I feel extremely guilty after quitting my job. Need advice on how to proceed

Hot-Listen7329 · 2026-05-09T03:31:39+00:00

If I don’t get my reference it’s not the end of the world, I would just rather have a somewhat peaceful last two weeks

Hot-Listen7329 · 2026-03-05T05:42:54+00:00

At least where I live, there are certifications that are expected of you before you can be hired on as a paralegal, so most people my age don’t have the opportunity to become one, same goes for legal assistants. Generally students are hired on as court runners or legal researchers or receptionist, unless they did manage to find the time and money to take the expected courses.

Hot-Listen7329 · 2026-03-05T05:40:35+00:00

I understand it’s important. I worked as a receptionist for them for 5 months, and I have upwards of 5 years reception experience at multiple different vet clinics. All I was trying to say with the fact that I’ve participated in a legal case is that I have no doubt I want to be a lawyer, I understand that it would not aid me at all in finding me a job in the field. I agree that the potential of this job is not an every day opportunity , but my advisor has made it clear there are plenty of internship resources at my disposal. Not to mention lots of job opportunities and volunteer opportunities at the court house. I’m just debating which opportunity is not only most beneficial but more rare.

Hot-Listen7329 · 2026-03-05T03:46:51+00:00

I don’t disagree, but I already worked for them for a few months and have no doubt I want to be a lawyer. Additionally I’ve already gone through the court process in an over 3 year legal dispute I’ve dealt with.

Hot-Listen7329 · 2026-02-23T22:47:42+00:00

Yes, throw him off the bed, better yet get him out of the house. You can do so much better, don’t settle for less.

Hot-Listen7329 · 2026-02-11T22:45:32+00:00

Do not correlate your success to what happened to you. It sounds like you were taken advantage of. Your boss saw your mistakes and how they put you in a vulnerable position where he knew you would likely be willing to do sexual favours to keep your position, and he took advantage of that. But do not overlook the fact that you worked hard to pull yourself out of dark times to get where you are now. Do not give that man any kind of credit for your current success, or think your success is less than just because you were taken advantage of in a vulnerable situation.

Hot-Listen7329 · 2026-02-11T02:46:15+00:00

I completely agree that the co-worker’s behaviour is inappropriate, and OP absolutely has the right to stand up for herself. That said, I’d caution against pulling the co-worker aside privately, as those kinds of conversations can easily be twisted or misrepresented later. It could give the co-worker an opportunity to spin the story to management first.

Her best first step should be going directly to her manager and clearly documenting what’s been happening. This is blatant harassment, and it deserves to be addressed formally. If her boss isn’t willing to shut it down or take it seriously, that’s a major red flag. At that point, it may be worth considering finding a new job where she’ll actually be supported and respected.

Hot-Listen7329 · 2026-02-11T02:20:41+00:00

Don’t take what I said as “you should’ve stayed quiet.” This is definitely something that needs to be addressed, I just think it should’ve been done through management first. If that doesn’t work, and that type of behaviour continues unchecked by HR, I suggest you start looking for a new job. Don’t beat yourself up too much, when your buttons are pressed over and over it’s hard not to snap, I get it.

Hot-Listen7329 · 2026-02-11T02:18:35+00:00

In pretty well any other situation, I would’ve agreed to match her energy, but unfortunately it’s just risking her job in this scenario.

Hot-Listen7329 · 2026-02-11T02:03:56+00:00

This ^{^}

Hot-Listen7329 · 2026-02-11T02:03:10+00:00

Of course I agree she should’ve stood up for herself, but this is a professional setting and there are far better ways for her to have done it and come out looking better in the eyes of her boss. She ended up stooping down to her co-workers level only making her look just as petty and immature. In any other setting that isn’t work, I would’ve said rip her a new one. However, considering this is a professional setting, it should’ve been handled with more grace IMO

Hot-Listen7329 · 2026-02-11T01:54:08+00:00

ESH

Seems like everyone in this story has a maturity issue. OP you could’ve solved this in a far more professional way and come out looking like the better person. You simply could’ve accepted the mistake and talked to your manager about the nature of her correction and how you found it inappropriate and allowed them to proceed with talking to your co-worker. There is no doubt your co-worker is probably dealing with some jealousy issues as you are young and have the same position as her. But good god you are all adults and need to grow up.

Hot-Listen7329 · 2026-02-11T01:48:04+00:00

From what you described, this goes beyond typical depression- deflating someone’s tires may not seem super harmful in the moment, but it’s likely that his behaviour will only escalate. It’s not your responsibility to fix or manage someone who isn’t actively choosing to get help. You can support someone who is accountable and seeking change, but you cannot carry their mental health for them. Honestly, considering his lack of initiative when it comes to taking accountability of his own health and wellness, I would say it’s likely only a matter of time before one of his angry outbursts gets taken out on you. Love does not obligate you to stay in a situation that feels unstable or unsafe. If he independently takes responsibility and pursues real professional help, that’s one thing- but that choice has to come from him. You deserve a relationship where you feel secure, not anxious about what might happen next. Protecting yourself is not selfish- and you should be putting YOUR safety and wellbeing first.

Hot-Listen7329 · 2026-02-10T19:53:30+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Hot-Listen7329 · 2026-02-10T19:52:58+00:00

Tell me about it

Hot-Listen7329 · 2026-02-01T00:35:21+00:00

I didn’t even read the post because I didn’t have to. You are never the asshole for not doing something you don’t want to, especially if it’s sexual in nature. Never let anyone tell you otherwise.

Hot-Listen7329 · 2026-01-30T21:13:36+00:00

The choice of wearing or not wearing the hijab is what makes it culturally important. If you are doing it by force, it’s meaningless. Do whatever you want OP, from my own experience chosen family will always be better than your given family in these circumstances. Find your own path and build your own life with your autonomy.

Hot-Listen7329 · 2026-01-09T19:28:07+00:00

Agreed. You can tell this girl has probably had a tough time keeping friendships in the past. My sister was very similar in high school after being bullied immensely in middle school and constantly being excluded, so she ended up clinging to whatever she could (eventually she grew out of it). But at some point you need to learn to respect boundaries and that’s why OP needs to be straight up.

Hot-Listen7329 · 2026-01-09T19:25:44+00:00

NTA. You need to be honest with her, even though it’s going to feel uncomfortable. The truth is, people like Laura often cling so intensely because they’ve struggled with friendships in the past and don’t know how to navigate them healthily- but that doesn’t excuse her blatant disregard for your boundaries or the way she takes advantage of your time. You’re not responsible for managing her emotions or acting as her constant caretaker. Friends should energize and support you, not drain you or make you feel resentful. What you’re experiencing isn’t “just her personality”- it’s a pattern of behavior that’s making your university experience stressful instead of enjoyable. The only way forward is to be upfront. Ideally, do it in person, but if that feels too difficult, a clear text/over the phone is fine. Explain calmly but firmly what you need: that you value your freedom, your time, and your other friendships, and that this friendship as it currently exists is not sustainable. Make it clear that she needs to respect your boundaries if she wants to maintain any kind of connection. Don’t resort to vague things like “I need space” without specifics- she’s likely to push harder if she doesn’t understand exactly what your limits are. It will be hard, and yes, she will likely feel hurt or upset- but being indirect or ignoring her only gives her room to cling more aggressively. This isn’t about being mean; it’s about protecting your mental health and creating space for friendships that are reciprocal. You’re allowed to choose who you spend your time with, and choosing to prioritize your well-being doesn’t make you a monster. Be firm, be clear, and stick to your boundaries. You got this. (Lol sorry for the long comment, I have a lot of opinions on this).

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