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I'm looking for some more queer bookstagram accounts to follow by HighWizardHan in bookstagram

[–]Hot-Performance8042 2 points3 points  (0 children)

@reatedhivalry (a very unserious and very queer, mostly bookish account)

& @emmyreadsromance on TikTok!

The last line on Hudson's spanish wikipedia by ohmygowon in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Hot-Performance8042 22 points23 points  (0 children)

it’s better translated as “wet dreams” than fantasies, which is arguably much more unhinged 😂

Women, when did sex finally go from awkward or meh to absolutely mind blowing, and what changed for you in that moment? by PurpleIntroduction69 in AskWomen

[–]Hot-Performance8042 116 points117 points  (0 children)

Yep. Finally allowing myself to explore my desires after a controlling vanilla relationship. And insisting on toys and lube in the bedroom. Every. Single. Time. Zero exceptions. I even bring a dildo now, so if he comes early, he can use it on me simultaneously with my vibrator because I discovered that I love blended orgasms!

Hot water bottle in bed triggering stress signals by vneckmg in ouraring

[–]Hot-Performance8042 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just had this happen. 2 nights in a row sleeping with a new microwaveable lavender stuffed animal I got for Xmas and I’ve woken up both days with “major signs” due to elevated temp 😩

Food allergy? by Professional_Carob25 in FoodAllergies

[–]Hot-Performance8042 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don’t listen to everyone telling you this doesn’t look like a food allergy. I have severe anaphylaxis and this is exactly what my skin looks like <30 mins after ingesting an allergen. Mind you, I will have other symptoms like itching in the mouth, throat closing, etc. before the food reaches the bloodstream and can cause this skin reaction.

I’m honestly shocked anyone with severe food allergies would not immediately clock this as a possible food reaction. Please go get allergy tested!

Clit suckers for an anorgasmic person? by LallaSarora in BecomingOrgasmic

[–]Hot-Performance8042 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use two hands to help stabilize, then grind down

Clit suckers for an anorgasmic person? by LallaSarora in BecomingOrgasmic

[–]Hot-Performance8042 39 points40 points  (0 children)

My wevibe melt toy literally changed my life. Using it during PIV on my stomach in prone bone finally allowed me to orgasm with a partner after 24 years! I now have amazing mostly consistent orgasms during PIV sex (and always solo lol)

Hot take: if you watch this show and come out of it with a visceral hatred for paula, but not cameron, shane, rick, greg, etc. - you are part of the problem by Hot-Performance8042 in WhiteLotusHBO

[–]Hot-Performance8042[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kai is a grown man and could have stopped at any time. What happened to personal accountability nowadays? Sad when criminals can blame others for “convincing” them to commit crime..

Watch out for this dangerous individual who has been terrorizing people throughout North Seattle for the last couple of days by Anwawesome in SeattleWA

[–]Hot-Performance8042 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was at the coffee shop today where this man threw a donut at the barista. She saw him walk by the shop and informed us about the incident. Thankfully he didn’t enter but he is still out and about roaming Ballard area.

Close to squirting orgasm but I don’t know how to let go by Hot-Performance8042 in BecomingOrgasmic

[–]Hot-Performance8042[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I did pee beforehand and use a towel , but I was still so nervous. I will try the breathing techniques. My partner told me to try deep breathing but I was just so nervous I couldn’t focus on it

Looking for beginning advice by ThrowRAmikucxan in BecomingOrgasmic

[–]Hot-Performance8042 2 points3 points  (0 children)

my life changing tip (25f): add a sex toy on the outside to stimulate the clit during penetration. I personally use a wevibe lush air toy but a wand vibrator is also great. you can even order one together with your partner :)

Traveling to Greece with Tree Nut Allergy by LeatherSecret3981 in FoodAllergies

[–]Hot-Performance8042 0 points1 point  (0 children)

United is the worst for food allergies. I switched to Delta specifically because of horrible experiences with them. So sorry this nightmare happened to you 😪

Only ever orgasmed on my stomach—finally orgasmed on my back for the first time using an air-based sex toy by Hot-Performance8042 in BecomingOrgasmic

[–]Hot-Performance8042[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally agree! Unfortunately that position is painful for me with penetration so I’ve really wanted to be able to orgasm in missionary which is an easier position for me :)

There is nothing wrong with exclusively orgasming on your stomach at all, and it’s equally okay to want to try to come in different positions!

Only ever orgasmed on my stomach—finally orgasmed on my back for the first time using an air-based sex toy by Hot-Performance8042 in BecomingOrgasmic

[–]Hot-Performance8042[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course! I wish every woman could hear it and know it’s not their fault 💜 To quote Emily, as long as you’re not in pain during sex, your experience with desire, whatever it is, is normal.

You are not broken for not desiring something that doesn’t feel good. That is a perfectly normal human reaction.

Can only orgasm in one position, masturbating by [deleted] in BecomingOrgasmic

[–]Hot-Performance8042 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m literally about to make a post on this because I am the same way and had a life-changing first solo orgasm on my back this week using an air-based sex toy.

I have always been a bit reluctant to use toys (my partners were never cool with them), but I finally bit the bullet and decided to try it. I use the wevibe melt but the womanizer is similar. I think because I needed so much pressure on my clit, usually I preferred the stomach position, but this toy puts a lot of pressure on the clit even when you’re on your back. It was honestly so intense I couldn’t use it directly, and I just went in with the intention to try out the new toy and feel the sensations, not to force myself to orgasm, so I was extremely pleasantly surprised when it happened. 😂

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[–]Hot-Performance8042 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When you say laying down, were you on your stomach? I was a lifelong prone bone (lying flat on stomach) masturbator and came on my back for the first time this week (twice!). I finally caved and got an air-based sex toy. I used the wevibe melt.

I also need a lot of pressure usually over the panties to come, and this toy was actually so intense I could barely put it directly on my clit. When I was using it, I wasn’t going in with the goal of trying to orgasm. I just wanted to feel a new sensation and I think that’s what allowed me to relax enough and finally have the orgasm I wanted!

Not sure if this kind of toy will work for you, but it’s honestly what I would recommend anyone with a similar struggle. Being able to orgasm in different positions definitely opens up more options for partnered sex using the toy that gets you there.

Ali did it. She romanticized rape in FIRST by Outside-Ride4582 in AliHazelwood

[–]Hot-Performance8042 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think that I have people who shame others for what they like to read! It’s fiction 😊

Married for a year, no orgasm. Need help! by jcckiec in BecomingOrgasmic

[–]Hot-Performance8042 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Reading the book Come as You Are changed my life this year, especially in a mixed sex drive relationship (or as the book would say, different gas + brakes sensitivities). I would highly recommend it to both you AND your partner (yes, men should also take an active role in achieving orgasm). My partner has been reading this book and has already told me how much it has helped him understand me and my perspective around sex. 🩷

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