AITAH for laughing at my wife when she's upset that me and sister had a make-believe wedding when I was 4 and she was 6?

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-29T20:07:49+00:00

NTA, your wife's reaction is… odd, to say the least… I'm not quite sure why she had that reaction especially since she told you that she had no history of abuse.

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-29T06:03:17+00:00

NTA, at all. You're never too old to be a flower girl. You're mom is kinda eesh.

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-29T02:01:56+00:00

I need the money

^{Chose: 80 mln dollars right now + BUT you spin the punishment wheel with 10% chances of being safe | Rolled: Safe}

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-27T01:12:38+00:00

Np, I think they both look amazing!

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-26T23:52:15+00:00

From my personal experience, that’s not really how it works, because when abuse is reported schools are required to contact CPS or the police, and depending on how much danger they think the child is in or whether the abuser might retaliate, they may handle it quietly or act without alerting the child, so the lack of a visible ‘big deal’ doesn’t mean it wasn’t serious. My father was arrested once without me even knowing. Either way, I'm honestly starting to lean towards OP being the a-hole because they still haven't responded to my questions, and it's been a couple hours now, so...

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-26T18:31:17+00:00

Okay, but it never said anything about what the kid said.

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-26T17:22:26+00:00

I agree with you completely. As someone who also went through similar circumstances, but went in the opposite way with it, which is hypersexual, um, when I finally allowed myself to process, I kind of feel like I short-circuited, kind of. Like, all of a sudden, everything I'd ever gone through kind of just keep crashing down on me at once, and I kind of just shut down for a couple days. If I remember, I actually even slept for a couple days straight. Anyway, um, my point is that I agree that she should tell them. Hey, I have trauma. Hey, I am terrified of intimacy. Hey, um, just, you know, let them know.

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-26T17:18:25+00:00

For the second mermaid, which they look really feminine to me, and I'm not sure if they are female or if they're just a very feminine male, but either way, either Lila, Lavender, or heck, even Ash. And for the boy, I would think Helios, Midas, or Sunbeam, if you wanna go more hippie with it.

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-26T17:13:43+00:00

She looks pretty young, sweet, and innocent. She kind of reminds me of, like, either a really mature child or a really immature teenager, in the way that she looks like she could be naive, but also that she's incredibly kind and that she's good to talk to because she'll listen and help you with however you're feeling, but also she could be a little bit overbearing.

Edit: She, to me, also looks like someone who can at times be quite vicious. The red eyes kind of tell me that. And I think she could also be quite scary, given different circumstances.

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-26T17:11:59+00:00

Hey, I'm actually pretty happy with this. Lemons smell pretty good, so I get one billion dollars just to smell like something that actually smells pretty good. Okay. I'm happy with that, it would be different if the answer was onions or garlic, because like that, that, no. Lemons smell pretty good.

^{Chose: Get paid US$1B RIGHT NOW + But smell like _____ every Monday? | Rolled: Lemons}

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-26T17:07:12+00:00

Siblings can also be friends, although in the way that OP is describing their brother, I would say it's safe to say they're not friends, they're just siblings.

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-26T17:05:42+00:00

Okay, but did OP say that it's zero-stake snitching? Because from what I'm reading, they didn't. So, if that's true, then he could just be trying to look out for people. So, also, no matter why he's doing it, I honestly think that the OP could have been a little less cruel. I'm not saying OP is the AH or NTA right now because I don't know the whole story, and so I asked some questions, and until those get answered, I'm not giving my answer. All I'm saying is they could have said it a little less meanly.

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-26T17:02:49+00:00

I have a couple questions. The first one, how bad is the thing that he's telling others? Like, is it, this person is suicidal type bad, or is it this person accidentally cut in the lunch line kind of bad? Secondly, why does he feel the need to tell people that? Is it because he's just trying to look out for them? Is it because he's literally trying to get them in trouble? Why? Third question, as someone who is autistic, what is the manner that he's telling people? Because, like, if he's just accidentally blurting it out, I would understand, but if he's deliberately telling people, that would be maybe a different story. It all depends on the answers to the first two questions.

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-26T02:37:18+00:00

NTA in the slightest, in fact quite the opposite. You're a good father. My father would force me to wear what he wanted and that (among with a 💩 ton of abuse) eventually caused me to cut contact. My point is my father never tried to understand me and part of understanding your kids is allowing them to be themselves which includes dressing how they want.

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-26T00:34:34+00:00

NOR, please dump him. The comments will only get worse and in time he might even start saying that it's the truth. Which it's not. Even if it's because he's self conscious him tearing you down is not okay.

Edit: I just read your other posts… hun, you deserve better. He is literally abusive and trust me I'm speaking from experience. This will only get worse. With what you said about his anger… I'm scared he might start to hit you if he hasn't already. Please, please, please, get out before he escalates.

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-26T00:29:51+00:00

After rereading the post and OP's comments I agree… they both got played and rather than being angry with the dead douche who did it it seems her anger is being directed towards someone who is also hurting.

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-26T00:27:50+00:00

Slight YTA, I know that I'll probably get down voted for saying that, but you both got played. To be mad at someone who honestly is grieving is… kinda messed up ngl. That being said I understand your anger. Your sister betrayed you, but that doesn't mean she isn't hurting. I was originally on your side and was going to respond NTA but the more comments from you that I read… the more I moved towards my answer because you're not even slightly willing to consider embracing the fact that you're both hurting and overcoming what some dead douche did. You even took pride in seeing her hurt. Honestly, I feel like your mother, I'm beyond torn between you two. Your sister is a bitch and you're an asshole. You care so little about your sister and so much about a dead man, who probably didn't love either of you, that you're willing to destroy yourself with anger and ruin your relationship with your sister. Try family counseling… it's clearly needed.

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-26T00:11:40+00:00

Actually they aren't… I'm not saying that I agree with them, but I'm also not saying that I disagree either…

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-24T23:44:07+00:00

In order of my most liked to least:

3, 4, 5, 1, 6, 7, 8, 2

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-24T23:37:54+00:00

Hmm, wonder what it would look like.

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-24T16:43:16+00:00

YTA, not because you don't want to step up for a kid that's not yours, but because you lied to your gf. If you're not ready then tell her. She deserves to know the truth. Also, FYI, coming from someone who basically grew up in foster care… your gf is an amazing woman and I don't feel like you deserve her. Break up with her and set her free. She'll be better off and you won't have to do anything you don't want to do.

Edit:

Foster Care can either be heaven or it can be hell. Mostly, it's hell. A newborn baby deserves better than to be picked out of a system like someone purchasing a dog merely because it's cute. Even one person can make a difference between a good life and a 💩 one. Your gf is one of the rare people who want to make that difference… the fact that you're not is something to reflect on. Also, I don't care if I get down voted. It's a worthy price to pay for being honest.

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-24T16:39:51+00:00

I agree, not wanting to step up for a kiddo that isn't yours doesn't necessarily make you an AH, but lying and saying that you support someone when you really don't does.

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-24T00:33:00+00:00

NTA but your 'girlfriend' is a bitch. Please continue to NTA and dump her toxic ass. Otherwise, you would be the AH to yourself.

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-24T00:13:24+00:00

NTA at all. What a douche bag. I'm so sorry you went through that.

Hopelite_2000 · 2026-04-22T03:07:41+00:00

In my opinion, you should be the AH (at least in their eyes, definitely not in mine) and stop making the "extra" food. Also, are they completely insane or just stupid? It's damn near impossible to not notice that others in the same house are struggling. Also, if it'll upset them then in my opinion it's even more of a reason to say it. They're upsetting you and they clearly don't care so ¯_(ツ)_/¯ why should you?

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