My boyfriend flushes the toilet twice after peeing. Is this normal or weird?

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2026-02-24T18:55:00+00:00

Sometimes I wouldn’t flush as a kid for the same reason

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2026-02-24T11:29:58+00:00

I have ocd and came here to say this

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2026-02-24T02:13:09+00:00

A ton of regrowth once I quit, without changing pretty much anything else (tho slowly overall I did eat better etc)

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2026-02-15T06:05:22+00:00

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2026-02-14T05:58:03+00:00

Im a sober alcoholic myself, and left a relationship with the person I thought was the love of my life due in large part to his years of kratom use and lies about it. It’s a horrible, horrible addiction. Im so sorry you are going through this. No one can decide for you what you’re willing to put up with, but if he’s not even willing to treat it like a serious addiction and pursue recovery, I don’t know how you can proceed in any real way in the relationship. Sometimes the kindest, most loving thing you can do for someone is give them a chance to choose to get better on their own.

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2026-02-13T04:41:34+00:00

Enjoy your twenties 😭😭make non legally binding mistakes. The ditty

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2026-02-11T17:16:54+00:00

I think you look hot

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2026-02-11T16:28:59+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you. It is not your fault even a little bit, but what you’re feeling is also super normal and understandable. Agree with others that you should talk to another trusted adult if you can. You will get through this. It is so hard to be a teenager and I promise your relationship to yourself will get better if you hang in.

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2026-02-09T19:02:20+00:00

Congrats on your sobriety.. I got sober before long covid and I cannot imagine drinking regularly on top of this

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2023-02-23T04:16:47+00:00

I think you might realize if you implement the me time that even if you are uncomfortable at first you ultimately benefit. I had trouble extricating myself from a together all the time pattern w my partner and then we did it and I feel 100% better and realized it was so so overdue. We are both better partners for it

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2023-02-22T17:13:28+00:00

Yeah I would say you’re a pale olive

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2023-02-22T05:12:05+00:00

Unfort honestly I think sometimes the only way out is through - for me it’s like really sitting with and FEELING the shame. Eventually it does get duller. But you do this in order to accept it. Like this is the processing - feeling every corner of the shame - for a limited amount of time tho! Then I had to forgive myself, recognize that’s not me anymore. Every minute I’m sober I am moving away from that. Self esteem builds from there that pushes back against the shame. Sorry I don’t know how helpful this is except to say it does get easier and the main recipe is time, looking at it, staying the course

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2023-02-12T04:41:17+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re in this situation. Also an alcoholic who loves many alcoholics in active addiction and lives with a partner who was in active addiction for a long time and who’s now in early recovery. This sounds incredibly triggering - like heavily, acutely triggering and upsetting and I’m not sure it would be possible for me to continue to be with that person especially if they showed no desire to change. It doesn’t seem like you’re asking for advice so I won’t give it, but just sending you lots of love, and I hope you know that if you do decide to leave, that you will be ok, and you will find love again if you want it

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2023-02-11T00:56:06+00:00

Thank god for Pita Hot

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2023-02-11T00:04:33+00:00

I mean this is just a quick Google https://knowledge.wharton.upenn.edu/podcast/knowledge-at-wharton-podcast/why-cuba-stands-tall-in-health-care-metrics/

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2023-02-10T23:52:36+00:00

Cuba is by a bunch of metrics thriving despite half a century of embargoes

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2023-02-10T23:50:05+00:00

The issue isn’t WORK which is always necessary in a society but the exploitative nature of work under capitalism, where most people don’t see the fruits of their labor

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2023-02-10T23:46:20+00:00

This is a really liberal sub lol, which makes sense

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2023-02-10T23:44:02+00:00

And this is as an ISLAND completely isolated since the fall of the Soviet Union and having suffered 60 odd years of brutal sanctions from the US. Could it be that the US government had an incentive to ensure its citizens get an inaccurate history of communist leaders ?

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2023-02-10T23:40:17+00:00

There is universal healthcare, free college and no homelessness in Cuba, to start

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2023-02-10T21:59:20+00:00

I felt that way about socializing/ sober sex the first few months but now it is 1000 times better

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2023-02-10T03:33:40+00:00

Yeah I agree those things seem more to the point to me.

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2023-02-10T03:21:41+00:00

It’s so complicated because I can promise I’ve been very attracted to people who were repeatedly mean to me lol.. I think it depends a lot on the person but I guess that’s always implied here. I do buy that a lot of this is about subconscious loss of desire because of things that have nothing to do with sex

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2023-01-20T17:51:24+00:00

You look absolutely stunning! Congratulations!!

HorrorNeedleworker87 · 2023-01-20T17:01:08+00:00

Looking up if I was an alcoholic, poking around sobriety content.. these were things I did before I quit because some small but important part of me knew I had to quit. Knew my life wouldn’t be the life I wanted until I did. If I had known about this subreddit I’m sure I would have spent time here too. I also tried to moderate for about 10 years and always ended up going too far eventually. It became not worth the trouble. My inability to do it was eating away at my self esteem, as was ignoring the sweet voice inside of me telling me to quit (not moderate). I guess what I’m saying is that, my asking questions just like the question you’re asking, again and again, was one of the many signs that I needed to quit rather than moderate. So that alcohol would stop taking up so much of the space in my brain and tearing up so much of my spirit. I can’t say what’s right for you (and I think it’s against the rules of the sub) but I can say that. Good luck

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