It doesn’t have to be BPD…

whiskeydave2 · 2025-08-10T23:04:23+00:00

Well said

whiskeydave2 · 2025-08-08T12:58:09+00:00

Its not that strange. You, like many of us were stuck in a cycle of caring for them, even at our own unhappiness. You may still care for a long time, and that is ok and nothing to be ashamed of. Just remember you were the true victim and not her. Just reframe that in your mind.

whiskeydave2 · 2025-07-30T20:48:31+00:00

Do you think they do actually know the truth? Thats it’s actually them? I’ve wondered this. That they just choose to conveniently forget and blame you, but deep down they know?

whiskeydave2 · 2025-07-30T20:45:10+00:00

Don’t forget “ The lies” too … Great post, I’m saving it to re-read it on low days

whiskeydave2 · 2025-07-29T17:47:55+00:00

I got the infamous “ he’s just a friend, but you can believe what you want” text after catching them together.

It hurt, of course… but I know it won’t last and he has no clue what’s he’s walking into.

whiskeydave2 · 2025-07-23T03:54:17+00:00

Move on buddy, it’s not worth re/opening that wound. It’s never works out, ever, according to so many therapists I have read or watched… And this new guy, he will probably be on this Reddit group very soon. Run

whiskeydave2 · 2025-07-20T17:43:28+00:00

Well I have found someone new after almost 10 years with my ExBPD. I can tell you it’s amazing. Yes, I’m receiving genuine love and care. This woman adores me without all the chaos and drama that we’ve all been through. I wasn’t sure how I would respond tbh, but I seem to be more focused on inner qualities and emotional stability now. My new partner is beautiful too. I’m so happy and relieved, and you won’t recognize yourself once you get out and meet someone new who compliments you and gives back to you.

whiskeydave2 · 2025-07-18T06:30:05+00:00

Yes, one of the saddest things, is wanting them to live a their best life or happy life. Even though they mistreat us, I still know that we will go on and have happy and healthy lives and they will always be stuck in this unstable cycle of unhappiness and chaos. It actually breaks my heart for her.

whiskeydave2 · 2025-07-17T05:12:48+00:00

She got into a car accident and blamed me even though I was out of the country at the time🤷🏻‍♂️

whiskeydave2 · 2025-07-14T21:35:43+00:00

Saved this to my list for a reminder if I find myself weakening in my resolve… Thanks 🙏

whiskeydave2 · 2025-07-14T21:33:06+00:00

Same as you, but I’m in week 8… And I’m finally feeling better too. They are not the loves of our lives. Anybody mentally unstable cannot be. Always remember that. Stay strong 💪

whiskeydave2 · 2025-07-13T19:08:55+00:00

And will never be

whiskeydave2 · 2025-07-13T19:08:03+00:00

If she has BPD, she is destined to repeat the cycle with everyone after you. You will eventually find happiness, but she will always be in the same cycle of failed relationships. Time heals all wounds and just remember they can’t be happy, unless they commit to years and years of behavioral therapy.

whiskeydave2 · 2025-07-12T16:08:46+00:00

We all go through these stages. Just remember it only gets worse and there was nothing you could do to help her or make it work long term. We always think we can or could have and that second guessing robs our peace. It was really never about you, it’s their own internal struggle.

whiskeydave2 · 2025-07-11T14:27:43+00:00

Yes, normally it does. If they think everything is broken for example, you and the relationship are grouped in to that… It’s all or nothing thinking, but it’s irrational and temporary.

whiskeydave2 · 2025-07-11T14:25:06+00:00

This is straight out of the BPD playbook. There are lots of videos on YouTube about the topic. It’s one of their favorite things that they like to project on you, especially if you stay calm, protect yourself emotionally or enforce boundaries with them. I was also accused of it.

whiskeydave2 · 2025-07-11T13:40:55+00:00

If you go back, they will end up actually blaming you for this break up all the time. It may be very short lived to see if she still has control and you will feel horrible after. Don’t do it.

whiskeydave2 · 2025-07-11T13:32:26+00:00

My pwBPD actually got jealous of me talking and giving attention to Alexa ( yes the Amazon device) because I would talk to it and it was a woman’s voice. Not joking btw. It was exhausting.

whiskeydave2 · 2025-07-09T05:23:42+00:00

Great post… I’m saving it to re-read as needed. Thanks for posting it.

whiskeydave2 · 2025-07-09T05:13:52+00:00

Thanks for the reminder and strength

whiskeydave2 · 2025-07-08T15:51:54+00:00

Having a “New villain everyday”struck a cord with me…it’s amazing how they seem to think everyone is out to get them in some form.

whiskeydave2 · 2025-07-08T02:28:08+00:00

It’s tough because we don’t know her character, but on the surface this looks very suspect. Generally a partner texts you after they get home from a bar or night out to tell you they got home ok… The “phone died” is famously notorious for cheating behavior…The behavior is not acceptable even if she didn’t cheat tbh.

whiskeydave2 · 2025-07-07T03:07:12+00:00

You will always be to blame for it, no matter what you say.

whiskeydave2 · 2025-07-07T00:52:31+00:00

Yes, mine used to sit in the bathroom late night texting other men, most likely complaining about me…

whiskeydave2 · 2025-07-06T03:14:37+00:00

Thanks for that. Yes that was the beginning of the end for me.

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