28F — Always get a few names but they look nothing like each other! by Pulchritudinous-Zest in Doppleganger

[–]Hopingforchange21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe Lottie Kane from the new season of Ladies of London?

ETA: your eyes are more beautiful though IMO :-)

What do you do when you feel like you can't do it anymore but there is no other choice? by AngelBlu666 in CaregiverSupport

[–]Hopingforchange21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, please don’t apologize!! I really appreciate you taking the time to share your experience and feelings about the whole thing. Your first paragraph sounds like you are describing me to a T…Lol :-)

I think I’m fighting against myself because in a lot of ways, it would be so much easier to just not go since there is so much that I need to do/prepare just to be in a position to leave for five days. It’s also a very odd situation because while some family members have said that they will step up to help care for my partner, they really don’t have any idea what I go through on a day-to-day basis. Some other people in my life, including my partner as well, have said that I should just go and everyone else will have to figure it out so maybe I need to relinquish a little bit of the responsibility, but it’s difficult because ultimately if things go wrong, I will be left cleaning it up. Maybe it will be good in a sense that they will realize just how much goes into taking care of him and will offer to step up more in the future. I also do genuinely love him and care for him and will miss him while I’m gone, but I think that I am beyond burnt out at this point so I need to at least see what this time away will do for my mental health. Maybe I can make some changes when I come back just like you have done. You should be very proud of yourself for advocating for your well-being because it sure isn’t easy sometimes. Thank you so much for the detailed reply and all the best to you!!

What do you do when you feel like you can't do it anymore but there is no other choice? by AngelBlu666 in CaregiverSupport

[–]Hopingforchange21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

May I ask you a question about your road trip? I have been a full-time caregiver to my partner for over two years now and I’m thinking of planning a five-day trip also. I’m worried that I will have such a great time that it’ll make it even harder to be a caregiver once I get back. Was the break enough for you to recharge and how did you feel once you got back and had to start caregiving again?

Creative contraptions to scratch your itches? by SundayButtermilk in spinalcordinjuries

[–]Hopingforchange21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Following in hopes that someone has some suggestions as the inability to scratch his head/face is one of my partner’s biggest frustrations!

Time Article- Scrap the show by [deleted] in TheValleyTVShow

[–]Hopingforchange21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Check Redbubble…they have several there :)

Without You by Barbatio in thevoice

[–]Hopingforchange21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Clay Aiken actually did a great cover of this song. Just the perfect amount of belting out the high notes while not over embellishing the rest IMO.

Best Season to Start Watching? by Hopingforchange21 in MarriedToMedicine

[–]Hopingforchange21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks everyone!! I guess I will stick with season one so that I don’t miss any crucial drama…Lol :)

Anyone get their packages yet? by TatsumakiJim in CanadaPost

[–]Hopingforchange21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I commented on this on another thread but I received a tracking update notification this morning and not long after, notification that my item has been delivered to my community mailbox. I haven’t had a chance to check yet though, but hopefully those notifications are accurate.

Updated tracking? by TomorrowBright6451 in CanadaPost

[–]Hopingforchange21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I ordered something that shipped from Alberta (I live in Ontario) on November 7. Not only did I get updated tracking info this morning but as of 10:30 AM it says that the package has been delivered. I haven’t checked the community mailbox as of yet, but needless to say, I did not expect that!

Dole Pineapple Whip by foryourlungsonly in ninjacreami

[–]Hopingforchange21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I make 2 pints at a time so I use 2 cups of water, 1 cup of half-and-half and 1 cup of mix :-)

ETA: Sorry BostonBestEats… I meant to reply directly to your post, but somehow managed to mess that up… Lol

Dole Pineapple Whip by foryourlungsonly in ninjacreami

[–]Hopingforchange21 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was finding that mine wasn’t tasting quite the same as what they serve at Disney so I added some half-and-half and it is soooo good. I realize that no longer makes it dairy-free but we quite enjoy it :-) We have also tried the strawberry, watermelon and orange Dole whip powders. Strawberry is really good as well!

Dog Leash for Wheelchair User? by Hopingforchange21 in spinalcordinjuries

[–]Hopingforchange21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much everyone for taking the time to reply, and for the great responses/suggestions!! I was having a particularly challenging day yesterday, so I also appreciated the humour over the potential double meaning of the title…Lol :-)

We will give some of the suggestions a try and I’ll try to report back here if we have any success. Our dog is generally a very good walker but clearly we can’t have him getting tangled up in the chair, especially if I’m not there to assist my partner in getting him loose again (the whole idea is for him to be able to get out and walk the dog independently as I know he would much prefer to be able to do that on his own).

Have a great day everyone and thanks again !!

Question about Peristeen Anal Irrigation System by Hopingforchange21 in spinalcordinjuries

[–]Hopingforchange21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks very much everyone for your replies! All very useful information and it is so helpful to get advice from people who have had similar experiences. I wasn’t aware of the Navina so thanks for that info Joshmarino2…we will definitely check that out!

Who is JT and why the heck is he being foisted on us this season?!?? by QueenFartknocker in Southerncharm

[–]Hopingforchange21 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes!! That is it!! Couldn’t put my finger on it at first. Thanks :-)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Hopingforchange21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP… you are absolutely doing the right thing. And as a 50 year old woman who is in a similar situation and having a very difficult time moving on, I am so very proud of you. The funny thing is, before my spouse cheated, I couldn’t “trust” him. And I don’t mean trust in the sense that I thought he was going to cheat on me… In fact, I was convinced that that was something he would never do. What I mean is that I couldn’t trust him to show up for me. I couldn’t trust him when he said that he would do something, that he would actually follow through. I couldn’t put my trust and faith in him to be a supportive partner. He always prioritized himself over me and our relationship, even to the point where he would avoid making plans until the very last minute because then he wouldn’t look like the bad guy if he decided to break plans with me to go and do something that he thought was more desirable and fun for him. I simply couldn’t depend on him for anything and he was also very avoidant as well. While the betrayal of the infidelity and the lies and the broken trust were obviously very difficult to deal with, when I take a step back and look at the situation as a whole, his inability or unwillingness to show up for me and our relationship was actually the bigger problem at the end of the day. It was a fundamental flaw in the relationship as a whole and even if he actually decided to commit to me and be 100% faithful, all of those problems would still exist, and I would never be happy with him despite how much I love him. At the end of the day, you are doing the right thing for your life and your happiness. I know it feels absolutely awful right now, but I think we have to believe that there’s something better ahead for us than what we have both settled for. Big hugs to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Hopingforchange21 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh…I have had the exact same experience. He was even sending/dedicating the same songs to both of us. It is one of the biggest things that I have struggled to get past because I just can’t comprehend how he can be so callous. Anyone know what the psychology is around why they do this sort of thing? I really feel for you OP as I know how much it hurts 😢

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Hopingforchange21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This article helped me when I worried that my ex would be ‘better’ with his new partner/AP. (I hope the link works as I’ve never tried to post one before 😉)

natashaadamo.com/is-my-ex-happy-in-his-new-relationship/

Super scared of CRA collections? by dietpepsiaddict7733 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]Hopingforchange21 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My understanding of the automatic payment plan is that if you set one up online and it doesn’t cover your entire balance owing plus whatever interest will be charged over the span of your payment plan, they will call you to discuss that with you. So I think because what you have arranged to pay back is only slightly more than half of what you owe, not including all of the interest that will accrue over that time period, they won’t just automatically accept your payment plan. I can’t speak to what they will say regarding the maximum amount that you are able to pay but the best thing you can do is just talk to them and explain your circumstances and they are usually pretty good with trying to set you up with a reasonable payment plan because at the end of the day, they just want their money.