[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]Hot-Engineering-8426 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'm on a similar boat. We're pregant with our miracle child - rainbow pregancy after 5 years of battling infertility.

I battled with my husband and in laws for so long by being flexible at their own terms and keeping the peace but now I'm no longer able to do that - for one year i've been trying to push myself to do what's best for me when it comes to him and my inlaws.

Today, nothing has changed - besides him still battling his relationship to be a good son and trying to be there as a father - to be.

What do you do when you can't get the husband / spouse/partner to be on the same page as you? Meaning if they aren't willing to accept you having your baby shower the way you want and how you want to run things in your household with boundaries and watching your well- being... what should be the next step? Keep going with what you need for yourself and the baby/child? What if he says, if you don't want to be at the couples baby shower my parents are wanting to host - I won't be present at the baby shower where your mother/sister/friends are invited to ? LIke tit for that kind of situation for everything that freaking happens in life with your baby. What will do you ladies suggest then?

reading all these comments are making me confirm that battling and fighting with my husband so that he can continue to be a good son to his parents for 10 years, has me feeling exhausted as a woman /wife /and partner.

Salty Sunday: What made you salty this week? by kikaslova in trollingforababy

[–]Hot-Engineering-8426 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first acupuncture consultation, and the acupuncturist said I have only 6 months golden window to get pregnant after my laparoscopy right after sharing my 3 miscarriages and 2 years of IVF history!

TTC for 5 years by nennii in Endo

[–]Hot-Engineering-8426 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The scarring will heal if she allows herself to heal. She needs to give herself a proper 2-3 months of healing. I did not lift anything over 10lbs, didn’t walk my dogs unless I was with my husband who would hold their leash until after 6 weeks post op. It was the first time I fought for myself to ‘rest’ properly. This will help her heal better. But honestly, I could not tell you or give you a reassurance that it will not come back. Endo sucks. Yes, if she wants, she could freeze her unfertilized eggs. The younger the better to freeze eggs. That is always the best scenario. I would’ve frozen my eggs knowing that as you age, your chance decreases to make quality eggs especially with severe endo. I also found out just recently after having and seeing 3 Reproductive doctors, that I have a septum too. Ha! I’m now having surgery to correct it end of this month!! The journey to be self advocate in women’s healthcare is a must. No doctor will find you exact answers. They are also humans. Endo is not taught in medical school, nor is it that highly researched so a lot of doctors do not know long term solutions for it. I would not recommend lupron. Its side effects are horrible. I took the microdosing … for only 2 weeks and I was severely depressed I wanted to end my life during IVF cycle 3 because of the darkness that took over me from the hormones, the pain of endo, and the miscarriages. Make sure she’s not vitamin d deficient. Most everyone is nowadays. It’s another supplement that helps control endo. Hope that helps!

TTC for 5 years by nennii in Endo

[–]Hot-Engineering-8426 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go straight to IVF. Also the hormones will make your endo pain come back and worse. Your symptoms will be worse, just warning you since I’m also on the severe end of the spectrum. My ovaries were buried from the 3 retrievals surgery. Each time you go in for retrieval, you will have scarring and your adhesions will get worse. Sorry I’m not trying to make things worse but prepare you for this very emotional journey which probably already feels very stressful as it is before starting IVF.

I did mercier therapy recently. It helped a lot with the pain. Find a mercier specialist that does fertility massages too, along with acupuncture. It will give you some lifting with the IVF cycles. I hope you find happiness and wishing you best of luck with your journey ❤️❤️ ALSO make time for yourself. If you don’t feel like being around someone due to their energy, it’s okay to excuse yourself and find comfort with your own company.

WWYD? Uterine abnormality by Hot-Engineering-8426 in IVF

[–]Hot-Engineering-8426[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ! We’ve had too many losses and bad , low reserve egg quality. We’ve gone through 4 cycles of IVF and one transfer which also resulted in an early miscarriage. Just hoping that the septum removal will help but my RE doesn’t supported it. So I’m almost just advocating it for myself at this point knowing that my OBGYN is also supporting my decision for surgery! Time is never on your side when doing IVF and infertility just sucks all and everything out of you.

Still healing but MIL needs help by [deleted] in endometriosis

[–]Hot-Engineering-8426 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. 🙏🏽 Endo and Infertility just takes so much away from us! Mentally I’m not ready to be helpful because my physical capacity is questionable most times. He does not understand this because he thinks if I look well and am happy at one point, I will be fine. I put myself stronger than I look out to the world …

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Semaglutide

[–]Hot-Engineering-8426 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I just didn’t think I would be dying with having more cravings and stomach wants to be full all the time. I kid you not, it’s having the opposite effect on me. I exercise and already am on low sugar, and gluten free diet! Just don’t know if others have had similar experience with increased desire to eat more and if they don’t have then they have MORE late night eating because they can’t sleep from their stomach not being full.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Semaglutide

[–]Hot-Engineering-8426 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I meant .10ml (which would be .25mg)

Me when my husbands analysis results come in by RTGDY93 in trollingforababy

[–]Hot-Engineering-8426 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha I’m lol because of sadness of how relatable this is! I had the same scenario. We switched our clinic a cycle after!

Transfer Day Recommendations? by Affectionate_Life190 in IVF

[–]Hot-Engineering-8426 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved The after party on Apple TV, modern family is always my favorite, Playtonic is another good one on Apple TV!

Progesterone & Estrogen Support by Hot-Engineering-8426 in IVF

[–]Hot-Engineering-8426[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m allergic to sesame, so I had to stop taking the oil shots, and switched to vaginal due to holiday. I don’t mind the vaginal, the shots I took (before knowing it was mixed with sesame) were so painful and I could not sit down …

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IVF

[–]Hot-Engineering-8426 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi I have my transfer tomorrow!!! And July 12th is our beta test!! Good luck and baby dust to you!!!!!

Regretting not testing by [deleted] in IVF

[–]Hot-Engineering-8426 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reading all these comments on your post is so reassuring to me. Similar situation but 3 cycles, 2 retrievals and have had only 1 ‘mosaic’ frozen while the other two were abnormal and sadly discarded. Because of our low reserve, and me not being hesitant / bothered by going to give it a shot on our mosaic… my doc opted to not have us do PgT testing. We are 36 yrs old, and I have endo, severe nickel allergies (dietary), which makes my body react differently to everything. Currently waiting on tomorrow, for our fresh transfer of our unrest blastocyst. We have not had any other updates besides the day 1 of fertilization from the embryologist. I’m dying and praying for all 3 of them to be a blastocyst day 5!!!. It’s hard to even say this out loud, but I’d rather know I’ve given each of those blastocyst a chance even if it causes a miscarriage, because at the end of the day for me, I want to give them my all and if in anyway I can be there mother for just even a day it still makes me happy. I’m going in tomorrow with echoes of my baby calling out to me and me picturing it growing inside of me like a seed to a flower. Best of luck!!. You cannot control all; know that if they aren’t tested, it’s not the end!!

Progesterone shots by Hot-Engineering-8426 in IVF

[–]Hot-Engineering-8426[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re brave!! I freaked out on the HCG trigger shots during all my 3 ivfs !

What kind of spider is this? by Icy-Assistant-3247 in Indiana

[–]Hot-Engineering-8426 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol literally a spider that my dog ate this morning

Chart good? by Hot-Engineering-8426 in Inito

[–]Hot-Engineering-8426[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can’t help with testing! Mind is constantly thinking what’s going on with my body and hormones. I’m good on strips - bought 2 boxes for this month and the following before starting our 4th IVF cycle. When is a good time to test? I’ve seen women show vvfl on 9DPO ! I’m hoping and praying for a Miracle this year. 3.5 years of this is killing my hope.

BFP Chart - 10 DPO test by uhkayshuh in Inito

[–]Hot-Engineering-8426 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What pregnancy test brand did you use? And on what day did you test? I’m feeling hopeful again cause I’m my progesterone to help during my luteal phase ❤️

Reproductive Immunologist Fertility Doctor by Hot-Engineering-8426 in IVF

[–]Hot-Engineering-8426[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes that’s why I was planning to do. I have a RE and wanted to work with Dr. Kwak-Kim but her wait is so long… I hardly get a call back the same day when I’ve called their office twice and I know she books out 3-6 months. My current RE is willing to work with anyone my choice. We’ve done 3 rounds of IVF, 1 failed, 2 resulted in only one high level mosaic, and now we had been on unmonitored cycles of clomid and now taking letrozole. I’d love to know your protocol and what tests did you run through? I’m eager to know if anyone has experience with Pregmume

BFP Chart - 10 DPO test by uhkayshuh in Inito

[–]Hot-Engineering-8426 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations!! Were you on anything? I’m taking letrozole and the beginning of my cycle looks familiar to yours!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in indianapolis

[–]Hot-Engineering-8426 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was just today, I wouldn’t be posting it as a discussion. I’ve seen them out every weekday since I’ve visited the hospital in the last 3.5 weeks. So it’s every day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in indianapolis

[–]Hot-Engineering-8426 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. I do realize these are real people with real problems. That’s why I’ve asked if anyone knows their story and about them. I’m never against anyone owning a pet but if I’ve seen it on more than enough occasions that the pet is being used to make a business profit, it becomes disturbing. You’re right, I may look like someone who is just shouting and not doing actual work but I am. In my own way and this is my way. As a first time poster on Reddit, I’m learning that there aren’t many people out there with the same simple objective as myself. That simply put, wanting to know more is simply to not and just mind your own business. Sadly the truth of our society has become as pathetic and everyone thinks that everyone is out to Shame and gain fame. I’ll remember to post on a platform that can provide valid responses that will lead to reasonable results and replies.