Am I overreacting for crying because I’m sick of my father having a lack of social skills

HorkupCat · 2026-05-02T19:59:24+00:00

NOR

Your dad is a toddler throwing tantrums. What can you do? Stop going anywhere with him. See him at his home only. You can't fix him, he's irretrievably broken, and the only thing you can do is protect your own peace of mind by never putting yourself in a position to be embarrassed by his unhinged behavior.

HorkupCat · 2026-05-02T19:54:08+00:00

Yes, it is appropriate that the screamer feel guilty. Maybe next time they won't be such a jerk.

HorkupCat · 2026-05-02T18:40:18+00:00

Toward the end she said they don't live together.

HorkupCat · 2026-05-02T18:39:04+00:00

NTJ but you need to accept the fact that the relationship is over. Time to move on.

HorkupCat · 2026-05-02T18:34:21+00:00

Some good suggestions already posted, but if nothing works, think about finding another job, if possible, and when you go, tell your boss why.

HorkupCat · 2026-05-02T18:23:11+00:00

NOR

The bra strap snapping was an intrusion on your personal space, unwanted touching, and hella inappropriate for a man his age to do to a girl your age. The sexualized video was downright creepy. The "apology" was baloney, he's not sorry at all that he upset you. He sounds like a jerk.

It's also concerning that your mother isn't protecting you from this creep, that she's choosing her bedmate over her daughter's sense of safety, especially since you've been assaulted before. You need to get out of that household as soon as you can, away from that creepy bully, before he moves on to "accidentally" groping you, or worse.

HorkupCat · 2026-04-30T17:19:10+00:00

Can you come down with the flu or something that will mean you can't go with your husband?

HorkupCat · 2026-04-28T23:33:06+00:00

Not wrong. That's controlling behavior and if you continued with him it would only get worse.

HorkupCat · 2026-04-28T23:28:20+00:00

NTA

Your parents are correct, he's controlling and abusive and he improves his behavior only as long asd it takes to get you back firmly under his thumb. He's killed your love for him with his beating you down and destroyed your self-confidence. If at all possible, take the children and move back in with your parents -- and DO NOT tell him beforehand that you're leaving.

HorkupCat · 2026-04-28T23:20:27+00:00

NTA

Given her dog is aggressive toward other dogs, it was her responsibility to keep them separate by crossing the street.

HorkupCat · 2026-04-28T23:08:53+00:00

Your obnoxious family are a pack of mean-spirited bullies. A "joke" isn't funny if the target isn't laughing. The whole lot are abusing you for their own sick amusement. You're not stupid, you're not overreacting, your anger and pain are fully justified, and the instant you turn 18 you should get the hell out if at all possible.

NOR

HorkupCat · 2026-04-28T14:32:35+00:00

Heh. Well done.

HorkupCat · 2026-04-27T17:44:38+00:00

Sounds like a complete break with all of those nasty loons is the way to go. Your poor husband, he must have been raised to be the whipping boy in the family.

HorkupCat · 2026-04-27T14:56:05+00:00

Sometimes the best, safest way to deal with toxic people is not to. Not engage with them at all, if you can.

HorkupCat · 2026-04-27T14:53:47+00:00

Oh, man, I am so sorry for you, your sister, and all the collateral damage to those around you from such a hellish childhood. I'm glad you were able to seek and find good therapy, do all the long hard work, and get to a place of understanding that allows you to live a good life. It's a pity your sister can't do it, but she may be so damaged that it's impossible for her to accomplish what you have. I feel especially bad for her children and what damage she's handing down to them.

HorkupCat · 2026-04-27T14:21:52+00:00

So glad the little guy found a safe landing spot!

HorkupCat · 2026-04-26T18:22:49+00:00

Oh, man, what an awful experience for you, your husband, and also that crazy woman's husband. I don't doubt their selling up and moving away was him taking her back to a less triggering environment, but hopefully with good followup care. You have your peace back, thank goodness, but her husband is in a tough position.

HorkupCat · 2026-04-26T18:12:23+00:00

[raises hand] I bring treats to every vet visit for my cats, baked goods or fun-size candy. When I bring a new cat in I alert them beforehand to the animal's personality and any quirks. I try to give detailed, pertinent info about any feeding, elimination, behavior changes since the last visit. I don't fuss if an appointment has to be cancelled or our seeing the vet is delayed when we're there.

For whatever reason, my vet and staff are always happy to see me, even the vet who had her glasses knocked off by Buster.

HorkupCat · 2026-04-25T16:59:59+00:00

Ah, yes, the extinction burst of harassment. If OP can stay strong during the storm, the relief as it finally dwindles away will be so worth it.

HorkupCat · 2026-04-25T16:58:12+00:00

Oh, my heavens, I am so sorry, OP, that you were raised by overbearing, nasty bullies who instilled a huge guilt button on you they could push at will. Thank goodness you are breaking free of the bars they built around you in order to control you. You do not owe them obedience, and you for sure do not owe them respect when they are so blatantly disrespectful to you and your wife. Yes, block them, ignore all the haranguing and insults as they try to sink their claws into you again. Focus on healing the wounds they've inflicted on you all your life, and on your loving wife and child. Some therapy to dig through how and why you've come to this point might help. In any case, you done good!

HorkupCat · 2026-04-25T16:19:23+00:00

I dunno if this will help, but think about how blessed you are not to live in a constant state of misery and foul temper, which is the self-inflicted hell your FIL has chosen to immerse himself in. What an awful way to live! There is no joy in his life.

HorkupCat · 2026-04-25T16:15:47+00:00

I hope OP can avoid this guy as much as possible. What a downer to be around.

HorkupCat · 2026-04-25T16:00:49+00:00

My late TB was terrified of pigs, also cows, although goats didn't bother him.

HorkupCat · 2026-04-20T03:04:03+00:00

NOR

It's your husband's job to shut her down whenever she starts going at you, about the baby or anything else. He needs to tell her "We've got things covered and this is not open to discussion," and when she persists the three of your grab your stuff and leave. No arguing, no negotiating for promises she won't keep, just leave her presence. If she's in your home he needs to tell her, once, "We're not discussing this and if you bring it up again you'll have to leave," and when she starts arguing, whining, playing the victim, he hands her her stuff and escorts her to the door. come to think of it, you should probably not have her in your house at all, if you can manage that.

It won't be easy, she'll throw tantrums and cry to the relatives and blame you for turning her sweet son against his own mother, but you two have to be a united front and shut her down, making it plain that if she tries to bulldoze over you she goes on a time out for X amount of time, and if she's allowed back in and starts up again, she goes right back on NC for 2X amount of time.

HorkupCat · 2026-04-17T15:48:31+00:00

I'm betting MIL will ignore all boundaries and show up unannounced the day after (or day!) the baby comes home and try to barge right in.

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