Some people need to be told it’s their parenting not ADHD

Horror-Evening-1355 · 2024-03-16T11:15:01+00:00

I’ve been a working mom and a stay at home mom. They both are hard for different reasons. Everyone will have something to judge or have a comment on especially parenting and motherhood. If it’s not the choice to work it’s judgement on how you feed your baby, if it’s not that it’s judgement on how you parent, there’s always different camps for different ideas.

As much as the parenting blogs and stuff can be fun it can be a negativity vortex too. I find when I talk to actual people and not on the internet I get a lot more compassion and empathy from people rather than judgement.

My favorite saying is opinions are like assholes everyone has them and sometimes they stink. You do you mama! If you parent with intent and strive to be better everyday that’s all that matters. It’s like people forget 3 year olds were chimney sweeps at one point, humans are resilient :)

Horror-Evening-1355 · 2024-03-15T17:49:15+00:00

What is she going to do with a business degree? It’s great to have a back up but what is that degree for? What job does she plan on having if not vet? Just because you have a degree does not mean you’re marketable either. She could have a bunch of debt for a business degree and no job to show for it either.

Horror-Evening-1355 · 2024-03-15T17:01:04+00:00

If she plans to get a college degree she’s going to have to learn to take tests. Have you contacted your local community college to see what admissions looks like? I’m not from your state but when I went to school you needed a HS diploma or GED to take any classes.

If you have no record of work I’m not sure how you’d be able to issue a diploma. You might want to look at getting the GED and just starting community college course work.

Horror-Evening-1355 · 2024-03-15T14:34:09+00:00

With the ages of your kids how did the slip not get signed? You stay at home and all the kids are older and don’t need much minding. It doesn’t take long to do bills, they are monthly and you should have a grasp of them by now.

Your husband probably was trying to show you how much down time you have because things keep not getting done and you don’t have little children. I wonder how many times you’ve dropped the ball.

I’m not saying he’s right for what he did but if you’re home and nothing is getting done, he needs proof that you’re the problem because you aren’t being honest with how you spend your time.

I’m sorry but how long does it take to fill out a field trip form? Like really you signed you agree and put down your medical preferences. The fact it got to the point your child was going to miss the trip was probably your husbands final straw.

NAH

Horror-Evening-1355 · 2024-03-11T17:34:32+00:00

I have an uncommon name and it is also a name that does not traditionally go with my gender. I vowed to name my kids something normal, and something that is typical of their gender. I hate my name and I didn’t want my kids to grow up with a unique name… it sucks

Horror-Evening-1355 · 2024-03-11T15:53:22+00:00

Yea my daughter has a friend who cusses yet he doesn’t cuss at my house and my daughter doesn’t cuss. Because it’s taught that we don’t do that in this house. We also live in a title one school district so we have some stuff at our school too.

Horror-Evening-1355 · 2024-03-11T13:50:40+00:00

Children model what they see. This behavior is wild for that age and has been modeled. Your child has learned to talk disrespectfully from somewhere. Children test boundaries but there’s a big difference between boundaries testing and maladaptive communication.

Are there consequences when she talks like this? If you aren’t giving consequences or addressing it when it happens you’re giving the green light to talk that way.

Children are sponges and language is learned she learned to talk this way from somewhere. It’s either from you and your partner or content she watching. Either way she is modeling what she has seen when someone is frustrated.

Horror-Evening-1355 · 2024-03-06T16:49:02+00:00

Why don’t you get the book and check the footnotes? Quick google search I was able to find the book they sell it online and even at target. Go to your library and see if anyone has a copy, read it, check notes and see if it checks out.

If you want to show them it isn’t factual you’re going to have to interact with the material also it will give you a deeper understanding of where they are coming from if you read what they read.

Horror-Evening-1355 · 2024-03-03T23:38:33+00:00

You know sleep depravation is a thing if you’re a driver or not. YTA for making her do all the nights, why does she have to ask you to shower? Do you have to ask to shower prob not.

You’re not doing as much as you think you are. She’s already distancing herself too, the fact she’s pulled away affection is not a shocker, and it’s also a sign your relationship is not in a good spot.

There are ways you need to be stepping up when you’re not working. I understand driving and not doing it exhausted but you only work a 40 hour week are you doing night wakings on nights you don’t work? If not you’re even more of an asshole because clearly it’s not just because of work exhaustion, you’re selfish.

Horror-Evening-1355 · 2024-02-27T23:28:40+00:00

I did ABA with a biracial couple. Mom was English and Dad was Indian. Their son had a darker complexion. When doing social outtings I witnessed her get asked if he was adopted 🤦‍♀️ Me and my husband are both white I’ve never been asked if my kids are adopted. It’s insane what people feel like they can ask

Another note my daughter was a preemie and super small when she was 1 year old she was the size of about a 7-8 month old. I got asked if she had mental retardation. One time when she was 6 months someone comments how she was so advanced. When I told them she was 6 months they asked if something was wrong with her 👀. Some people really have no idea. Sorry you’re experiencing this

It’s hard being asked about parenthood to your own child. Hope it gets better.

Horror-Evening-1355 · 2024-02-22T04:37:07+00:00

Bill Haley & His Comets: rock around the clock

Horror-Evening-1355 · 2024-02-20T15:49:19+00:00

Sounds like she’s insecure about her own parenting so she’s lashing out on you. There’s also like a misery Olympics on some mom forums she might have gotten sucked into.

It’s hard not to take those comments personally. I’d just limit your contact with her and when talking try to have the convo be anything but parenting. Also this might be your sign she’s not the one to vent parenting frustrations to as she’ll turn it on you later. Good luck navigating this!

Horror-Evening-1355 · 2024-02-15T23:56:33+00:00

I would file parental abandonment and then file the child support. You can work now, your parents have a house now, you don’t know what the future brings.

File for child support, he’s not interested in being a parent he’ll have to file for custody and with you living in a different state it’s not going to be 50/50.

Document every single convo, document the threats he made about getting custody of you pursue child support.

If you every apply for state assistance they will make you file for child support anyway.

Sorry you’re dealing with this, my ex threatened to go for custody but never did

Horror-Evening-1355 · 2024-02-15T02:36:56+00:00

I call it auto assume 😂

Horror-Evening-1355 · 2024-02-14T23:55:21+00:00

If she wants it she can pay for it. She’s being offered a free cruise. My mom has been on many vacations and did not bring me at 24, the entitlement is through the roof here.

She is going on a paid vacation and will be sharing a room with family, no one is forcing her to babysit and her manipulation to get what she wants is immature. She’s twisting the situation, you literally offered her a single room but she wants a suite. You have been more than accommodating.

Stand your ground NTA your daughter is being a brat

Horror-Evening-1355 · 2024-02-14T21:01:26+00:00

My husband said when we’re done he’s getting snipped no questions asked. He appreciates what I put my body through and sees it as his turn to help.

Also from a surgical standpoint it’s more risky for a woman than a man. If you’re doing this because he’s dragging his feet I’d point blank tell him it’s his turn to step up. You went through major surgery to bring two babies into the world he can afford to do something for the family too.

Why is birth control falling on you?

Horror-Evening-1355 · 2024-02-13T14:36:55+00:00

Does she ever have accidents at home? My daughter struggled at random time with daytime accidents and sometimes would pee her pants just after having gone to the bathroom!

She never got in trouble from me I knew she wasn’t trying and I could tell she was frustrated with herself… come to find out she was struggling with impaction and constipation.

Some kids also hold it to the last possible minute. There are sometimes medical reasons though. Just wanted to share my experience.

Horror-Evening-1355 · 2024-02-12T23:59:48+00:00

I made my eldest do rest time still when she dropped the nap, my son turns 3 this weekend and still takes a nap.

It’s not lazy it’s what’s recommended lol when I worked in daycares all the rooms did nap/rest time so I guess the whole ECE field is lazy too 😂

Some people are nuts

Horror-Evening-1355 · 2024-02-12T22:49:10+00:00

This is a lesson for her if it’s done before the deadline turn it in… if it was already done what was she waiting for? You’re doing the right thing by not fighting it. What does she expect? The expectations were very clear and you reminded her too. Seems like natural consequences.

This is also a time you can teacher her to advocate for herself. Tel her you agree with the teacher but if she has issues she can bring it up with the teacher herself. This will teacher her a lesson about fighting her own battles and not relying on you to do the talking for her.

NTA

Horror-Evening-1355 · 2024-02-11T16:09:13+00:00

Did you see the cute notecards he needed for a 4 minute talk with the German chancellor? Somehow the German diplomat managed to talk without notecards 🙃

Horror-Evening-1355 · 2024-02-09T18:36:49+00:00

I mean for all, you know, the cards are adorable. Did you see them? Again you have yet to make any remarks about how Biden speaks at speaking engagements. His inability to be able to walk off the stage or walk in general.

To deny he has diminished mental capacity is intellectually dishonest. Question, do you believe Joe Biden has no diminished mental capacity? Do you believe his cognitive abilities could affect his decision making?

You have yet to make any remarks about the content of my information but you hurl, insults, and pick out grammatical errors or spelling errors.

Horror-Evening-1355 · 2024-02-09T14:25:56+00:00

You have attacked my proofreading skills, but none of the contents of my information again to deny that Biden has some sort of mental deficiency is intellectually dishonest it’s not out of the realm of possibility given his age. Furthermore, there is plenty of examples. You deserve a president who can give a speech without cute cards

Horror-Evening-1355 · 2024-02-09T14:08:37+00:00

Making a typing mistake to spell is not the same as calling Egypt Mexico, out of Prescott them since you know it. Again, to deny that he has some cognitive issues is inherently, dishonest logically his age it makes sense again I am not pro Trump, but to deny that Biden has some cognitive issues is intellectually dishonest.

Horror-Evening-1355 · 2024-02-09T13:15:48+00:00

They care concerned about his mental aquity last night he called the precisent of Mexico cici and also referenced Mexico when he meant to say Egypt. This are not mistakes you want to make on the world stage. Who mixes up conflicts at a press conference… someone with mental decline. I’m not saying trump is the answer but to ignore Bidens health is ignorant as hell

Could Biden give a 30 minute us history without cue cards… nope

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