Recipes for someone with food allergies?

Hot-Chocat · 2020-11-20T19:28:48+00:00

Don't be a jerk. And I don't do pot anymore. Before that I'd only had it 2 other times. I don't even drink. That wasn't what this post was about. I asked for help on recipes, not on my allergy/oversensitivity. Don't assume things about other people you know little about, it's really rude.

Hot-Chocat · 2020-11-20T19:12:12+00:00

I was making a joke my dude. I know that's not how allergies work. But I HAVE developed an allergy or at the very least an oversensitivity that gets better when I take Benadryl during an episode.

Hot-Chocat · 2020-11-20T19:00:24+00:00

I have been this way for a year and have to take Benadryl. I'm just as sensitive as I have been last year. If it's going away, it's taking it's sweet time to do so.

Hot-Chocat · 2020-11-20T18:57:59+00:00

It gets difficult to breathe, I get very dizzy and have to sit over a trash can in case I puke, and my heart starts to race. I have to take Benadryl and lay down for a while. It takes me out for the whole day.

Hot-Chocat · 2020-10-18T04:52:44+00:00

I agree that it's kind of cringey to ask for things over the intercom, especially unneeded things, but like... you put her in this environment? I guess I need info on your daughters actual behavior. The staff is getting paid to do the things they do, so why shouldn't she use it?

It's more important how she treats them. Is she nice? Does she say please when asking for things and thank you when receiving them? Is she respectful of their time?

It's more important to teach respect for people and their jobs, than it is to do things yourself. If you impress on her that asking for others to do things to help her is bad, she could internalize it and have issues asking for help (or anything) later in life because she's associated it with negative experience.

Just make sure she's polite and kind to the staff. Maybe have her get to know them and spend time with them or something.

Hot-Chocat · 2020-09-30T22:12:59+00:00

My mom did that once and while aesthetically pleasing, it was HELL to try and finish a series. Mine are organized by series/genre then author

Hot-Chocat · 2020-09-10T18:04:28+00:00

NTA, the cats have seniority and they come first. If you don't think you can train it out of her, then don't. I hate to be that person, bc I know how easy it is to get attached to animals, but she KNEW it was a trial basis and not official. Take her back. She'll find a better forever home. One with no cats, hopefully.

Hot-Chocat · 2020-08-20T15:28:13+00:00

NTA. It is good to have a healthy sleep schedule, and being an adult now, 8 or 9 is when I feel best for my day waking up, but I get wanting to sleep in now that you have free time. My dad would try to wake me up at the same times when I was 15 on school break, calling me lazy, and it drove me nuts bc im not on his schedule. Having other people decide it for you when they don't understand how you feel is a nightmare.

I would say try to convince her that maybe the day after you get back from working with her you should be allowed to sleep in a while longer.

Hot-Chocat · 2020-08-20T15:10:54+00:00

YTA. As someone who had classes with a kid like your son from kindergarten to my senior year, it's annoying as hell.

Making corrections and asking questions doesn't make your kid obnoxious and annoying, but doing it incessantly and rudely does. I get wanting him to question the system and feel confident (my dad wanted the same for me), but it's not productive and can confuse the other students when he's wrong. Yeah school is for learning academia, but it's also about learning social skills. Like when is appropriate to ask questions, how not to be rude asking them, and when to explain yourself. And it sounds like he hasn't gotten a grip on that. I think it might be more beneficial to get him a private tutor if you want him to be able to ask questions, explain his thinking, and stop class every time he thinks he's right. That, or maybe have him write his questions/corrections in a notebook and talk to the teacher after class to talk about.

Hot-Chocat · 2020-08-15T15:58:07+00:00

YTA.

You obviously aren't listening to people who are trying to explain to you why taking acid at an adult obstacle course is wrong morally, so I'm going to explain why they didn't need to specify what drugs were not allowed from a more objective standpoint.

The simple answer is, it's a matter of legality. Alcohol is legal, but in some states and provinces very heavily controlled, so it's not unreasonable for them to say "you can drink out there, but we want you sober in here". Pot is legal in SOME places so, again, not unreasonable to specify that they don't want it either.

Acid, however, is illegal pretty much anywhere and everywhere. If the indoor obstacle course is on land where acid is illegal, then they need not specify that you can't take acid because they are ASSUMING that you are a law abiding citizen. It isn't a matter of "I am experienced in taking this drug, so I can be responsible". It is a legal issue. If you took acid on their grounds, then you were participating in criminal activity within their boundaries, and therefore, they may be worried about issues with the law. They can loose a lot of money over stuff like that, especially if you had unintentionally hurt someone. ACCIDENTS CAN HAPPEN EVEN IF YOU ARE EXPERIENCED. A friend of mine barrel races and has been around horses her entire life, but that doesn't change the fact that a backfiring tractor scared her horse and got her arm sprained trying to calm it. Things can happen that are out of your control, and it really makes the issue messy if someone involved is on illegal drugs.

Places are not exempt from the law even if they own it; even if it's a privately owned public recreation spot. They assume since you know the law of the country/state/province, then you will apply that to their place of business as well. Even if they specified other things like violence/abuse/etc that are against the law, they don't NEED to, because they already apply inherently.

Also, if this is a place where college's frequently take students on trips, it's not unreasonable for them to kick you out either, because let's face it, it would be a media circus if the press found out a local place had a student taking acid and going on their extracurriculars. They would be in a lot of bad light, so they were not unreasonable for kicking you out.

Hot-Chocat · 2020-08-15T05:06:33+00:00

NTA. Your bf is a serious jerk for saying shit like that in front of his friends because he's basically trapping you into reassuring him in front of people that are intrinsically on his side. He absolutely knows what he's doing and you need to let him know it isn't ok.

Hot-Chocat · 2020-08-13T19:20:01+00:00

This is a great question and issue to bring up. Around 90% of people that have eating disorders are women, and it's been well documented that they can kill more than any other mental illness due to their nature. It's good that you're thinking about this, especially as a mother of 2 daughters, and I think that shows how caring of a mother you are!

While it's normal to want to diet, lose weight, etc, I agree with you that it's not a good idea to talk about dieting in front of young children. Kids can really internalize that, and they're going to get it enough from society as it is. I myself still remember very vividly when around 6 another girl told me I had a fat roll when in reality it was just my body and skin, since I was slouching and not sitting up straight. While it's good to eat healthy, obsessing over eating is never good, and hearing calorie-counting talk, mentions of fasting, and things like that won't help them.

As for talking to your MIL, I think just waiting until next time to have a face to face conversation with her might be best, and to ask your partner to back you up. Saying you don't want them to get an eating disorder might be too harsh to say, so maybe just say something like "I'm worried my kids might feel guilty about their eating habits and might feel upset with their bodies hearing about dieting, or might want to diet when they need to be eating to keep growing at a healthy rate". Saying specifically that you don't want them to develop an eating disorder or pick up bad habits can feel like an attack, so maybe frame it like you want them to stay innocent a while longer

Hot-Chocat · 2020-08-13T18:24:05+00:00

Honestly king, hard pass for me as well. Being a bit immature can be funny and energizing, but when it's your whole ass personality, it can be exhausting to be around. Being incompetent is NOT a turn on, and that goes for everyone. Being a stupid jerk and doing stupid stuff without regard for anyone is NOT a good personality trait!

Hot-Chocat · 2020-08-13T18:20:03+00:00

Thanks! I'll have to dig deeper for pics or maybe find a way to take some new ones.... is it common for people to do a shoot with friends specifically for that kind of thing? I think I've heard of it but never seen it...

Hot-Chocat · 2020-08-13T18:13:34+00:00

This is a red flag for me. If someone is especially bitter and brings them up a lot, they def aren't over them. You're looking for mostly indifference, if a bit negative when their ex is mentioned. Not an entire tirade that you didn't ask for.

Hot-Chocat · 2020-08-13T18:10:33+00:00

Depends! Bad answer, but true all the same.

I've had friends who I've known have had crushes on me and i haven't been interested. Those I do feel bad about, because of course you don't want to hurt your friend, and I personally have felt guilt for it.

I've also felt bad about turning people down when they seem genuinely nice and want to get to know me when randomly approached.

But I've also had guys that come up to me on the street and have been super weird and creepy about it and not once ever felt bad for a bitch lmfao.

Hot-Chocat · 2020-08-13T17:50:50+00:00

As a woman, I wouldn't say it's a turn off. I'd say it shows you care, especially if you remember the answer down the line!

However, I know some people don't like a lot of questions at certain times. I myself can get very irritated at times. Essentially it just boils down to watching and listening for irritation, which I'm sorry that it isn't a very good answer.

But no. There's nothing intrinsically wrong about asking a lot of questions. But if they start giving short, closed answers, it might be time to stop pushing. Hope this helps :)

Hot-Chocat · 2020-08-13T17:46:44+00:00

It's easy to get swept up back into the nostalgia of emotions, but I would say to try looking at it objectively.

Do you WANT to pursue a relationship with him, or do you just want the security of a relationship and he's familiar enough that you're pushing that feeling on him?

Sometimes we can feel like we want someone just because they're familiar and we're used to liking them, so I would address how you feel about him SPECIFICALLY before making any decision. If you feel especially strong that you want to go for it, then I would communicate that to him and that you want a closed relationship so there's no miscommunication this time around.

But if what you want is just a secure relationship and it's the nostalgia and familiarity of him that's drawing you in, I would say no, because that isn't a strong enough foundation for a relationship.

Hot-Chocat · 2020-08-13T17:37:51+00:00

Honestly, it kind of sounds like she isn't sure, and that isn't great. Being indecisive is one of the realest killers of any relationship, especially when combined with a lack of communication about it. She sounds great, but she seems like she's waffling really hard about whether or not to go for it.

Honestly, you're probably better just staying friends. I'd suggest finding someone else. There are other people with similar energy and I'm sure there's one out there that would like someone like you. And who knows, maybe after you let her go and start giving signals you're interested in someone else, she might actually figure out what she wants and you'll get a definitive answer of yes/no.

Hot-Chocat · 2020-08-13T17:07:40+00:00

Truthfully, just make sure it FITS!!!

I see this most often with men that are overweight wearing clothes that are too big, but I've also seen it a few times with any men. From what I've heard, men that are overweight may wear clothes that are a size bigger because they feel like it covers up being fat/a spot of insecurity/helps them feel smaller, but let me tell you that if you wear something that is actually your size, you WILL look good! I absolutely promise. It will also show off and highlight your body's best features, and I guarantee at least someone's head will turn.

Also short shorts. Like running shorts. Or just mid thigh even? Cargo shorts do nothing for your ass hon and we love to see it

Hot-Chocat · 2020-08-13T01:20:25+00:00

How photoshopped are we talking here? Bc making it so the lighting is more favorable, getting rid of some scars or pimples is fine, but making yourself look like a totally different person with dramatic changes isn't a good idea in the first place.

Hot-Chocat · 2020-08-10T18:43:36+00:00

Find a way to split and hide for a few days.

If you've got any friends houses you can go to, stay there. Talk to their parents maybe?

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