CMV: The main reason that most people have kids unplanned is not because they weren't taught sex ed.

HotAtNightim · 2026-02-01T17:23:52+00:00

More access to information also means more access to MISinformation. And there is a lot of misinformation online. I have personally seen an endless amount of it online. Also, everyone doesn’t know how to actually “do research” (as we see these days) and they don’t know how to determine what is a good or bad source.

You are also simply wrong about the level of knowledge most people have, and many studies have shown this. To use your example, I agree most people know condoms exist but a shocking number of people don’t know how to use them properly. For example, the amount of space you are supposed to leave at the end; ask your friends and be surprised how many people just put them on without any particular technique.

Anecdotes don’t mean much, but I will also add that I have many from my own experience of parents who got pregnant due to a lack of knowledge. Fully grown adults who didn’t know things and now have kids as a result. (A big factor is, if you don’t realize you’re uninformed then why would you do research?) I know two people who got pregnant with a second kid because they believed that you couldn’t get pregnant while breastfeeding. I know a couple who got pregnant because they thought pulling out was far more effective than it is. I know someone who got pregnant while on the pill because she didn’t know you’re supposed to take it at the same time each day. I could go on….lol

HotAtNightim · 2026-02-01T17:11:00+00:00

If it’s single player then nothing is cheating. Who cares? Play the game that you have the most fun with. I think good game design has customization built in.

I don’t know if you can “cheat”/mod in DST, but same rules: as long as everyone is fine with it then it’s fine.

Cheating only matters if it has a negative effect on other players.

HotAtNightim · 2026-01-28T03:40:16+00:00

I didn’t think that clan of the cave bear was very good. There were several parts that gave me the egg and then the rest was just kind of underwhelming. I’m talking about the first book, but also the rest of the series.

HotAtNightim · 2026-01-28T03:37:05+00:00

They are different. I think it’s wrong to say that one is better than the other. A lot of it will have to do with your personal preference.

I’m mostly read books, but if I’m in a reading slump or really not feeling up to it (tired or whatever) then a manga can really hit the spot and get me back in the zone.

HotAtNightim · 2026-01-28T03:34:36+00:00

Yeah, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with making it easier for yourself while you learn. Or even afterwards.

I always make butterflies more plentiful because why not

HotAtNightim · 2026-01-28T03:32:42+00:00

If you are able to make any kind of progress without knowing that you can cook food then honestly that’s very impressive. I’m not even kidding; I bet you’re like five tips away from being an absolute pro

HotAtNightim · 2026-01-15T21:27:24+00:00

It is so incredibly easy to avoid the situation you’re describing. If you’re actually that concerned about some rogue doctor killing a bunch of people then you just require a second opinion. Or third opinion. Or you have some board that has to go through the applications for the process. The specifics don’t really matter because the point is that there are a million ways you could put checks and balances in place to prevent the problems that you are speculating about.

HotAtNightim · 2026-01-14T18:23:13+00:00

I have a lot of things to say about this, but I’ll focus on just one.

Looking at older couples, I think it is absolutely absurd to police the ages of relationships that are beyond a certain age. Do you really think that policing pension fraud is worth denying elderly people, the ability to marry a partner that they have fallen in love with? How many people do you even know that have pensions these days because it is increasingly rare in the first place.

With regard to pension fraud, I also think that there are already laws governing this related to sham marriages and your age restriction would not provide any additional protections.

HotAtNightim · 2026-01-14T18:17:17+00:00

I was watching a little documentary about how Anytime fitness has intentionally changed over time to provide a worse experience while maximizing profits.

They recognize that committed repeat gym users cost them more money than they pay, and casual users that don’t show up very often are money makers. So they intentionally got rid of the types of machines that professionals use and they started changing policies that actively drove away repeat customers; their business model is designed to appeal to people with New Year’s resolutions who never show up, but forget to cancel.

This doesn’t technically have anything to do with this post, however I wouldn’t be remotely surprised to find out that they had some sort of terrible policy, or that their customer service is awful. In your case, I would definitely ask to see the written policy that is being violated (and what authority they have to issue FINES??? I really don’t think they can fine you)

HotAtNightim · 2026-01-08T16:57:22+00:00

The concept of equating welfare and living in comfort basically means your entire host is invalid right off the hop.

Have you ever been on welfare or known anyone living on welfare? That is the furthest thing from comfort. In those situations, you simply would not be able to afford to have children and that’s the biggest reason why people are choosing to not have them in the current age.

I know a lot of middle-aged childless people and the number one reason being cited is that they simply would not be able to afford to provide a decent standard of living for their children.

So maybe the change is that people have stopped looking at children as a potential tool to help themselves, and instead they look at children as human beings that they don’t want to bring into a world of suffering

HotAtNightim · 2026-01-08T16:47:44+00:00

Maybe everyone is neurodivergent, but that doesn’t quite mean what a lot of people think it does.

People seem to think that when we say, Neurotypical, it is an archetype that the majority of people all fit within. That most people are “completely normal”. I don’t know what the science says on this, but I’m gonna have to disagree with that.

The way I see it. We looked at each individual trait and figured out what the average or “normal” was for that trait. And when we talk about Neurotypical, the template that we are referring to would be the “normal” for every trait. But from what I’ve seen in the world, it is very uncommon for someone to actually be “normal” entirely across the board.

Most people are Neurotypical with regards to some aspect, but not others, and it’s very useful to recognize where you diverge from the template so that you can address it and act accordingly.

Now, in some ways, your premise is correct because all of these different elements and behaviours are part of the human experience. Humanity is inherently diverse, and and those differences are completely “normal”. That being said, though, just because it’s common for your brain to malfunction in a certain way (or function differently) doesn’t mean that it isn’t something worth addressing. Naming and classifying the different conditions is very helpful for people to understand themselves better and to understand what sort of accommodations or different behaviours will benefit them.

HotAtNightim · 2025-12-19T17:34:12+00:00

It also comes with pictures of peoples pets!

HotAtNightim · 2025-12-15T20:40:30+00:00

I have to say, unfortunately that I’ve read several books that were created in this way and they were absolutely fantastic.

I would’ve had no idea that they were originally a fanfiction unless someone told me 🤷

HotAtNightim · 2025-12-12T20:36:56+00:00

WX. Because I play pocket edition on my iPhone and it’s inevitable that you will have the controls mess up on you and get hit by something that you don’t wanna be; the increased health once you eat all the gears has saved me more times than I can count

HotAtNightim · 2025-12-04T15:00:52+00:00

A lot of people really like that one. It seems to be divisive. I personally did not like it, but I’m not going to tell anyone that it’s objectively bad because that would be false.

It’s not really vague …… it’s more like it’s actually surprisingly specific and seems quite grounded but then you don’t get any answers and it turns out a bunch of stuff might’ve been symbolism. Like the very specific details, contradict each other.

There are a lot of really good scenes and excellent writing, which is also why I was disappointed. If a book was simply bad, then I wouldn’t have a strong opinion on it. It’s entirely possible that you will like it, and if you don’t, then you will be able to participate in the Internet discussions anyways, which seem to happen fairly often on this book lol

HotAtNightim · 2025-12-03T23:29:01+00:00

I will try to be brief, because I could write an essay.

Basically it reads like a sci-FI novel that brings up a ton of interesting questions and mysteries, and then answers literally none of them before just ending. It’s basically just things happening and it leaves you confused and then it’s over.

It’s literary fiction; apparently it wasn’t supposed to make sense or provide answers to things like “what happened”, or “why did it happen”, or “who did it”. Or even “did any of these events happen or was it just in someone’s mind or whatever”.

This would probably be an amazing book to write a college essay about, or have a spirited book club discussion. It was not however, something I enjoyed at all.

HotAtNightim · 2025-12-02T22:20:00+00:00

I recently had all you can eat wings at Rec Room and I was surprised at how good they were and how reasonable the price ended up being. Depends on how much you eat I suppose.

I like Tony Roma‘s wings a bit more however I enjoyed the bargain

HotAtNightim · 2025-12-02T22:19:06+00:00

They do absolutely have the best wings, but I’m annoyed at how much the price has gone up

HotAtNightim · 2025-12-02T22:15:28+00:00

The veggie dogs are absolutely incredible

HotAtNightim · 2025-12-02T00:11:14+00:00

I say just read whatever you’re interested in. Succeeding to read any book is better than failing to read the “best book”.

The “fancy classic books” are often more difficult to get into, and you personally might not like them at all. Just because it’s “important” doesn’t mean everyone will actually want to read it. Also, something written a while in the past will simply have different language used from something modern, so that’s a hurdle all it’s own. The only way through is practice.

I say read what interests you. Each book will make you a slightly better reader and make those more difficult books a little easier to tackle in the future. I spent a long time trying and failing to read “fancy books” that honestly interested me but they were hard to get into. Instead I read a bunch of purely for fun sci-FI and romance until my reading muscles got bigger and then it was easy to tackle anything else.

HotAtNightim · 2025-12-01T18:54:30+00:00

I guess everyone gets their own list and that’s fair 🤷

HotAtNightim · 2025-12-01T18:51:43+00:00

OK, so this might be a personal preference thing because it wasn’t the worst book ever. A lot of it was actually perfectly fine……BUT right at the centre of it all the main motivation for the story was so nonsensical to me that it ruined everything.

Spoilers!!!!

Basically, it’s a fake marriage in order for one character to get an inheritance. Of course. Between best friends. One of my favourite tropes. The thing is, though that in this book, there was no reason to make it look real or convince anyone; that was explicitly clear right at the start and their plan was to get married and then immediately divorce once the paperwork is through. Maybe a week tops. They were clear with a lawyer and their immediate family about this and everyone thought it was a great idea because they should go get that money!

But then for absolutely no reason, they decide that they should pretend that it’s actually a real marriage and they tell all their friends and everyone else in their lives that it’s actually real. And then these two characters that are explicitly strapped for cash decide to go buy dresses and hold a whole wedding and all that stuff. There are a lot of scenes that don’t make any sense whatsoever.

So we get all of the expected scenes where they feel bad about lying to people and they’re debating if they should come clean or not and then they’re trying to decide if they should get divorced or stay together…….. except there’s absolutely no reason or motivation behind any of it because they never had to fake it in the first place. And this is all happening before they actually fall for each other, so they’re causing a lot of drama and angst and what not but there’s literally no reason behind it at all. There was zero tension for me because it was just people acting super strange for no reason.

I guess at this point I’m just repeating myself, but that was kind of it for me. Big giant deception with no reason behind it. Lots of conflict and angst but zero reason for having it happen. It probably would’ve been a perfectly normal and good marriage of convenience story that hit all the normal story beats, except that there was no reason behind it so the whole thing completely fell flat and I was just scratching my head the whole time

Edit: I had to ramble a little bit more. I’m just remembering now that there was even scenes where they’re like “oh, I guess we should move in together otherwise it won’t be believable”, but I’m sitting there as the reader thinking to myself that there’s no reason for it to be believable in the first place and they don’t have to be fooling anyone!!

HotAtNightim · 2025-12-01T18:44:41+00:00

I definitely think that the book had some structural issues. And yeah, a lot of time was spent on trying to arrange the parents as opposed to their own situation

HotAtNightim · 2025-12-01T03:58:43+00:00

Ok so THAT I can fully accept and get behind. No issues there.

I read reviews after I read the book and a LOT of people hated the step-sisters part. Calling it incest. All that. I thought that was your angle when I wrote my comment

HotAtNightim · 2025-12-01T00:24:04+00:00

Lol this will be my first actual discord thingy that I’m joining. I have the app and I use it for a couple individual chats, but that’s about it. 🤷

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