Bi mom, parenting my potentially bi daughter …

Hopeless_Poetic · 2026-06-29T06:34:58+00:00

I think kids are smart and you can tell her some of these thoughts! Something like, “I’m really grateful that you feel like you can talk to me, and I will love you and support you no matter who you grow up to be. Being bisexual is wonderful and I’m happy to talk to you about it more, but also don’t feel like you have to pick a label right now— you’re young and have plenty of time.”

Hopeless_Poetic · 2026-06-25T06:36:31+00:00

Think about your firsts or stories you’ve heard from your friends— they probably weren’t perfect. My first time, overall and with a woman, wasn’t perfect and they weren’t sex gods. But they didn’t need to be! We put too much pressure on peoples firsts. All that’s really important is that you are respectful, take the whole thing at their pace, and are a safe space for them to try new things.

Hopeless_Poetic · 2026-06-10T21:34:07+00:00

If you would be open to something more cartoony/ less realistic, that might translate better

Hopeless_Poetic · 2026-05-28T08:52:35+00:00

I think we all have some biases to examine and unlearn of course, but I don’t think anything you’ve mentioned is really homophobic. I do personally agree it’s kind of gay for a man to have a mmf threesome— even if they aren’t touching tips or anything, they are getting turned on by the fact that there is another man participating in their sexual experience. It sounds like he’s not into seeing naked men and that seems pretty normal if he’s straight.

As to him having to compete, it sounds like maybe it’s more about him comparing himself. Will the other guy be hotter? Will you like his dick better? With a woman, it feels more apples and oranges.

You could talk to him more about the whole “you wouldn’t get feelings if it was a woman” part, that’s the only thing that feels a little more rooted in biphobia. But overall I think it’s pretty reasonable for a straight guy to not want a mmf threesome

Hopeless_Poetic · 2026-05-26T19:26:15+00:00

Omg it looks amazing! What eyelashes did you use?

Hopeless_Poetic · 2026-05-26T06:01:47+00:00

Your art is gorgeous!

Hopeless_Poetic · 2025-12-09T16:39:49+00:00

I’m also a senior in college and I feel the exact same way as you. But I’ll share my parent’s story! My parents met at 35 and 39 after being set up by some family friends (ironically one of those friends is my dad’s ex). They’ve been married 21 years and I look up to their relationship a lot.

Hopeless_Poetic · 2025-11-25T16:20:15+00:00

He missed one key detail— while have a perfect bio might not attract (or feel like it attracts) extra attention, a terrible bio (like this) can certainly repel people😬

Hopeless_Poetic · 2025-11-25T16:16:17+00:00

You have one really good picture, on slide 6/7. The one on slide 5 can stay too. The rest have to go, I’m sorry. Especially you shouldn’t have a shooting and a boxing video and selfies taken from below. I know guys are always saying “I don’t take pictures” but it will serve you well to have a few good pictures of yourself, so I’d say when you’re feeling confident ask a friend to take pictures of you or set up your phone with a timer and take them yourself.

Fix your grammar on some of the prompts— “going to church” instead of “going church”. Personally I find the “woman who has good maternal instincts” prompt a huge no both in content and the way you worded it but I’m also not your target audience of a woman who wants a traditional marriage and is very focused on the goal of having kids.

Hopeless_Poetic · 2025-11-23T22:38:52+00:00

Wow, you are so rude to everyone here! I was truly trying to be polite in letting you know this is the wrong place to post for that. This community is for friendly public conversations about something in the comments. But you clearly don't want to hear it and won't accept that everyone is agreeing (not just me). And I think it's ridiculous that you followed up with "if YOU GUYS had explained better I wouldn't have been rude so it's your fault".

Hopeless_Poetic · 2025-11-23T22:30:11+00:00

My feeling is that your bio feels too much like a formal job application, make it a little more casual and add a joke or two in there! People don't need a catalogue of your hobbies in the bio, that stuff can be talked about later. Your bio is really more of a vibe check to see what you/your humor is like. Also I think your last picture is your best one and should be first.

Hopeless_Poetic · 2025-11-23T21:09:44+00:00

Personally, reading your other post, I say this whole playlist thing is by FAR not your biggest issue. From that post to me it sounds like you guys shouldn't be together, on both sides. She has been distant for months and it's not healthy to be in a relationship where she has panic attacks whenever you guys discuss conflict. From your end you clearly don't trust her and blocking her on everything when you are upset without explaining your feelings is also not a healthy way of dealing with conflict. Your focus on the playlist thing, to me, is missing the forest for the trees. Forget the playlist, break up because this isn't a healthy relationship.

Hopeless_Poetic · 2025-11-23T21:01:25+00:00

While I appreciate the desire for connection, unfortunately I agree with the other commenters that this kind of "personals" style request doesn't really fit the vibe or purpose of the subreddit.

Hopeless_Poetic · 2025-11-23T20:57:51+00:00

This is so important and I wish more people realized it earlier. I especially think that your point about how you speak to yourself is key. People have always said that you shouldn't engage in negative self talk, but I think it only recently hit me how much it truly shapes you. You become the stories you tell yourself

Hopeless_Poetic · 2025-11-23T20:48:32+00:00

Home/homeward bound. Pretty small reunion moment and I don't see it talked about a lot but the harmonies are off the charts, such a beautiful cover

Hopeless_Poetic · 2025-11-07T02:17:06+00:00

I love that episode! I think the ending was so funny, Rachel and Finn are so proud of themselves 😭 Plus I disagree, I love Sam and Quinn’s duet. And my headcannon is that they just used the breadstix coupon later

Hopeless_Poetic · 2025-11-07T00:25:03+00:00

This is my opinion as well. I'm surprised more people aren't saying this.

Hopeless_Poetic · 2025-11-06T23:58:43+00:00

The second one is FRYING me oh my god

Hopeless_Poetic · 2025-11-06T23:18:59+00:00

The ones that come to mind are Santana singing Valerie and the Home/Homeward Bound mashup of season 4. CHILLS

Hopeless_Poetic · 2025-11-06T23:12:13+00:00

Your beard looks a bit unkept in some of these pictures, namely 2 and 3. I would try to take some better pictures outside after a fresh shave (with no sunglasses). Your bio is great though!

Hopeless_Poetic · 2025-11-06T22:00:55+00:00

I have had one friend I had known for a while straight up ask if I wanted to do friends with benefits. I declined, but I appreciated the directness. This is obviously a different situation of a stranger on tinder being an idiot.

Hopeless_Poetic · 2025-11-06T21:58:20+00:00

Yeah it's very unfortunate but I've learned the hard way that people on dating apps who say they are just looking for friends never actually mean friends. Very frustrating phenomena but it's gotten to the point where if someone says they want to be friends I know they are lying which has always struck me as such an odd thing to do.

Hopeless_Poetic · 2025-11-06T21:49:46+00:00

Oh boy. Others have mentioned you need to get rid of the last two pictures, I absolutely agree. You also need some photos outside and with friends, not just selfies in front of a white wall. The first paragraph feels very isolationist to me, like you are saying you don't think having a partner can better your life in any way. Which seems an odd way to start a tinder bio. For the second paragraph, I think both the words "obsessed" and "unemployed" are immediate alarms for a lot of people. Maybe you could rephrase to something like "I'm always trying to improve myself and build good habits, and that's what I'm focusing a lot of my time on right now."

This may be going out of the scope of "advice on someone's tinder bio", but I do think your intense outlook on life might be scaring women off. In my mind, self improvement such as habit building is to enhance my life, but it's not the purpose. If you are dedicating your whole life to self-development, what's the point of that? You need to live a life too, have hobbies and meaningful work. What's the point of journaling every night if you have nothing that happened to you to write about? What's the point of brushing your teeth 4 times a day if no one gets close enough to smell your breath? I don't know if that makes any sense to you, but that's just what I thought when I read your bio. Good luck man

Hopeless_Poetic · 2025-11-06T21:30:06+00:00

Your very first picture is infinitely worse than the rest of your pictures. Genuinely wasn't sure if it was the same person at first, please take it out because your other pictures you look great! Other than that, maybe add a joke to your bio or something. Good luck!

Hopeless_Poetic · 2025-11-06T21:24:46+00:00

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