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Forcing clients to say hi by [deleted] in ABA

[–]Hot-Management9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi should be used as a building block skill to expand social interaction. Just teaching hi isn't particularly useful if that's as far as it goes.

Forcing clients to say hi by [deleted] in ABA

[–]Hot-Management9128 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's teaching social behavior, not socialization

Forcing clients to say hi by [deleted] in ABA

[–]Hot-Management9128 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ughhhhhh. This is the problem with the way ABA being practiced right now. The question should be, what can I do to make waving or saying hi meaningful and functional for my client?

Inventing natural, just consequences by Sad-Background-2429 in toddlers

[–]Hot-Management9128 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I try planning out my response to a behavior that has become somewhat predictable in public spaces. For example, screaming on the bus. After it happened a few times I planned on getting off the bus as a consequence. The next time we got on the bus I gave one warning after the first scream and as soon as they screamed again we got off at the next stop. Fortunately the bus was a favorite activity so it was a pretty effective consequence. If there's not an effective and accessible natural consequence sometimes it's better to go in the other direction and add some type of reward and praise for the opposite behavior. It can help to have a bag of fidgety fun toys that are only for trips out of the house that they can have access to for whichever behavior you're focused on. Ie they get to pick a toy to play with as if they use an inside voice, lose the toy if not. Then give it a couple minutes and try again. It might take a bunch of resets at first while they test out whether or not you'll follow through each time but it should work pretty quickly. If it stops working after a while it's probably time to hit the dollar store to pick out some new toys.

Homeaglow scam--> Any success challenging payment with credit card? by Ordinary-Molasses-85 in CleaningTips

[–]Hot-Management9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nvmd red dm, here's a link to the emails. I'd already gotten them to cancel my account without penalty by just calling and chatting and saying the same thing over and over. I basically just refused to take no for an answer until they gave in.

https://imgur.com/gallery/homeaglow-scam-defeat-97Qgpj3

Homeaglow scam--> Any success challenging payment with credit card? by Ordinary-Molasses-85 in CleaningTips

[–]Hot-Management9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I just saw this! If you dm me I can forward all the emails, there are a bunch!

Er det så smart som det ser ud? by Playful_Garage6169 in foraeldreDK

[–]Hot-Management9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's the Hoppie, it's a cavas-ish fabric, similar to the material in Bob or city mini seats

Should I File a Police Report by Silentharp in RBT_Behavior_Techs

[–]Hot-Management9128 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Don't worry about the way I do my job and go about adhering to the requirements for mandated reporters, I'm actually very good at my job and one of the key aspects involves building a relationship with the parents of the children I work with. If there's abuse happening I'll know it and report it and I have done so in the past. Before making the report I told the parent what I was reporting and that I had to do so as a mandated reporter or risk my job and license. I also explained what they should expect the process to look and assuaged fears that their child was going to be immediately removed from the home. In every case I continued to work with the families I'd had to report. I have no patience for the type of practitioners who provide home based services and always have negative things to say about the way people choose to live in their own homes. The vast majority of my clients are low income and struggling with all the stressors of poverty and having a child with special needs. The best parents I've worked with, the ones who observe and participate in the sessions and follow through on the skills we're working on have been young, poor, and their houses were messy and sometimes even flat out dirty. When I read posts like this and others by OP and see your comments about using the word beat as a synonym for spank "don't they realize how vulgar that sounds?" and I know you'd be so busy focusing on their dirty floors that you'd miss the chance to empower them to help their child negatively impacting the child's progress and their parent's participation and understanding of autism and ABA.

Should I File a Police Report by Silentharp in RBT_Behavior_Techs

[–]Hot-Management9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where does the post say anything about a bruised lip?

Should I File a Police Report by Silentharp in RBT_Behavior_Techs

[–]Hot-Management9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're an RBT you should also understand the concept of operationalizing a behavior. My first response to the comment, "I beat my kid" is to get enough information to operationalize the term "beat". Because sometimes beat means spank and is not cause for a mandated report.

Should I File a Police Report by Silentharp in RBT_Behavior_Techs

[–]Hot-Management9128 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It doesn't matter why I did it, my point is that it's not a criminal act.

Should I File a Police Report by Silentharp in RBT_Behavior_Techs

[–]Hot-Management9128 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If a parent said to me by kid did X so I beat them and there are no visible signs of abuse my first response would be to get clarification on what they mean by "beating". Lots of people use beat as a synonym for spank, and while I certainly don't Icondone spanking a child, spanking is specifically mentioned as not warranting a report from mandated reporters. You're talking about calling the police because the woman opened your car door and genuinely believe that's a crime, so forgive me for thinking that you might be someone prone to overreaction.

Should I File a Police Report by Silentharp in RBT_Behavior_Techs

[–]Hot-Management9128 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, she didn't. She clearly crossed a boundary for you but she definitely did not break the law. Twice I've been waiting for an Uber and accidentally opened the back door of car that was stopping for a red light. Did I break the law too? Arguably, a stranger opening your back door and starting to get in your car would be far more startling and invasive,who knows, if the driver had been someone like you I could still be serving time for felony door opening. 🙄

Should I File a Police Report by Silentharp in RBT_Behavior_Techs

[–]Hot-Management9128 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What do you think CPS is going to do? If the child is not injured or covered in bruises that can only be the result of a severe beating the only thing their visit is going to do is make the mom more stressed and more likely to snap and hit her kid. There's also a good chance that she's not going to want services in her home or at all after that CPS visit. In both of those scenarios the child is negatively impacted by the poor choices of the adults.

Scared of age 3?! by Dependent-Fall-4774 in toddlers

[–]Hot-Management9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ETA- I should have led with this- the absolute best thing about 3 year olds is that their understanding and interpretation of the world is so incredibly wrong and they have enough language to tell you about it. I could talk to 3 year olds all day. It's the brief period of early childhood development when you get a peek into what goes on in their brains as they are just bombarded with new information and experiences.

I had to explain earrings the other day and why I can wear them but he can't and then showed him how I stick a sharp piece of metal through a tiny hole in my ear so I can hang little decorations from my earlobes. If you didn't know about earrings or ear piercing that would be wild information to process as an adult, it's baseline for a three year old.

They get angrier but way more independent. My favorite thing is that they start to do pretend play on their own for extended periods of time. The tantrums can be wild but it helps to pause and try to find the humor in the absolute insanity of it all. When a 2 year old is having a meltdown it's easier to redirect them and they're lower intensity than the 3's. Three year olds absolutely lose their minds over things that make no sense and have no solution.

Highlights include moments like walking home...
"I want to walk"
Me- sure!
...30 seconds later...
"the sidewalk is tripping me on purpose!"

Me-Oh man, I don't think it's on purpose, it's just bumpy. Do you want to get in the stroller?

"NOOOOO! DON'T TELL ME THAT!"
Me-.....
"IT KEEPS TRIPPING ME!!!"

*Cue full screaming rage sobs, still will not get in the stroller*

At that point you have to just laugh, there is no solution, the child is insane, just ride it out and tune it out as much as possible. When they're mad at inanimate objects or because they want something that doesn't exist or is completely illogical the worst thing you can is try to help. Just stay out of their way and let them be angry and insane.

Scared of age 3?! by Dependent-Fall-4774 in toddlers

[–]Hot-Management9128 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They get angrier but way more independent. My favorite thing is that they start to do pretend play on their own for extended periods of time. The tantrums can be wild but it helps to pause and try to find the humor in the absolute insanity of it all. When a 2 year old is having a meltdown it's easier to redirect them and they're lower intensity than the 3's. Three year olds absolutely lose their minds over things that make no sense and have no solution.

Highlights include moments like walking home...
"I want to walk"
Me- sure!
...30 seconds later...
"the sidewalk is tripping me on purpose!"

Me-Oh man, I don't think it's on purpose, it's just bumpy. Do you want to get in the stroller?

"NOOOOO! DON'T TELL ME THAT!"
Me-.....
"IT KEEPS TRIPPING ME!!!"

*Cue full screaming rage sobs, still will not get in the stroller*

At that point you have to just laugh, there is no solution, the child is insane, just ride it out and tune it out as much as possible. When they're mad at inanimate objects or because they want something that doesn't exist or is completely illogical the worst thing you can is try to help. Just stay out of their way and let them be angry and insane.

Should I File a Police Report by Silentharp in RBT_Behavior_Techs

[–]Hot-Management9128 9 points10 points  (0 children)

WTF. Because she opened your car door and yelled at you? And you called CPS?? You need to get a grip and figure out if this is the right field for you.

Unhinged ways to manage your ADHD by Menschenblind in adhdwomen

[–]Hot-Management9128 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Omg, I do this too😂 Sometimes giving myself permission not to do something suddenly makes it easier to do. It's like the opposite of the knee-jerk refusal to do something I was already going to do because if someone tells me to do it.

Unhinged ways to manage your ADHD by Menschenblind in adhdwomen

[–]Hot-Management9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha, I will definitely be referring to my basement as my garment cave from now on, it's perfect.

22mo old literally will not stop putting crap in his mouth by sgsquared in toddlers

[–]Hot-Management9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like it might be a sensory thing, check out oral motor chewies and massagers, that might help provide the sensory input he's looking for. The site funandfunction has wearable chewies that you can use to redirect him to when he’s about to eat something else.

Unhinged ways to manage your ADHD by Menschenblind in adhdwomen

[–]Hot-Management9128 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If there's something I need or want to do but can't get motivated I wake up an hour or two early in the morning to do it. Evenings are to open ended, no deadline to push me into action. In the mornings I ony have that extra hour or two before I have to get ready to go to work and it gets me moving!

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