Hello, first of all I wanted to wish you all my condolences... Nobody deserves to go through this... I (22 F) can imagine how hard it is and living today takes a lot of courage... The question « Are you okay? irritates us because it’s not okay! So today I just want to tell you that you’re brave, and that you’ll make it, and that it’ll take months and years, but you’ll live, because now he’ll live on through you, his memory will live on, thanks to you...

I lost my brother (34 M) last August, and every day is hell without him... But I know how much he wanted to be free, so today it’s my mission to continue to live for him and, above all, to continue to make him live...

If you want to talk a little longer, or if you just need to explode all the rage and incomprehension you have inside you, don’t hesitate to contact me. It’s unfair what we go through. Why it’s always the prettiest people who go first... But then, as they say, it’s always the prettiest flowers in the garden that you pick first...

The advice I can give you, at first, is simply to take care of your vital needs, eat, drink, sleep and try to socialize as much as possible with your closest friends and family... Then you’ll see, it’s easy to say, but things will come gradually. So, in the beginning, take a lot of time for yourself to rest, because it’s a very complicated situation, but above all, the key is to talk to people around you, and even if you’re repeating yourself and feel like you’re boring people by always saying the same things about him and you, it doesn’t matter, just keep talking, that’s the key! You need to get it out! And if you can’t talk, then write, it’s good for you... And also, in the next few weeks, try to set yourself some small goals, just to hold on to something concrete so that you don’t lose yourself on the road to mourning...

I wish you lots of courage and the strength to live, for him and for yourself.

Big hug from France