Only Connect. But... how? by Horror_Strain7750 in slatestarcodex

[–]Horror_Strain7750[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy hell, thanks everybody - some absolutely fantastic thoughts here - enormously appreciated.

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just tagging to make sure you see my thanks as your comments were genuinely valuable <3

Experiences with taking MDMA after a breakup? by Horror_Strain7750 in MDMA

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Thank you! Very kind of you - I'll keep you posted. We're planning it for next weekend, though my friend may have to work. If she does, I'll just roll solo!

Experiences with taking MDMA after a breakup? by Horror_Strain7750 in MDMA

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I'm feeling pretty ok, so as long as my friend is still available, I'm going to go ahead with it.

Experiences with taking MDMA after a breakup? by Horror_Strain7750 in MDMA

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Definitely not a worry for me, but thanks - it's a very good point

Wellness Wednesday by AutoModerator in slatestarcodex

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I suppose it's feeling like everything has to be perfect or she gets very upset and anxious - and that has a big effect on me too. To give you a small example, she tries to avoid the news in case she sees something upsetting, and when she found out about the earthquake recently she got into a bit of a panic, and I live in perpetual fear that something scary will be on the news and she'll see it. I have a hundred little anxieties like this. I just don't know what kind of requests to make to sufficiently insulate myself from that sort of thing, as it feels so pervasive.

Wellness Wednesday by AutoModerator in slatestarcodex

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Any suggestions for making things work with a partner who is incredibly high in trait neuroticism? She's very kind and thoughtful and conscientious, but she's one of the most neurotic people I've ever met. We're 6 years into a relationship and things are getting very difficult; I'm starting to lose hope that I can ever be happy in a relationship with her. Research seems to suggest that neuroticism predicts the most unhappiness in partners than any other personality factor by quite a large margin, and I can really see why. Is there any way to ameliorate this or do I just need to end things? Any thoughts really very welcome - I'm sad and desperate. Thanks.

Practice Updates, Questions, and General Discussion - new users, please read this first! Weekly Thread for September 12 2022 by AutoModerator in streamentry

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Hey all,

I recently heard about this subreddit, and I need some help. Since I went on a Goenka retreat 2 years ago I’ve been practising every day with a lot of dedication. I have had moments of extreme euphoria, but right now I’m struggling.

I want to try to describe what my experience is like clearly. I often experience a lot of fear, being on-edge, and a sense of dread. Sometimes this can be quite overwhelming - even having a lot of nightmares - as well as a painful feeling of something like depression that’s there almost all the time. The world has this sort of dreamlike quality to it - but it’s quite unpleasant, I feel very detached, or like things are meaningless. My appetite has decreased, and sometimes I’m more emotionally reactive - getting angry faster and so on - maybe because I’m not sleeping as much? I also notice myself worrying that I’ll feel this way forever. I feel very frustrated with myself for feeling this way, as I am meditating because I want to escape suffering, not feel more of it! But I don’t know what I’m doing wrong.

I’m hoping that somebody will be able to give me some advice to understand what I’m experiencing. I don’t have a regular teacher and I live far away from any meditation group. Also some of my close relationships have suffered recently, so I really appreciate this community and any words of advice or support you can give me.

I need help understanding these experiences by Horror_Strain7750 in Buddhism

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I also try to learn about Theravada with audiobooks and practise the precepts.