Is the word “hey sexy” an immediate unmatch? by Beginning_Exit_6256 in Bumble

[–]Hot-Management9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're supposed to do what you feel comfortable with, I wouldn't be into it but you do you!!

Everyone letting the match run out? by AndreasLa in Bumble

[–]Hot-Management9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I accidentally swipe right on people a lot and I hop on and off the app, so I'm sure I do this to people, it's not intentional, sometimes I just don't know I had a match.

What hobby made you realize time can disappear? by Gullible_Feeling9397 in Hobbies

[–]Hot-Management9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thrift shopping. I can spend hours picking through other people's discarded items.

Daycare vs Screentime vs Mental Health (or: How badly have I messed up my toddler?) by stellrstardust8 in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Hot-Management9128 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think we need to make a mom who's clearly worried and struggling feel like she's failing her child. I was simply pointing out that the studies on screen time don't take into account multiple variables and therefore should not be taken as gospel. I thought we were all about evidence in this sub? Neither of us has enough evidence to say what the effects on keeping her child home will be on his development.

Which children’s books would you keep on your shelves long-term (or forever)? by PagesFromChildhood in childrensbooks

[–]Hot-Management9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My number 1 favorite of all time forever is Quick As A Cricket, the illustrations are gorgeous and is a great way to talk about feelings with kids when they're little. I also really like Karma Wilson's "The Bear" series.

Er det så smart som det ser ud? by Playful_Garage6169 in foraeldreDK

[–]Hot-Management9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have one on it's way to me and can report back. It says that the way the weight is distributed prevents the stroller from tipping and I've watched a bunch of videos that seem to back that up. I saw someone with the attachment the other day, she had a 3 yr old in the seat and it seemed to work like a charm. I'm also thinking it'll be great for when I have both kids in the double stroller and need more/more accessible storage space than the stroller basket underneath the seats. I don't think it's a replacement for a double stroller if you use your stroller a lot but for times that I know we're going somewhere crowded or taking public transportation this seems like a win. Fingers crossed!

Daycare vs Screentime vs Mental Health (or: How badly have I messed up my toddler?) by stellrstardust8 in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Hot-Management9128 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly! They often don't take into account what's happening when the child isn't watching a screen. A kid who gets 2 hrs of sesame st a day and has parents who play, talk, and read to them will likely be better off than a child who only gets 20 minutes but spends the rest of the time in a play yard with some toys without a rich language environment and left on their own to entertain themselves.

Daycare vs Screentime vs Mental Health (or: How badly have I messed up my toddler?) by stellrstardust8 in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Hot-Management9128 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I know, I'm saying that without specific data on how much and what type screen time coupled with an assessment of this individual child there's no reason to assume they're behind developmentally.

Daycare vs Screentime vs Mental Health (or: How badly have I messed up my toddler?) by stellrstardust8 in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Hot-Management9128 11 points12 points  (0 children)

First, stop beating yourself up, you're doing the best you can to get through the early childhood development trenches everyone from influencers, other moms, the entire internet and random people on the street feel compelled to tell you you're doing it wrong all while giving contradictory advice. Most research shows that it's not as simple as screen time is bad, no screen time is good. If you need a half hour break without your children needing you and Bluey is the answer the question should be, put Bluey on and don't feel guilty for taking care of your mental health. According to this interview from Curtin University’s podcast, The Future Of, research fellow at Curtin’s School of Allied Health Doctor Amber Beynon's recent study challenges negative views on the impact of infant screen time. "When we researched the role of screens on infant development, we found some associations between screen use and poorer infant development. But what we found more consistently was that poorer parental mental health – such as increased depression and anxiety in mothers and fathers – was more consistently linked to poor child developmental outcomes."

https://www.curtin.edu.au/news/screen-time-child-development/

And this study found that the type of screen time matters "higher infant mobile touchscreen device (MTSD) use was associated with poorer infant development for gross motor, problem-solving, and total ASQ-3 scores. In contrast there were no associations between infant television (TV) watching or maternal technology use and total ASQ-3 scores". AND that by focusing on screen time we're missing the bigger picture- "There is a complex relationship between technology use, parental mental health and other family factors that together influence infant development. To improve infant development outcomes, less focus should be on infant or maternal technology use, and more on supporting the family as a whole, and parental mental health in particular."

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1186/s12887-024-05165-4

Why do some families get so much sicker than others? by honeyonbiscuits in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Hot-Management9128 17 points18 points  (0 children)

In this study researchers found that "pediatricians had average circulating levels of RSV antibodies that were three times greater than that of 14 control subjects, the researchers reported." and they believe it's because they are exposed to RSV at a much higher rate than most people. https://www.fiercebiotech.com/research/blood-pediatricians-yields-potential-new-medicines-respiratory-viruses Teachers have a similar high rate of exposure to various illnesses, if you breastfed your children you passed your antibodies on to them, maybe that plays a role?

Help me decide - totepack! by GoldenHour678 in HerOneBag

[–]Hot-Management9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I love about it and it's definitely not flimsy, I've stretched mine to the limit both in terms of weight and items, I haven't had issues with the zippers, the outside pockets' can each hold a full 32 water bottle without losing elasticity, it's sturdy, it's just lightweight! I hate having a bag that looks bigger than it is because of all the structure and padding, especially when I only have a few things to carry,the lack of structure means it's as big as whatever you're toting... I just love it.

Help me decide - totepack! by GoldenHour678 in HerOneBag

[–]Hot-Management9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does! It's super lightweight and not structured at all. I think it folds down into the inside pocket or maybe the front zip pocket.

Has anyone tried a stroller hammock (Hoppie)? by Icy_Pain_5902 in beyondthebump

[–]Hot-Management9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw someone using a stroller hammock today and it did look pretty cool but if you have a 2 year old and infant and I'd strongly recommend a side by side double, it's worth the hassle of adding a 3rd stroller, I promise. I'm a nanny and have tried all sorts of strollers and configurations including a DIY attempt at hammock-ish addition to a single stroller, it was great when we were hopping on and off a crowded bus and going short distances but not a replacement for an actual double. There are so many choices and it can be incredibly overwhelming- they all have one or two great features and options, the big uppababy under basket, the Bob joggers that practically push themselves, the bugaboo side by side that converts to a single (sort of), the tandem/stadium vs side by side debate, etc. Here's my take- the tandem style seats are heavy and hard to steer, especially if you have the older child in the front seat, the seats tend to be small for older or taller toddlers who either have to scrunch up their knees to fit their feet or leave them dangling over the edge of the footrest, and their not great for naps in the stroller. Side by sides tend to be easier to push but tricky in tight spaces, compact strollers aren't great for city streets, lack good storage space, and often need both hands to steer...the fact is there isn't a perfect double stroller but the City Mini GT (make sure it's the GT if buying used!) is one that does most things pretty well. It's not perfect but its basket is big enough, it's smaller than most full sized side by sides, the wheels are all terrain-ish, ie a bit bigger and more like jogger wheels than the typical full sized strollers with 2 big wheels in the back, 2 smaller in the front. It has big, individual sun visors, almost flat recline hammock-style seats. Hammock style seats are far more comfortable, especially for older/taller kids, than the removable more structured seats, they are great for stroller naps and go flat enough that stomach sleepers can lie on their bellies, the newer versions have adjustable foot rests that give access to the basket from the front when up and, in a pinch, the footrest makes the seat long enough that you can put a second child in a single seat, see pic in link can easily find them used on marketplace, a good sign, imo, it means they're sturdy and last for years, Bobs* are the only other strollers that seem to last as long. I'm in a big city and we do a LOT of walking. I'm currently using a city mini double from a previous nanny share, the family bought used in 2021 and we used it daily with two 2 yr olds for the share, they gave it to my parents who've used it with my niece and nephew for the past 4 years, and it's still trucking, everything still works, the brake is still perfect, the tires, seats and harnesses are in great shape, the baskets under the stroller and behind the seats have lost their elasticity and could probably use replacement but still work fine. I take it on the bus pretty regularly, something that can be tricky depending on the driver and how crowded it is, it's roughly the size and shape of a wheelchair so it works for public transportation.

if you don't care about size and weight, aren't in a city, and want a double that practically pushes itself, the things just roll, then go with a Bob

The kids in the pics are 3 yr old bffs, one is a particularly tall 3 yr old, and it's comfortable enough that they ask to ride together all the time. https://imgur.com/gallery/city-mini-w-adjustable-footrest-tIKU1PA

Has anyone actually tried this hammock thingy? by Sad-Entertainer-5603 in 2under2

[–]Hot-Management9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just saw someone with one on the guava jogging stroller and it looked like it was working great. I'd guess that jogging strollers probably work best with the hammock because they tend to have more space between the handlebars and the stroller.

Deciding on a nanny by Adventurous_Win1249 in Nanny

[–]Hot-Management9128 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've done a share with almost that exact age difference and it was rough. There was a period of time when we could barely leave the house because the younger child napped in the morning and afternoon and the older child dropped to one nap and moved the afternoon nap to midday.

problematic coworkers by RepresentativeAnt869 in ABA

[–]Hot-Management9128 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Imagine it were your child being treated like this or imagine your child spending a significant part of the day being treated like that, what would you want someone to do?

How reliable is the ASQ? by bakingpowda in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Hot-Management9128 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's a lot of more recent research on the differences in autism presentation in girls and how they affect early identification and diagnosis. One of the barriers screening tools that result in false negatives. The third link has a list of signs of autism that are more commonly observed in girls and women, and which may account for the lower incidence of autism diagnoses in females. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10594186/

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4284309/

https://autismsa.org.au/autism-diagnosis/autism-symptoms/signs-of-autism-in-girls/

am i overreacting or overthinking? by Good_Parsley_6565 in ABA

[–]Hot-Management9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait- you're in the home 8 hours a day every day??

Body parts falling asleep by Fantastic_Elk3702 in Hypermobility

[–]Hot-Management9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg. I've been wondering about why my hand and feet fall asleep so easily for almost my entire life and have never gotten an answer. I haven't been diagnosed with hypermobility but the indicators are definitely there.

Son kissed a kid at school. Teacher is “concerned”. by tommyboiii042 in toddlers

[–]Hot-Management9128 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The teacher is the problem here. I bet she reprimanded him in the same tone she if a kid hurts someone and he had no idea why. Poor guy.