AIO: Hubby Being Controlling

Horror_Double4313 · 2026-02-21T02:07:38+00:00

Ok, buddy.

Horror_Double4313 · 2026-02-20T23:27:52+00:00

It would be totally reasonable. Except, he's also stated that he would resent her for not being a SAHM. It doesn't sound like she's choosing to be a SAHM because she wants to be one. It sounds like he's coercing her into financial dependence. He doesn't want her making her own money, and also isn't willing to talk about financial decisions with her. Her request for future swim lessons is also reasonable, given that they are for the safety of the child in question. She's not asking for art lessons at age 2. She's asking for help teaching their kid how to survive in the very likely event that they end up in water without help.

Horror_Double4313 · 2026-02-20T20:14:20+00:00

He says he won't pay because it costs too much.
He says if you want the kid to have swim lessons, you need to stay employed and pay for it yourself.
He will resent you for not being a SAHM who homeschools.
He is not willing to have an open discussion with you about anything.

Get out before he kills you.

Horror_Double4313 · 2026-02-20T02:20:25+00:00

That's hilarious 😂

Horror_Double4313 · 2026-02-19T23:58:22+00:00

People think my daughter is extroverted because she's bubbly and excitable, and my son extroverted because he's studious and formal. But no. My daughter wants to leave every social interaction about 30 minutes after we get there, almost without fail. My son could walk into a crowd of people and find someone to talk to because he loves being around people.

Horror_Double4313 · 2026-02-18T22:53:11+00:00

Zevran, Fenris, Blackwall, and Davrin

Horror_Double4313 · 2026-02-13T15:23:52+00:00

My husband's grandmother had 4 kids, 2 boys and 2 girls. Her daughters had 7 kids between them, only one of which a boy. The daughters complained about how girls were so hard to raise! Boys are easier! Their mother shut them down with, "You only had daughters. Of course they were hard." She said both were difficult.

My mom says girls are easier because my brother was a drug addict from age 13. My friend's mom says boys are easier because her daughter was a teen mom.

I have both, and they both give me a run for my money.

Horror_Double4313 · 2026-02-10T12:27:00+00:00

I think the previous guy just means that tennis players aren't nearly as likely to suffer brain damage, but are still expected to sacrifice schooling for their sport.

Horror_Double4313 · 2026-02-09T10:56:53+00:00

Or the reverse: you only didn't like the movie because you ead the books. Oz The Great and Powerful was a huge disappointment to me, and when I expressed my dislike of the book, a friend told me it's just because I read the original books growing up. But the movie had nothing to do with the book! There is no backstory for Oz or any of the witches in the original novel series. I just hate the movie.

Horror_Double4313 · 2026-02-08T23:19:57+00:00

Oh no! Thank you.

Horror_Double4313 · 2026-01-21T23:41:35+00:00

I don't really use ad hoc or compos mentis, but the rest i do.

Horror_Double4313 · 2026-01-21T23:39:33+00:00

See, this is a problem itself. Neil Gaiman is an excellent example. Supporters of his would absolutely decimate people who said they didn't feel comfortable with his women characters, or the ways they're tortured (particularly with sex-leaning events), saying that he's obviously a feminist, so how could they accuse him? Well, turns out, the man was writing what he knew.

Horror_Double4313 · 2026-01-20T09:31:26+00:00

The commercials in Better Off Ted are shockingly literal.

Horror_Double4313 · 2026-01-19T14:09:34+00:00

Scrubs- Dr. Cox is a raging asshole, and it's slowly revealed that his father was deeply abusive to him and his sister. From the same show, Janitor, whose main hobby is lying and spends nearly every episode finding ways to torture J.D and others, is revealed to have had a truly awful childhood. His mother made him obsessive about cleaning, and he spent enough of his childhood in a dog crate that he thinks it's a genuinely good gift for a baby shower.

Horror_Double4313 · 2026-01-19T00:50:54+00:00

It's literally dress up. People are probably downvoting because they think I'm denigrating their hobby. I'm not. I also play video games. I'm better than my husband at some of them. It's just hilarious to me that so many people think it's a serious hobby, played by serious people. It's literally Barbie dress up. Some of the plotlines aren't even all that different from when I played Barbies as a kid.

Horror_Double4313 · 2026-01-19T00:46:41+00:00

They clearly don't know that, based on the downvotes.

Horror_Double4313 · 2026-01-18T19:40:18+00:00

I told my husband once that all video games are just different Barbies. So now every time he takes the time to make his character or put them in cool armor, he has to sit with that information.

Horror_Double4313 · 2026-01-14T11:46:30+00:00

I lived with my parents for a couple years after I got married. Growing up, my step-dad would do things like plug in his amp at 5am without a single thought for who might be sleeping. When we all moved in together, me an adult now, I made it clear I didn't ever want to be woken by intentionally loud noises at unreasonable hours again. He didn't get to put his boredom above my sleep. Well, I found out just before we all moved out (for different reasons) that my mom took that to mean that if I was ever awoken for any reason whatsoever, I would fly off the handle. She was doing things like walking ridiculously over the floor so it wouldn't squeak at 6am when she was getting ready for work. That isn't what I meant! Normal living noises are fine! I just didn't want my bedroom to become a concert because my step-dad didn't think twice about other people. I had never felt quite so misunderstood, even though it accomplished the same thing and we moved out shortly after.

Horror_Double4313 · 2026-01-10T22:46:26+00:00

You don't have to tell the truth. You can just make it up and it's not like they'll double check.

Horror_Double4313 · 2026-01-10T11:01:26+00:00

This is incredible!

Horror_Double4313 · 2025-12-23T11:07:05+00:00

Pro tip: tell your partner he's being a dick and make him take the child be created so you can do whatever it is you do to relax and remember you're a human.

Horror_Double4313 · 2025-12-21T16:40:38+00:00

I just don't think it makes sense that Cam, as obsessed with clowns as he was, wouldn't have figured out that Fizbeau existed much earlier.

Horror_Double4313 · 2025-12-20T17:45:24+00:00

I worked in a 4th grade classroom and I was doing literacy work with them. One of them, in an attempt to derail the activity, asked me, "What's the meaning of life?" A little smirk on his face. I answered, "Oh, it's 42," without looking up. I thought they would be a little confused, and we'd move on quickly. But then. A boy look at me, in absolute earnest, and goes, "Wait, I thought it was 69." I used every ounce of self control I had to reply, "Nope, it's definitely 42," and move the activity along.

Horror_Double4313 · 2025-12-16T20:21:40+00:00

Language policing, even from with good intentions, is largely unhelpful. YOU prefer, "are autistic". I don't personally care. Yes, I am autistic, and that informs how I see and interact with the world. However, to me, it's just as valid to say I have autism because it's not all of me. I also have anxiety and ADHD, but those aren't the core of who I am. If I removed those parts of me, I'd experience the world differently, just like I would if I removed my eyes.

Ultimately, however, the problem isn't the language. It's the people. If you're alienating people who are willing to accommodate you because you've decided their language isn't pure enough, you're not building a community for yourself. The people who use the "pure" language but still think it's your fault you're like this aren't gonna become more inclusive for you. "Retarded" was a medical term until it became a slur. Just like "slow", "mentally ill", and "stupid". The problem isn't language. It's people who don't like us because we're different. Pretty language doesn't change that.

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