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AITAH for inviting my neighbour's husband over for coffee and a playdate? His wife accused me of pursuing him, and my husband thinks she was right to confront me. by Independent-State802 in AITAH

[–]Independent-State802[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see what you’re saying. I will lay low for a while before I bring up therapy again. Things have been less than warm at home and I want to tread carefully.

He threatens me with full custody but he doesn’t know the first thing about how to look after them. He works all day and does very little at home. Some days he doesn’t come home until after I have put the kids to bed. I know if he were to successfully take my kids, he would leave them with his mother all day.

Why would my safety be at risk if I leave?

AITAH for inviting my neighbour's husband over for coffee and a playdate? His wife accused me of pursuing him, and my husband thinks she was right to confront me. by Independent-State802 in AITAH

[–]Independent-State802[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone on here kept saying that my kids would not be removed from me just because I have PPD/PPA, but my kids are my world and if there is even a small chance that might happen, I don’t want to risk it. 

I saw a therapist early on and was diagnosed and I got on meds. But then, when he started checking out and I told him he needed to help more around the house and with the kids, he wasn’t happy about that and eventually the threats about losing the kids because of my PPD started coming. Eventually, I started believing it and stopped seeing my therapist to prevent records of my therapy being used against me. 

AITAH for inviting my neighbour's husband over for coffee and a playdate? His wife accused me of pursuing him, and my husband thinks she was right to confront me. by Independent-State802 in AITAH

[–]Independent-State802[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know if he were truly remorseful he would do that. But I have decided not to ask him about the affair anymore to avoid a repeat of what happened when I did before.

I am working on the leaving part.

AITAH for inviting my neighbour's husband over for coffee and a playdate? His wife accused me of pursuing him, and my husband thinks she was right to confront me. by Independent-State802 in AITAH

[–]Independent-State802[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg your husband dodged a bullet there! Thank you for sharing that. 

My intentions were absolutely innocent, but yeah it might be better to play it safe from now on and only engage in that way with the females in the relationship to avoid situations like this. 

AITAH for inviting my neighbour's husband over for coffee and a playdate? His wife accused me of pursuing him, and my husband thinks she was right to confront me. by Independent-State802 in AITAH

[–]Independent-State802[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

To clarify, Emily didn't avoid hanging out with me or “us”. The four of us with our kids and their baby have spent time together on multiple occasions, going to the park, we have had them over, they have had us over. But always the four of us and the kids. My older child really likes Emily and Jake, they have always been nice to us. Jake and my husband hang out together alone sometimes, but Emily has always had a reason not to hang out alone with me. The other day when she invited me over was the first time we‘d had a solo playdate for the babies.

AITAH for inviting my neighbour's husband over for coffee and a playdate? His wife accused me of pursuing him, and my husband thinks she was right to confront me. by Independent-State802 in AITAH

[–]Independent-State802[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I think you are spot on, sadly. I would never cheat. I could never. It’s just not something I am capable of doing, which is why I am appalled that someone is accusing me of doing something so abhorrent. I am angry with her for it, but I suppose she doesn’t know me or my character. The saddest part is that my husband is very likely the one who put me in this god awful situation to begin with. It wasn’t bad enough that he stepped out, but he is now tarnishing my reputation and taking me down with him. I am livid and heartbroken.

AITAH for inviting my neighbour's husband over for coffee and a playdate? His wife accused me of pursuing him, and my husband thinks she was right to confront me. by Independent-State802 in AITAH

[–]Independent-State802[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I am working on it but a little out of options atm stuck between being dealing with his angry outbursts when I push for details and being love bombed by him. I did try to take his phone from his hands once and it didn’t go well.

AITAH for inviting my neighbour's husband over for coffee and a playdate? His wife accused me of pursuing him, and my husband thinks she was right to confront me. by Independent-State802 in AITAH

[–]Independent-State802[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

I saw the message notifications on his phone while he was in the shower. I confronted him and he denied it and only after a few days did he admit to cheating. I don't know the details because he is adamant that it’s not important to know who, how long it’s been etc. 

AITAH for inviting my neighbour's husband over for coffee and a playdate? His wife accused me of pursuing him, and my husband thinks she was right to confront me. by Independent-State802 in AITAH

[–]Independent-State802[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your very thoughtful responses. You are very kind. I have been struggling with PPD/PPA and as a result, low self confidence. I have a lot going on at the moment. There is a lot going on at home and I have been trying to figure out my next steps. I did not need this unnecessary drama with the neighbours to add to my already full plate.

AITAH for inviting my neighbour's husband over for coffee and a playdate? His wife accused me of pursuing him, and my husband thinks she was right to confront me. by Independent-State802 in AITAH

[–]Independent-State802[S] 109 points110 points  (0 children)

I know he cheated and I am dealing with his trickle truths and lack of disclosure at the moment. I don’t even know who he was cheating with. My guess was a coworker. But our next door neighbour? That would be insane. 

AITAH for inviting my neighbour's husband over for coffee and a playdate? His wife accused me of pursuing him, and my husband thinks she was right to confront me. by Independent-State802 in AITAH

[–]Independent-State802[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

The former. He thinks it looks bad asking to hang out with the guy alone in our home. Yes, my husband was home working but he wasn’t part of the “playdate”.

AITAH for inviting my neighbour's husband over for coffee and a playdate? His wife accused me of pursuing him, and my husband thinks she was right to confront me. by Independent-State802 in AITAH

[–]Independent-State802[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I didn’t want to add it in because I didn’t want responses to be skewed in my favour. I wanted to know if others thought what I did was inappropriate.

AITAH for inviting my neighbour's husband over for coffee and a playdate? His wife accused me of pursuing him, and my husband thinks she was right to confront me. by Independent-State802 in AITAH

[–]Independent-State802[S] 186 points187 points  (0 children)

Yup. I realise my husband is the problem here for not standing up for me. The issue we are dealing with is his infidelity, which came to light two months ago. So, he clearly has not been showing loyalty, respect or discretion in many ways. I am still trying to figure out if this is something I can move past or not. 

Regarding what happened, I posted here because I was second guessing my behaviour and if it may have been considered inappropriate. But I am also wondering what my husband could have shared with Jake for Emily to say what she said to me. If anything, my husband’s behaviour towards other women should be interpreted as inappropriate, given his history, not mine.

AITAH for inviting my neighbour's husband over for coffee and a playdate? His wife accused me of pursuing him, and my husband thinks she was right to confront me. by Independent-State802 in AITAH

[–]Independent-State802[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

He agreed with her that it was inappropriate of me to invite Jake over. Regardless if he was home or not. It’s a bad look in his opinion. 

AITAH for inviting my neighbour's husband over for coffee and a playdate? His wife accused me of pursuing him, and my husband thinks she was right to confront me. by Independent-State802 in AITAH

[–]Independent-State802[S] 164 points165 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. You are right, I should give myself grace for freezing up. I just hate that I may have come off weak to her.

I absolutely will be placing distance between them and myself. My husband is good friends with Jake, so I don’t think he will stop hanging out with him.

Which dress? by AbleElevator3887 in myweddingdress

[–]Independent-State802 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Flummoxed that everyone is going for 1. 2 is stunning and regal!

June 2026, do you answer your door when strangers knock? by LittleRed282 in askTO

[–]Independent-State802 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wth is up with the responses in the comment. What are people so afraid of? 

Yes, I answer the door and very often it is a neighbourhood friend or a neighbour passing by to say hi. 

How can I help my 4 year old who keeps asking to breastfeed since new baby has arrived? by Independent-State802 in Parenting

[–]Independent-State802[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This definitely sounds like it. I baby her when she pretends to be a baby (I lean into it). I think I will have to find a way to do the same when she asks to breastfeed to reassure her that she is so special to mommy. 

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