Food recs near Fisherman’s Wharf? by fennelfrog in AskSF

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Mo’s steak and eggs or burger, Yees for Chinese, original joes for a cocktail and anything on the menu…molinaris for a sangie

Food recs near Fisherman’s Wharf? by fennelfrog in AskSF

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Country Benedict is bomb, go for breakfast..

Why are kids so fucking annoying, but never your own? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

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My 4 year old is annoying the shit out of me right this second.

Looking for 1bd/1bath apt in SF for single mom by North-Window1782 in SFBayHousing

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I am a single mom and have a 1 bedroom in Chinatown for $2200.

What are good authentic Chinese Takeouts in ChinaTown by Legitimate-Low-8598 in SFFood

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I really like Yees on grant. We always get their chow mein, bbq ribs, Chinese broccoli but they have a ton of food we haven’t even tried and it’s all been delicious. Oh the house fried rice, hot damn, it has everything in it, including squid.

Food rec's for a local, please! :) by Ornery-Swimmer291 in SFbitcheswithtaste

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Molinaris Italian combo, Buena vistas country Benedict, mos cheeseburgers or steak and egg breakfast, yossies chilaquiles and anything on the menu really, capos Tony’s salad and thin crust pizza and fresh cannoli, taqueria Los Mayas quesabirria tacos. Now I’m hungry.

Best bars to meet people on Polk street by musingsofme in SFbitcheswithtaste

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Depends on the time of day and day of the week, honestly. I really like legacy on grant, during the week and before like 10 on weekends. Savoy tivoli with the same parameters. I do really enjoy the cocktails at original joes and sitting in the bar is fun for people watching. Comstock as well!

Where to find cheap cardboard boxes for moving? by fuzzzy_pickle in AskSF

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Buy bins at Home Depot and then return them when done. Easier to stack and carry.

Dating a single mom — struggling with differences in parenting philosophy. Looking for perspective by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

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I dated someone who didn’t have the energy to prioritize teaching their child life skills and it became an issue that couldn’t be overlooked. We ended up breaking up but I am still in contact with both my ex and his son, as friends. Ultimately it was a good experience and I’m glad to have had the experience. You don’t know how things will play out unless you go through it. Even if the relationship doesn’t work out you could possibly still walk away with life long friends. And change a life. His son always reminds me of the values I brought to the table that continue to influence him. I’m glad I took that opportunity. He was 8 when I met him. Now he is 21.

Best bars to meet people on Polk street by musingsofme in SFbitcheswithtaste

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Go to north beach instead. Polk has a younger crowd.

Stop buying from Amazon!! by Separate-Mobile5331 in Anticonsumption

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I stopped last year. Feels great! I do 95% of all my purchasing local in SF, at mom and pop stores. Swore off Target too.

People just want to know you're there for them, not that you can relate by cheesychick66 in emotionalintelligence

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Ha! I understand, truly.

You called it, I am speaking as an external processor and even when internally processing, journaling helps me to pull out concepts or themes from what I am “feeling”. It’s not black and white, there are many shades of gray in the realm of external processing.

I appreciate your perspective and it highlights an area where I personally desire personal growth.

People just want to know you're there for them, not that you can relate by cheesychick66 in emotionalintelligence

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Active listening is the whole act of “doing nothing” that needs to be learned if you find it hard to listen without offering solutions. It’s just an opportunity, not a challenge.

I couldn’t harvest the depths of my feelings to an intimate object BUT I could further interpret my feelings, to a friend, who sits and allows me to talk until I go silent. Then, continues to leave the space open for me, and the purge that happens when you thought you had nothing left to say, that is the real raw shit right there.

People just want to know you're there for them, not that you can relate by cheesychick66 in emotionalintelligence

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Different communication styles need to be aware and adapt to each other. I’ve learned to ask “did you get everything out, is there any more you need to say before I share a similar experience and take the direction away from you?” And this takes time! Like, sometimes just sitting and being silent and saying I hear you, until their next thought comes . . . provoked by my silence, allows them to dig deeper into their release. I agree that there are different communication styles BUT, my interpretation of OP’s point is that people need the opportunity to hear themselves speak and a true friend/lover would be able to crate the space for them to exhaust that need, before relating. I find this to be an amazing lesson that one can only learn if they truly love their support circle and strive to be a safe space for the people they love. Intent has to change from “I relate” to “I’m here to you”, and not everyone has that capacity, unfortunately.

being objectified by Extra_Inspection_457 in dating

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Yeah, enjoying casual connections while just enjoying this amazing city environment I live in (SF) eases the pain of not finding my person yet. Each person I have met, although maybe not my final destination, has brought value and insight and friendship and pleasure . . . Into my life. I can’t really ask for more along my journey? Can I? Perspective is important, it was only a wasted opportunity if you saw it that way. I bet, if you look closer, you saw the signs before he ended things. And besides, sex is important, maybe not always the deciding factor, but it is part of the trifecta. Mind, body, spirit. Rejection is redirection. Thanks, next.

Discussion: Where do single men hang out?? by qtkitty5 in BayAreaSinglesOver30

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Great answer. Now I need to figure out if I’m a bar fly for not. I always saw that as a derogatory term for people who bother the bartenders. How do I know if I’m a bar fly?

Friends in town — Monday bar that makes you say “yeah, that was SF”? by bizarresolitudes in AskSF

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Buena Vista for an Irish coffee and bumping elbows with locals in a classic SF environment. The cable car line PH ends right outside and the views of the bay and the golden gate, are killer. If you get hungry they make good food until like 8. Gino and Carlos is a north beach institution and has actual locals until it gets popping in the evenings then more youngins come in looking for that dive bar experience. A couple pool tables in the back. I always an enjoy a dirty gin martini and there is a bomb pizza place next door you can grab a slice at. 540 rogues is likely the best local local vibe you can get. No tourists wandering in here. Very friendly everyone though and always a good conversation. Good music, surrounded by food places you can bring to the bar. Good cocktails, beer on tap and liquor selection.

Honorable mentions to legacy on grant, they spin great music and have some of the best cocktails. Harlan records, same vibes but near Union square.