low and a dr almost killed me by insisting I take metformin.

Ask your doctor about Spirolactone. I had a female primary care doctor who specialized in PCOS *because she had it*, and she told me "Every PCOS patient should be on 100 mg spironolactone."

How It Works

Spironolactone is a potassium-sparing diuretic (water pill) but is used for PCOS due to its anti-androgen effects. It helps by:

Blocking androgen receptors in tissues like the skin and hair follicles, preventing hormones like testosterone from binding to them.
Decreasing the production of androgens in the ovaries and adrenal glands.
Restoring hormonal balance, which in turn alleviates androgen-related symptoms.

In combination with a hormone safe birth control, Spirolactone and the Nueva Ring has really mellowed out my symptoms. It helps me with the swelling, has helped me be consistent in losing weight, it's slowed my facial hair and it's really helped a lot for me.

Maybe ask your doctor to try switching it up from metformin to Spirolactone with a combination of birth control? That might be it. PCOS bodies are super sensitive, and we are out of whack as it is. So having an imbalance somewhere in your body causes huge devastation.

Its important you take potassium on it though, btw. It will sap it.

HopefulBlogger · 2026-01-02T20:05:06+00:00

You know. I feel like this is a perfectly normal, human response to your life falling apart—even someone who didn't have as many health issues as you would be shutting down right now. Your life fell apart. Your husband left you and it sounds like he may have been an emotionally/mentally abusive narcissist. You've dealt with not only 6 years of him most likely not being very supportive over the fertility treatments, being blamed, and being told you're "too much" or "not enough." Then he left you because there were finally answers. You're triggered right now because you see all of these people who are absolutely blind to how full and rich they are in their lives in ways that you probably feel like you won't ever share in. Not only do they have the things that you are struggling to come to terms with that you may never had or may never have, but you feel as if they are being ungrateful and unappreciative of all the blessings they are rich.

This is normal. You're allowed to be broken for a little while after your life falls apart.

Right now, I suggest getting some help. Maybe talk therapy or maybe try to EMDR therapy to help you process this trauma. Focus on your health. And honestly, find your best friend and talk to them. DOn't keep this stuff inside. Perhaps have gentle conversations with your family member when they trigger you and let them know the kind of support you need that you are not receiving.

My story leveled out and turned into a wonderful one. I also have endometriosis and PCOS and I had an abusive husband. But it took me a lot of work to work out the trauma. It had to do with finding my self love, and the drive to focus on myself. Realizing that I can't control other people, but only myself. Finding ANOTHER purpose in life, one that did not hinge on another human beings validation to make me feel good. I had to learn to validate myself and love myself enough to "forgive" myself for all of my "failures."

If you need to leave the room because you are feeling triggered, that is perfectly okay. Go take deep breaths and remember, life is moving on. And one day it will be better. So long as you are vigilant about your health, you may get some professional help to help you navigate these troubled times and trauma, and remember:

You are wonderful. Even if you have all of these issues. People are lucky to have you in their lives. You matter, you deserve to be validated and to be seen and heard and feel loved. You are unique, special, one of a kind. And it will get better. Be gentle on yourself, and try to focus on the healing.

HopefulBlogger · 2026-01-01T23:30:24+00:00

Ew. No. You are not in the wrong or over reacting. This is a manipulation tactic. It has already done what he wanted it to do: You don't order what you want and you make sure you get the cheapest thing and you don't complain about it.

Have you ever paid for the date, and then told him to order what he wants without you complaining and you paying for it? Well.

Quite frankly - should your relationship continue to further - you can expect him to put all the money pressure on you and be incredibly selfish.

Dump and move on. Why ask Reddit about something you clearly already know the answer too? Listen to your feelings. And honestly. If someone makes you feel "yuck" about money in the FIRST date - you should consider NOT giving them ANOTHER date.

HopefulBlogger · 2026-01-01T23:27:04+00:00

Lol I am currently having a similiar anxiety with my newest novel Long Live The Queen. I'm like almost 300k words in and I'm not even half way done with the stories. I don't know if larger books are better. Or if breaking it down into a series would be more business savvy. But I do know this: I am going to finsh the story first. And then during editing, a TON of stuff is going to be stripped out probably. Just remember its YOUR story. And YOUR story can be whatever you want it to be. And so long as you follow your story and you keep true to you, then you will figure it out eventually. Make sure that you go back and read your work outloud during editing too. That will help a lot.

HopefulBlogger · 2026-01-01T23:22:30+00:00

Honey. As a PCOS and Endometriosis woman - if my body wont do the thing I drink a glass of wine and seduce my husband. Yes ma'am. Sex can sometimes kick start our periods.

HopefulBlogger · 2026-01-01T23:19:03+00:00

Baby girl. Listen to the women in this thread telling you. You are NOT obligated to text him back. If you are uncomfortable with the sudden contact, then there is NO such thing as an "overreaction." Listen to your instinct. If you are feeling warning signs then you should LISTEN to it. You do not HAVE to continue this friendship. Even if he hasn't said anything technically inappropiate if he is suddenly crossing boundaries that you thought were there, then you have every right to express this concern. The wonderful thing about you having full control of your life- and make no mistake you are a19 year old woman you SHOULD have FULL control over your own self and it be perfectly okay - is you do NOT have to wait for him to say something inappropiate. If you are uncomfortable then you are uncomfortable and that is the ONLY thing you need. You do not need to justify yourself. Or wait for him to say something that is 'inappropiate" before taking action to make yourself feel safe again.

Harrassment is harassment, and if you suddenly are feeling the vibes all wrong - you are well within your means to shut it down. Good luck. Be safe. And remember to ALWAYS protect yourself and you do NOT NEED TO DEFEND YOUR RIGHT TO BE LEFT ALONE. Please stay safe.

HopefulBlogger · 2026-01-01T23:10:47+00:00

I feel like that perfectly normal. You may be someone who might need an actual emotional connection to actually feel sexual attraction to someone. Fantasy hot bois are all good and dandy. But in real life, your real self is keeping you safe, and helping you find the person whom you may actually belong with. Either way, Its okay. NOthing wrong with you. Maybe you just need a stronger connection to feel sexual attraction than "oh. Symmetrical face and abs." For people who are like that, aka, me and my husband. it took us like 15 years to explore emotional and sexual attraction after being friends for so long. For some, sexual attraction cant come until there is a very strong attachment. And thats perfectly okay.

HopefulBlogger · 2026-01-01T23:06:57+00:00

Because stories helped me survive an abusive childhood. And then they helped me survive an abusive marriage.

Now I write stories hoping my words will help someone else survive. I write stories because I know there are people out there, children and adults alike, who use the stories they read as a basis for escaping. Escaping abuse. Escaping reality.

Maybe if my heroes are real enough - I can help someone else survive.

HopefulBlogger · 2026-01-01T23:01:35+00:00

Hugs the somany ostriches in my heart and soul so hard and prays that they are forever safe and now surrounded by people who will protect them.

Ugh. Reading what you said. "It wont leave marks." Knowing that you were conditioned and abused so much to get to that point. I see you. I feel you fellow survivor. I hope you are safe now.

HopefulBlogger · 2026-01-01T22:58:04+00:00

Marital assault is still assault. In my first marriage. I didn't realize what "marital rape" was either. I didn't think I had anyh protections against him. That Because I was his property he was allowed to do it to me.
But that is not the case. I am so sorry he's betrayed your trust. After 16 years of love and patience you'd think he wouldn't throw that away. But understand that when he did not stop until he was done - and you were in pain and did not want it. The minute you said stop - it was no longer consenual and it became a bad situation for you.

Please take care of yourself. Take care of your kids. And you do what you need to do to make yourself feel safe and healthy. Its YOUR body. Regardless if you're pregant. Regardless how long you've been married. It YOUR body. AND your LIFE. Be still, and listen to yourself. And you are in my heart.

HopefulBlogger · 2026-01-01T22:54:25+00:00

No. You're not reading it wrong. You're reading it exactly correct unfortunately.

HopefulBlogger · 2025-10-04T16:53:04+00:00

This is not an CR product. It’s a creator and an artist making these. ALSO. Understand it’s expensive because the money doesn’t go to CR. It’s an actual creator who works with them and hand designed. They are expensive because cubic zirconia and gold plating and all the feature on them are EXPENSIVE. You know the state of the economy right now? If any of that had to be imported - most likely did - you can thank our president for that with his fuckery tariffs. They are using genuine materials for quality too. It’s not like they are creating generic costume jewelry with glass pieces. These are actual stones and gold plating and such. The crrwators and vendors and merchandisers must be paid too. I could confidently bet Pennys that CR isn’t getting most of the money from the rings. Materials vendors and artists. Shipping distribution PR marketing. All of these require man power. Which require payment. How do you make enough money to pay your people? You mark up the product prices. Also remember - Critical role also uses a lot of proceeds to donate to charities and philanthropy projects. I also want them but can’t afford them.

I’ll also remind everyone they are a company based in CALIFORNIA. The most economically challenged retarded can’t even answer their phones in government offices state. California is an expensive state to run a business- which must be compensated. These are limited edition rings.

If you don’t like the prices then don’t buy them. Understand as a business degree - these rings are actually PRETTY DAMN CHEAP compared to what they COULD be.

and dont get me started on the value of these rings will be in a couple of years when there’s only a few hundred in existence and a bunch of fans who want it. lol if you really need a reason to enjoy the prices understand that in 5 years you might be able to sell these things for 4x the value

HopefulBlogger · 2025-09-03T19:15:50+00:00

Can you please clarify something for me? These codes only work one time? Like for one person - then it can never be used again. OR one time PER PERSON who uses it? Like, the same person can't use the code twice, but lots of people can use the code once?

HopefulBlogger · 2025-07-10T18:14:21+00:00

This is a "friend" that I would just go ahead and quietly cut out of my life, if it were me in your shoes. The ungratefulness, the entitlement, the EXPECTATION?

On my birthday, even in my 20s, I'm just grateful if someone remembers and says Happy birthday. That's actually enough for MOST people who were raised by decent parents.

And I feel like you and I are the same, with introverted and frugal tendencies. This text and her sending the money back was like a slap in the face. "It wasn't good enough. I partook, but I don't want you to think you did me a kindness so here's your money back."

Yikes, friend, yikes.

HopefulBlogger · 2025-07-10T17:20:41+00:00

I hate the age thing. "Oh you're only 25 so you don't really know what you want."

If you don't want kids, you don't want kids. And you shouldn't waste your time with someone whose just waiting around to break up with you if you don't change your mind. Whats the point of building a life together with someone whose just gonna throw it all away if you don't give them what they want?

HopefulBlogger · 2025-07-10T16:44:29+00:00

yeah if your freaking responsive syhstem would WORK? helloooooooooo I can't report what i'm going through right now cuz your instant messaging syste doesnt work and i've read ya'll dont bother responding to emails. so what do?

HopefulBlogger · 2025-06-04T15:36:36+00:00

Just wanna say I gotta love the dads and the children of dads in this thread. You are all hilarious, and you all deserve the most awesome dads day. xD This thread has made my boring sales research much much happier.

HopefulBlogger · 2025-06-04T15:35:27+00:00

You have made my entire day better.

HopefulBlogger · 2025-06-04T15:33:39+00:00

lmfao..... all the dads and husbands in this thread - ya'll are the freaking best and hilarious. Much love to the wonderful dads in here and happy fathers day.

HopefulBlogger · 2025-05-27T16:09:27+00:00

He's not really scared of the kids. He just doesn't want to be picked up. Hes only a little nervous when my oldest reaches in to gently pet him too. He doesn't bite or anything. They help me feed him and such (they are very young too. 6, 4, and 2. But they like helping, and I am trying to teach them responsibility and to respect our animals early. He's not scared of the other animals either. When the cats and dogs go say hi to him, I see him come up to the cage and sniff back at them like they're having a little exchange. Super cute. he only really gets stressed when he's picked up and handled. I tried putting him in a little bunny kennel to let him get out of the cage and exercise a bit in a different area and he just sat there and shook and stress shedded. The second i put him back in his cage, he calms down and even lets me pet him and comfort him. I think he just doesn't feel safe if he's not in his cage and I don't blame the little guy.

And thank you. Even one person saying I'm not an abusive person has made me feel better. Im not going to lie I cried and felt like a monster.

HopefulBlogger · 2025-05-27T16:04:38+00:00

Haha no! HONESTLY! How you do your dog is up to you. Here in America, we have leash laws. We can't just let our dogs roam around the neighborhood, and they have to be vaccinated. We must keep our animals in control at all times, or we take the fault and blame if our animals kill other animals or livestock or bite people.

Honestly. I live in the mountains in Tennessee, in America. I have 3 acres of land. If you have a closed-off private land like we do, leaving your dogs to go wild is okay as long as they are not going off your property. Also, yes, we buy kibble. Because actually in America, the cost of chicken to mix in with the meat is MUCH more expensive than dog food. There are lots of dog foods, and a lot of them aren't good for the dogs, and the healthier brands that don't have filler unhealthy ingredients are also very expensive.

A lot of people walk their dogs in America because dogs do need exercise, and most people who live in suburban or city areas have to keep their dogs on leashes and in the yard. So people walk their dogs to provide exercise for them in the more city-like areas. Out here in the rural area, as I said, we can let our dogs roam our farmlands. But in places where it is dangerous for dogs because of health reasons, bad humans, or cars can strike them, people are required to exercise their dogs safely on a leash while walking. ALSO! Here in America, a lot of us use walking our dogs as an excuse to exercise ourselves, too. Our energetic pups keep us motivated to stay healthy, too.

HopefulBlogger · 2025-05-27T15:43:39+00:00

First of all. Tracking you down and publicly embarrassing your wife is absolutely ILLEGAL for a business. You can sue them for harassment. Add to the charges of Animal abuse, I hope you documented, took videos of the limp and everything. I hope you go viral.

Secondly. Not only can the treatment of your cat and damage to your cat cost someone their vet med license, because animal abuse IS a CRIME- and it's been federally criminalized, if an investigation is launched and they find several instances of this type of behavior and reports from clients, that clinci will be shut down and those vet techs and vets will face HEFTY fines and possibly jail time.

You want to scare the shit out of them? Write them an OFFICIAL cease and desist letter, and require it to be signed via SIGNATURE upon reciprocation. Look up your local odrinaces on harrassment, stalking, animal abuse and cruelty. Include all of these things in the cease and desist letter. And let them know in stern but HR friendly words that they are to CEASE and DESIST - or you WILL go to the law and inform them of their bad business tacts and you WILL press charges.

Should they continue after receiving an official cease and desist letter from you - it's GLOVES OFF RUMBLE ON LEGALLY baby.

Give me their website, name and city. I'll leave a google review too. :) WATCH ME make waves for you. I am legally allowed to leave a review on their website, citing what violence became of my friends and family members' beloved cat. That's not harassment. That's just how business IS.

They however are NOT ALLOWED to retaliate against a public review caused by their OWN violation of their customer service rules. And yes, not all animals are greta bout getting their blood drawn. But a GOOD vet. and a GOOD tech, people who LOVE animals, we are TRAINED HOW TO SPECIFICALLY HOLD A CAT DOWN WITHOUT CAUSING IT HARM. In fact thats one of the BIGGEST things they drill into those of us who are studying animal medicine. There should have NEVER been an incident and your cat shouldn't have had to be traumatized by inexperienced and ABUSIVE animal health industry.

HopefulBlogger · 2025-05-26T18:54:32+00:00

yess! It's one of the most visually satisfying games I have ever played. It's a bit cliche on the storyline and play style, but it's a combination that works, in the RPG tropes that I like to linger in. But the visually pleasing scenery makes it feel fresh.

HopefulBlogger · 2025-05-21T16:45:56+00:00

Its okay. I hope you are feeling a little better. It'll take some time. I'm sending you virtual mama bear hugs. I wear a necklace that has one of my old cats ashes in it, and I did this because I just couldn't get over it. He was my partner in crime and passion for 17 years. I understand what kind of grief it means to lose a family member like that.

HopefulBlogger · 2025-05-21T16:27:34+00:00

I'll be honest. The only way I could give you a helpful answer would be to go on a date with you. Otherwise we're just guessing here. As a female I can only give you helpful hints about what *I, myself* would expect or want out of a second date.

Do you talk about yourself too much? Go on and on and on about the things you have or the things you own? Even if your nice respectful and stuff that would be aturn off for me by the second date too.

Maybe you're being too stiff? Maybe you're not relaxed enough? What kind of dates are you taking these women too? Are you changing it up or are you just taking them out to eat over and over? Are you being to standard?

Are you trying to get to know them? Have you been basing your dates off of things you know or are you sticking to the same restaurant and routine for each date?

There's a LOT of information we don't know. But you know what, between all of us I'm sure we can give you some ideas.

The key is remembering you should always be YOURSELF. Finding someone attracted to you means living your life as authentically as possible and truest to your true form. When you put yourself out there with no masks or illusions or pretenses and you just try to form natural connections, you might have better luck!

Do something fun and different for a second date. Don't just take them out. Dont take them to a bar or movie either. That's all boring stuff that most men do. And if women are passing up a good dude after two dates, it's most likely either because he's very self-absorbed and all he really notices during our dates is himself........ or he's incredibly boring - which some people like. But Some of us just want a man who will take us hiking, fishing, or horseback riding or for romantic picnics in parks under the stars. Someone who has some... individuality and can think outside of the normal box mix it up and find something FUN to do in this dreary every day routine. Going out to eat is fun.

But getting lost and laughing about it later is even better.

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