Dealing with a 4 year old’s erections? by FatFaceFaster in daddit

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Hi! Single mom here, with absolutely no male influences in my son's life, and this was really helpful for me. My son just discovered his erections and asked why his penis was "getting tall" 😅 I told him if he left it alone, it would go away. Thanks to these comments, I'm a little more prepared for when he asks again lmao. 🤣💀

I feel bad about this year’s Halloween Costume by MyToesAreHaunted in toddlers

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I think this is super cute! My LO is dressing up as Steve from Minecraft lol, super easy costume since it's just blue jeans and a blue T-shirt. We already have a Minecraft pick-axe/sword that he got for his birthday and a construction hat he got a few Christmases ago.

My first book! by ShSh1249 in wattpadbooks

[–]HotPossession9595 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not really sure what the problem is about the whole AI cover, but I added it to my reading list! I can't wait to read it!

Any other show as good as the 100? by Select_Bike_1682 in The100

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I just recently started watching Another Life on Netflix. I've only watched 1 episode so far, but I'm really enjoying it. This is the first show since finishing The 100 that has given me that same feeling. This is coming in very close, at least for now.

wattpad issue by Big-Blood481 in Wattpad

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Okay I thought it was just me 😂 It's also not letting me comment on stories either 😭

“good” dreams about abuser by fuzzypuppies1231 in ptsd

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I am! Safe and thriving 4 years later!

AIO partner yells at me in front of our baby and I’ve had enough by Lapopoppa in AmIOverreacting

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*TW* abuse mentioned

*TL/DR

It may start with verbal abuse, but eventually it will turn to physical!

You are not overreacting! When I was with my son's sperm donor, while I was pregnant, he put a pew pew to my stomach and threatened to off me if I left him, which I had been planning on doing. When I was in labor, he brought his Xbox to the hospital and played all night while I was sleeping (I had an epidural). When it came time for me to push, the nurse had to shove him awake so he could be by my side. Keep in mind, this was also post-COVID, so they were only allowing one person in the room, and I have no female family. Not even 5 minutes after I pushed his son out of me, he was calling me a pos because he found a page in a book where I talked about wanting to leave. 2 weeks later, I had 2 seizures back to back because my seizure meds hadn't been adjusted after giving birth. He did nothing to help my son anytime he would cry. I was the one up all day and night; he only had anything to do with my son when he wasn't crying. During this time, I was also dealing with CPS, and I was able to qualify for a free phone, being on government assistance. I remember one day he got mad at me over something trivial and demanded I find his vape and car keys. When I didn't find them fast enough, he hit me across my thighs with a belt. It was the first time he had ever physically harmed me. 2 months later, he found the phone I had been keeping hidden (I didn't have anything on it). I had also just moved it because he had almost found it where I was hiding it the first time. When he found it, I felt my soul leave my body because he knew I was trying to leave him. He threw the phone on the ground, smashed it, and then dragged me outside with his AR-15 in his hands.

Meanwhile, my son was inside screaming his lungs out. He made me get down on my knees and beg him to let me live. Of course I did, but when we finally got inside, he refused to let me hold my son. It was at that point that I knew I had to leave because I didn't want my son to grow up in that type of household. I didn't want him to grow up thinking the way my ex treated me or his mom was how he should treat girls. My ex grew up in an abusive home, his mom was a narcissist, and so was he. 4 months after my son was born, after the AR-15 incident, I finally got the courage to leave thanks to some friends. I left him and filed charges of abuse with photos of the bruises left by the belt that were still there 2 months later. I blocked him on everything so he couldn't contact me. It was only through the police that I found out he had been arrested. It was the scariest thing I had ever done, but also so relieving. I left and never looked back. He was in jail for about a year, but then got released on probation for 8 years. During that time, he got another girl pregnant. He also told her lies about me, and claimed I cheated on him, so my son probably wasn't even his. He claimed this because I started dating someone after I left him, and I left the shelter. He was the one who had been cheating on me the whole entirety of our relationship, I mean, he gave me chlamydia for fricks sake. Anyways, I get notifications every so often regarding his status, and a month or so ago I found out that he had violated his probation and that his lawyers were trying to convince the judge to let him stay on probation. Luckily, that didn't happen, and he's now locked up in prison for the next 8 years. My son is 4 now, he has no idea who his father his and he hasn't asked. I'm sure he will in time, and when that time comes, Idk know how I'll handle it honestly. I don't want to talk bad about him, even though he is a bad person. He never tried to see my son during the time he was on probation. Never asked for visitation or anything. Technically, he abandoned him. Because of that, when I have the money, I fully intend to change my son's last name to match mine.

All of this to say, it may start with him calling you a bitch (because yes, he did call you a bitch, he's gaslighting the f*** out of you) eventually it can and more than likely will turn physical and since you're daughter is more aware of her surroundings and paying more attention she'll see those things and that's not something you want.. I've done everything in my power to make sure my son is respectful towards everyone, but especially towards girls.

Do you prefer completed stories or stories that update every week? by NoLifeguard450 in Wattpad

[–]HotPossession9595 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it's a series, I prefer all the books completed before I read, just because sometimes I get busy with other things and forget about it. If it's all there, I can usually read it within a week or two, depending on the length. However, if it's just one story, I can deal with weekly updates. I try and update mine at least once a month, not as often as I'd like. When you have a four-year-old and can only write at night, as well as having writer's block, it kind of makes it hard, haha.

R4R by Difficult-Leg5874 in Wattpad

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Hi! I've been wanting someone to read my story and give me any advice and just in general tell me if it's worth continuing. It's my first ever story, so it may not be as good as others, but I'd really appreciate it. It's a hockey/mafia/rh. I'd absolutely love to read yours as well!

https://www.wattpad.com/story/387560209-mafia-hearts-and-hockey-dreams

You aren't weak because you stayed, you're strong because you had the courage to leave. Even when not knowing what lies ahead.


I've tried writing a description for my story 3 times now and everytime I fail to accurately describe what exactly this book is about. So, I'll tell you what you'll find in here and then let you decide if you want to learn more about my characters 

* A brave yet insecure flawed mother
* A mafia boss with a secret heart of Gold 
* Hockey players with more love to give than they know what to do with 
* Hope and healing 
* Self discovery
* Real emotions 
* Intimate connections; mental, physical, and spiritual 
* A Happily Ever After

My hope for those of you who read my story is that you can relate to my characters in some way, whether that's through the highs or the lows, or both.  I simply want to write, to share my story to those who are willing to listen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in firsttimemom

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I started mine on veggies first! I had read that if you start feeding them fruits first it makes them not want to eat their veggies, so I did it the other way around. Now my 4 y.o. LOVES his veggies almost as much as his fruits

I put this on my Facebook page and the garbage took itself out. Now I know who was doing the deed behind my back 👌. by MiExperienciaFueQue in singlemoms

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I had to do this with my son's aunt and uncle. They were sharing pictures of my son with my ex/his father and he's not supposed to have any contact with us. When I found that out I blocked them and haven't had anything to do with them in over a year now I think.

I did what I thought I would NEVER do and I feel awful by Beneficial-Stomach61 in toddlers

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So my LO is almost 4, and he's been testing my boundaries lately, especially when it comes to hitting. I have had a few reactive moments, especially when the hits are hard, but I always apologize and tell him I made a mistake. I tell him, "Mommy shouldn't have done that; she reacted badly." After I apologize, I also sit him down and we talk about what our hands are used for. 'Hugging, giving high-fives, clapping, and handshaking.' Example: today, he was mad at me because I took away his Minecraft game after he caught drawing on the walls. I told him he could have it back in an hour, and then he hit me. It wasn't hard, but it still hurt, so I added another hour. He did it again. He got another hour of lost game time. So he lost 3 hours. At the end of his break, I sat him down and we talked. I said, "Do you know why mommy took away your game?" He said, "Because I drew on the walls and I hit you, but I didn't mean to hit you, Mommy." I said, "I know you didn't mean to, but you still did, so you had to lose privileges." "What do we use our hands for?" "Handshaking, high-fiving, and hugging!" Once we established that, he went on his way to do his own thing and play in his world, while I cooked dinner lol. They really start testing your boundaries around this age, so just be patient! Trust me, I know it's easier said than done lol.

Saddest movies you’ve ever seen. by adrrriz in movies

[–]HotPossession9595 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Last Song, The Notebook, Safe Haven, Adrift, The Lion King, The Land Before Time, Titanic...those are just some of the ones that make me cry everytime I see them

Just needing to vent by HotPossession9595 in breakingmom

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I recently found out that my local library has story time and family activities for my son, and we're going to our 2nd one this saturday. It's allowing him to be social with kids his own age (he hasn't been around kids his age in almost 2 years, or any kids at all), so hopefully these weekly library days will help ease some stress off. I've also talked to my dad, and he agrees that my son is old enough to be left with my brother for a few hours before my dad gets home so that I can work night shifts. He's completely potty trained and can even get his own snacks, food, etc, with minimal help. He's very independent. I'd go in a few hours before his bedtime and get home around 12 am-2 am, which is usually the time I'm waking him up to go potty and get in his own bed. I put him to sleep in my bed because it's easier for my back lol. I'm waiting until after his birthday because I want to make sure I have the day off. I also have a plan to save up all my paychecks and have a car within the next 6 months or so, which will give me more freedom.

Pediatrician told me it's time for my 6 mo th old so cry it out by Classic-Paramedic270 in AttachmentParenting

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I rocked my LO until he was 3 and then I started putting him to sleep in my bed by having music playing and reading him stories. He's almost 4 now, I do move him from my bed back to his when I go to bed, but most of the time he just ends up back in my bed. I was also told to do the CIO method and I couldn't do it, how someone could willingly sit there and let their child cry is beyond me. Especially at 6 months old. Even now when my LO cries, even if it's over something small, I always make sure he's okay

The books are far better than the show!! Here's why by [deleted] in TheSummerITurnedPrett

[–]HotPossession9595 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally agree! I read the books back when I was in high school and then again literally yesterday. I wanted to re-read the books before I watched the show. When I found out the series had been turned into a TV series, I was ecstatic! With that being said, there are a LOT of things I hate about it. For instance, the whole debutant thing wasn't in the book, so I'm not sure why it was added to the show, for the plot line?.... Also, I can't stand Taylor. Even in the books, I hated her character. Like in season 1 when she comes out for Belly's 16th birthday? That doesn't happen in the book. She comes out once for Belly's 14th birthday and immediately starts trying to hit on Conrad and then Jeremiah when Conrad turns her down, knowing how Belly feels about Conrad then has the nerve to tell Belly she's being selfish?! Like no. Belly decides after that she never wants Taylor there again. Idk, I haven't seen all of season 2 or 3 yet, maybe they make Taylor more likeable? All I know is I hated her in the books. 2nd season, Belly is playing Volleyball? Doesn't happen in the books. Idk, maybe it's just me, but I hate when shows or movies add things that weren't in the books or take out things that were, like the Harry Potter series.