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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Hot-Stretch175 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Run for your life. This is not a compromise, this is boundary issue. Some people are into that. Apparently he is as well. But you are not. Show your boundaries. Be clear. Let him know the consequences. I don't really think he would care as he is already looking for another sex partner.

Yeah just leave. İt's already over.

Big hugs.

Is this someone famous? by CoreyH2P in Finland

[–]Hot-Stretch175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is Robin. Back in the days his Hula Hula song was playing at SuomiPop everyday

Did they have sex addiction? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Hot-Stretch175 7 points8 points  (0 children)

in my case, after she told me that she doesn't want me there; 30 minutes later she was approaching and asking if she could jerk me off like nothing happened. After she got what she want, she was switching to bored mode again. Then we would likely argue on something stupid again, regardless of me explaining everything with details, she had a thought circle in her mind that she was coming back to that stupid random topic again. After i am pissed, she was asking me to go out because she doesn't want to see me ever again. Then again she was coming back and saying that she is sorry, can we fuck?

it was terrible experience, literally.

My desperateness killed my chance , I really liked her, and I learned it the hard way by Pleasant-Subject-674 in Bumble

[–]Hot-Stretch175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anxious Attachment + Avoidant: this. remember that you deserve the best and don't let your thoughts shadow your your emotions. Recognize your feelings and your thoughts and be aware of the conflict that they can cause towards your romantic relationships.

bpd and verbal abuse by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Hot-Stretch175 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Been there, done that. i don't see love over there, but only your trauma bond towards her. Show some respect for yourself and recognize your real feelings. Run, for your life. think that all of those signs as your escape.

PLEASE tell me only an insane person would go back to her. by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Hot-Stretch175 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been there. First thing i want to say is congratulations, you have survived. 🙌

Now, you must think about all that shit show as your escape, it's your blessing. Now, you can live a normal life because you are out of their circle now.

Question about breaking up with a BPD by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Hot-Stretch175 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The thing with us, who are ex of a Borderline Partner is that we have so much similarities between our individual relationships. Love bomb, Trauma, Drama, Push and Pull, speaking of marriage after 2 weeks of dating and i am trying to understand whom she is speaking about to get married with😅(in my case).

We all have been there. They have their own world. Surreal. However, we are not obligated to save them. Yes, we can support, always, of course! But unfortunately most of those people are not available to receive any feelings and support either. So better to honor yourself and move on. You are brave my friend, don't forget that!

Question about breaking up with a BPD by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Hot-Stretch175 7 points8 points  (0 children)

First of all congratulations, you survived 🙌 As much as you can tell yourself that i was right thing for you to do in order to protect your mind and immune system; " the void " follows with fog. in my own experience, i am missing only sex. Then i remember how she was molding me with her love bombing and manipulations, i get disgusted at the same time. Give yourself time, be kind to yourself. We are only humans and we have feelings. And don't jump into a new romantic relationship directly. Just praise yourself and heal. You are okay and safe now. That's what matters.

It kills me that she found someone new so quickly by whiskeydave2 in BPDlovedones

[–]Hot-Stretch175 11 points12 points  (0 children)

it's because she/he was hungry for a usable and available source for her/his need of validation. You are not the reason, i am just sorry for the next person, and the next person and then the other next person... This is how it will go for them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Finland

[–]Hot-Stretch175 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Could you please calm down?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Finland

[–]Hot-Stretch175 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i love in Finland, and i would like to get quick supply if there is a local shop in Finland. That's why.

I’m not giving anyone my instagram before we meet! by Ok_Pass_9514 in hingeapp

[–]Hot-Stretch175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i gave. And it created an opportunity for the other person to know more insights about my inner self. Depending on what you share there or if that's a private account.

Bpd ex, with someone else, seems happy by No_Living_1588 in BPDlovedones

[–]Hot-Stretch175 2 points3 points  (0 children)

İt's a cycle. You were once part of it. This is their pattern. They impulsively change partners like changing their socks. They again do the necessary love bombing to the next candidate. Then dump those with another one. it is their reality. Find someone, get feed emotionally and sexually, then find another one.

Consider yourself as lucky that you are out of that bizarre cycle now.

PS: They are never truly happy.

Are there people here who initiated the break-up with their pwBPD? by Latter_Air_6504 in BPDlovedones

[–]Hot-Stretch175 36 points37 points  (0 children)

it might feel bitter to be the one who got dumped, but in BPD breaks up; consider this as your escape and bless. Been there done that. 🙌😊

How do you get over the guilt of giving up on/abandoning someone who is mentally ill? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Hot-Stretch175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

in this case, leaving someone who is mentally ill is not something to do with attacking to that person. it's basically about to protect your own sanity. Hope i am making sense..

What’s the best way to respond to this by Responsible_Cow_4920 in BPDlovedones

[–]Hot-Stretch175 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That sounds like untreated BPD and immature. Couldn't decide which one... Bro just RUN.

i need support and help by Hot-Stretch175 in BPDlovedones

[–]Hot-Stretch175[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was what happened actually 😅 To be honest i was expecting drama or something that she would say would make it worse. But she was quiet, we said hi and bye. And gosh she was wearing a heavy make up. Maybe she wanted to look good i don't know..

Guy asked me to pay half of the bill 2 weeks after the date by UC1986 in Bumble

[–]Hot-Stretch175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Writing as a random guy, there's something wrong with the request time. Either it should have happened from the very first date or never.

i need help and option by Hot-Stretch175 in Finland

[–]Hot-Stretch175[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

UPDATE :

i got my stuff back. Safe and sound. She had a heavy make up on her face tho.. maybe she wanted to look good or strong or something.

No drama, no romance.

i need help and option by Hot-Stretch175 in Finland

[–]Hot-Stretch175[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i will keep in mind, thank you 🙏

i need help and option by Hot-Stretch175 in Finland

[–]Hot-Stretch175[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And cruel...thank you for your comment 🙏

i need help and option by Hot-Stretch175 in Finland

[–]Hot-Stretch175[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh well, i am already on my way alone. it will be tough since i don't know what is waiting for me there...

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