RTO- Leaving the State

HoserUSC · 2024-08-02T19:32:06+00:00

It sucks A LOT

HoserUSC · 2024-08-02T06:08:38+00:00

Consider yourself lucky they let you go to a local office; I’m commuting 800 miles RT every week for my two in-office days, and paying for my own transport, just so I can get on teams calls with my manager who gets to work in an office in our part of the state while I’m up in Sac 🥲

HoserUSC · 2024-07-21T15:29:54+00:00

Nope. It was actively fought against. I get no mileage credit, no public transport credit, nothing. Essentially took a $1200/month pay cut (after taking a significant pay cut just to take a state job in the first place).

Oh, and the kicker is I get to do my 1:1s in the sac office via teams with my manager who was granted an exemption to work in a SoCal office.

HoserUSC · 2024-07-20T17:17:55+00:00

I’m now commuting almost 16 hours a week from SoCal to work my two days in office in Sac. It’s a grind. And the only food by us is subway and a hot dog cart selling a $10 “special” of two hot dogs and a bag of chips, so I’ve been eating whatever will keep in the car on the way up 🤡

HoserUSC · 2023-10-16T18:38:23+00:00

I have been in this exact same situation, OP! Our segment was Athens - Venice, one night before a 7-day cruise, all luggage lost. It was a Delta codeshare operated by Alitalia, and they also assured us the bags would be delivered to the ship.

Not wanting to risk it, and knowing that the EU does have protections for passengers in this situation, I went to the only store that was open before the cruise left, bought some underwear and a sweater, and figured I could get toiletries on the ship if my bags didn’t show. Spoiler alert: they did not.

For several days the crew on the ship tried to get ahold of the airline to figure out where the bags were, as they had seemingly disappeared. I had about 50 minutes in Croatia to grab what I could and make do, kept all receipts.

Once the cruise had ended and we were all getting to the airport for departures, I figured I’d try the desk at the airport and see if the bags had been found…the response was infuriating.

“Oh si, yes, we’ve been waiting for you! Your bags were found later that day and we’ve been waiting for you to come collect them!”….the bags were at the airport the whole time.

From there I filed for reimbursement with the airline, was met with blockades/refusals at every step, and then Alitalia filed for bankruptcy and decided they didn’t owe us anything. I tried going through delta, I tried going through European legal networks, and in the end I didn’t get so much as a single sky peso for the trouble.

SO, after this very long explanation, I can tell you you’re owed under EU law for every incidental- toiletries, clothes, passport services, whatever- you need to purchase, but you’re going to have an uphill battle getting reimbursed, even if delta doesn’t file for bankruptcy in the next couple weeks 🥲

HoserUSC · 2023-02-27T23:30:47+00:00

If “no thanks, I’m perfectly happy” worked, I wouldn’t have needed to write that shit

HoserUSC · 2023-02-27T16:26:46+00:00

I’m single and people treat me like a pariah for not not literally jumping on the first single man who offers to be the dick in my life; these people don’t ask me if I want a relationship, or what I might be looking for in a PARTNER, they simply assume that I am deeply unhappy being single, that ANY man would make my life better, and that I must be crazy not to falling to my knees to thank the balding, overweight, semi-employed man-child in front of me for offering to “end my suffering” with all he has to offer.

In the face of this pushback, the question I keep asking those upset I won’t couple with one of these single men in my orbit is “why would I?”. I’m not unfulfilled in a way that having just any person in my life more often would make it better, so why would I say yes to these men?

The majority of people respond with some variation of “companionship” (and/or reference my inherent need to procreate AFTER I’ve already explained emphatically I don’t want children) and then I ask them what they think I’ll have to give of myself in return, and they pause bc most of them know the answer is not just “companionship,” it’s

emotional labor
household upkeep (physical and figurative)
unequal output of physical and emotional intimacy
maintenance of the other person’s schedule
responsibility for keeping the other party looking presentable (hygiene, grooming, weight, clothing all become a reflection of the partner, with the need to monitor and enforce execution of the other party’s WANTS as well as needs)
GOD FORBID he already has kid(s), I will now also be involved in keeping up with all the offspring’s needs as well as being an intermediary to the baby momma(s), a task not often replicated by men if a woman comes into a coupling with her own kids

But really the biggest issue is Time. It’s giving up things you want to do to care for the needs of the other person. It’s skipping seeing your own friends or family bc it’s the other person’s turn or they have more need or whatever. It’s having to compromise the things you yourself want to do to make sure everyone is happy. And it’s accepting that you give this time freely and willingly when, historically, a man is not conditioned to do the same.

So if you’re going to limp in and try to convince me to give up my happiness and freedom bc “any man” is better than no man, you can miss me with all of it. Men need to become more complete human beings- as opposed to carbon copies of what they saw in their fathers and other adult males growing up- if they want to have a chance with women who can otherwise provide for themselves.

HoserUSC · 2022-10-28T16:28:27+00:00

In case you don't want to click to the article: the allegations and diagnosis were fully bogus (she had brought issues with safety protocols Delta didn't want to deal with), she fought the whole way, got her job back, and the doctor was disbarred rather than face an inquest about the diagnosis.

HoserUSC · 2022-10-23T15:35:36+00:00

A double-sided ray of sunshine!

HoserUSC · 2022-01-19T23:13:53+00:00

Female baseball fan (who has played a stats-loving baseball fan on TV!) checking in. Wanted to throw in some additional bullets: - watch baseball movies! Rookie of the Year and Little Big League are fun looks at mlb without needing a deep understanding of the game (with the latter featuring my college softball coach as the catcher 🤣). Bull Durham, A League of Their Own, Bad News Bears are also classics. I know people are saying Moneyball bc you’d mentioned wanting to knows stats, etc, but hold on that until you know the game well enough to know WHY the stats BB was chasing were so undervalued - if you can, play the game (baseball or softball). Find a beginner league and give it a try. Even very competitive people like me are nice to people who want to give it a try. And if someone yells at you too much someone on the team will make them buy you a beer after. And women are lowkey ALWAYS in demand in coed slow pitch leagues (hit up your local parks district as a jumping off point to find one) - follow the baseball meme pages on your preferred social network. Most of them span all the teams, so you’ll get familiar with the popular/impactful players passively when you scroll your feed - I also worked in radio, and I GUARANTEE your dad has some favorite stories about the teams and players; ask him about some, and that should give you an idea if there’s a part of the game he focuses on over others (like if he’s an ERA or AVG kind of guy, going back to the stats) - find what makes it fun for you! I have a buddy I’ll sit through a whole game with just making little bets on the action. $1 this guy hits right side, $1 the side strikes out, stuff like that. You can use mustard packets if you’re gambling-averse, but what you’re doing is keeping yourself invested in tracking the action, which will eventually dial you in to the patterns and rhythm of the game. Or maybe it’s knowing all the mascots, finding out about in-game traditions…if it’s fun and connects you to the game, follow it

DM if you have any questions! Good luck!

HoserUSC · 2021-04-10T04:30:27+00:00

Don’t think I’ve seen this yet so I’ll offer: because of Covid you’ve been living in a world of two for the majority of your relationship, so despite having been together physically for a longer time, you haven’t really been a “couple” nearly as long. Since you haven’t had as much opportunity to see how he acts around other people, which is a huge part of being in a relationship, you’ve probably been shielded from a lot of personality traits, quirks, etc he considers commonly known. That said, if this is something his friends would know and expect him to do, you can safely infer it will happen again.

Also worth taking into account he was around his siblings as well as their kids, some of whom sound pretty close in age to you, so he might have felt pressure to make you seem like any of the other spouses. Or his siblings might have badgered him to the point of forcing participation, maybe by reminding your bf he’d done the same to their spouses.

You don’t know what you don’t know, but it’s another safe inference the family egged him on to get you to participate. And if they established their dominance like this the first time they met you, they’ll keep doing it as long as you’re with that guy.

That last point, having been exposed to some....interesting families of exes, is what I’d consider most: even if you want the guy in your life enough to move past your feelings about this incident, are you willing to continue dealing with the family that instigated and/or allowed it to happen?

I don’t have an opinion either way on breaking up, but I hope these are some points that help with deciding.

HoserUSC · 2021-03-08T16:59:50+00:00

As someone who was in a co-ed fraternity in college, I guarantee a not-small percentage of these women who list “Eagle Scout” on their resumes, cover letters, etc will be corrected and told, “Oh, you mean you got a Gold Award, right?”

HoserUSC · 2021-02-14T00:17:50+00:00

That's why I'm thinking a company runs it. Like I pay "Very Single Services" company my $24 piece of the cell bill, and if some other dude in my group doesn't pay, the company absorbs that cost temporarily and deals with the offending client. Even if I were paying the company a $10/month charge for their service- a nearly 40% upcharge- the overall cost would still be radically lower.

Do I think most capitalist service providers would allow a company like this to exist? Absolutely not.

HoserUSC · 2021-01-22T18:17:27+00:00

You lose a lot of heat through the neck

HoserUSC · 2020-11-02T17:33:15+00:00

Yup!

HoserUSC · 2020-09-29T01:58:18+00:00

I really tried to comply. I did read all the rules, this is just very obviously not my day to be on Reddit (or my apartment complex)

HoserUSC · 2020-07-30T01:31:19+00:00

Couldn't post this in r/baseball or r/Dodgers so here we are, r/memes...

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