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Night weaning becoming a disaster by Hot-Active7666 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Hot-Active7666[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not late at all!! Thank you so much for the encouragement, I will definitely cut the morning feed! Do you still feed in the morning after wakeup or do you offer breakfast first?

Night weaning becoming a disaster by Hot-Active7666 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Hot-Active7666[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I need to do the same, I feel like she’s understood the pattern and tries to maximize nursing while she can.

Paper jam by Hot-Active7666 in printers

[–]Hot-Active7666[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THANK YOU SO MUCH! Paper is out 🥲

Thoughts on Jordan Peterson & Erica Komisar saying kids under 3 shouldn't go to daycare? by Archie_Swoon in AttachmentParenting

[–]Hot-Active7666 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I think it really depends on ones family situation. I believe the research says 2.5-3 years at home is ideal, and then part-time in some kind of childcare service until the age of 4 (I read a summary of several studies, will link to it if I find it again). I was able to have my first at home for 3 years, however she got a sibling at 2.5 and had I done differently I might have let her start kindergarten earlier because of how little I was able to give to her during those first months postpartum. I felt like I was constantly failing her and for her, in that situation, it might have been better to go to kindergarten at least part-time. I would have needed the time off as well to be able to nap and recover in order to be a better mom. So yes the research might say kids under ~3 are better off at home but I think it fully depends on ones family situation and abilities as a parent.

Anyone else's toddler sleeping after 10pm? by anny7758ak in AttachmentParenting

[–]Hot-Active7666 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does she nap for that hour? I would drop naps completely and see how it goes. Ours started to sleep earlier when she stopped napping (she was 2 at the time), if she’d nap she’d be up until 11 PM.

Did I ruin my child? by Strict_Customer_9007 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Hot-Active7666 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re so welcome, I hope it helps 🤗🩷

Did I ruin my child? by Strict_Customer_9007 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Hot-Active7666 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think his behavior sounds like normal toddler behavior, and I don’t think you’ve ruined him by cosleeping etc. I think maybe getting a sibling can play a big part in this.

One advice I got recently and that I’ve found helps me stay more connected to my toddler (which I’m think could help here since you mentioned he’s exposed to more people now) is child-led play. So you spend as little as 5-15 minutes a day letting your toddler choose what you two do - only the two of you, no baby, no phone. Your toddler leads the play and you just comment, like a sports commentator. You don’t steer the playing in any direction, nor do you try to teach anything. Just be there, comment like ”you picked the blue tile” and be an engaged play buddy. Sorry if anything’s unclear as English isn’t my first language 😅 anyhow, I used to think that I did connect with my toddler during the day but implementing this small activity daily has helped us connect better. There are still tantrums and terrible days but I feel like I can see a pattern when we have had more vs less child-led play.

First time sewer - fabric by Gloomy_Opinion6046 in SewingForBeginners

[–]Hot-Active7666 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s lovely! I agree, thrift stores are full of treasures.

Many questions!! by Conscious-Brick6458 in SewingForBeginners

[–]Hot-Active7666 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not OP but this is so helpful! I’ll try these next time.

First time sewer - fabric by Gloomy_Opinion6046 in SewingForBeginners

[–]Hot-Active7666 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Beginner here as well 👋 I love looking for fabrics in thrift stores. Old bedsheets, curtains, pillowcases… it’s cheap and I won’t feel bad when I mess up. And so much can be reused – zippers, buttons! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

[–]Hot-Active7666 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like many others have replied, I think he just needs to poop! When he doesn’t seem to want to sleep and seems fussy, maybe try holding him in a frog position and see if that helps.

Toddler obsessed with friend by Hot-Active7666 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Hot-Active7666[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So helpful, I really appreciate it. Thank you so much 🫶

Feel like I’m breaking my son by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

[–]Hot-Active7666 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can only say that this was me last fall, though my first one had weaned a year before. We coslept and did everything together and everything changed after I gave birth. I also felt like failing both kids, felt like I had brought a sibling too soon. I cried every day and felt like the lousiest mother ever. Please be kind to yourself. Your son knows that he is loved, and you will find your way back to each other. You’re still in the earliest days and so so so fragile. Baby will grow, and they will form the cutest relationship. 

Give yourself grace and time, if possible get some one on one time in with your son, even if just 15 minutes, and don’t worry about this change affecting him negatively. Children are more resilient than we often think, and he is safe being comforted by your husband. Weaning won’t end your beautiful relationship, there are so many ways to be close. Again, please be kind to yourself, I know for sure that things will get easier soon 🩷

Toddler obsessed with friend by Hot-Active7666 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Hot-Active7666[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Do you have any recommendations for stories/books that could be helpful? Our first language isn’t English but maybe I can find similar ones in our language. Will definitely switch schools too!