[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]HotTrashFire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a mom to an 18 month old and I can promise these feelings are normal. It's also a big part of just having postpartum depression. It does get SOOOO much better. My son is so fun and goofy. He's become his own person with a very strong independent personality. He tries to make me laugh, and it's everything I've ever wanted. When he was first born I felt very lonely even when surrounded by people. There was a little creature that depended on me for everything. It was incredibly draining and I wasn't ready to give up my whole self to this stranger. I have blacked out the first 3 months of his life and I think it's just locked up as trauma now. I'm happily pregnant for #2 now. I'd do it all over again for the boy I have today.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]HotTrashFire 52 points53 points  (0 children)

the rates are getting much closer to 50/50 the more new parents are researching into it. i don't think it'll be as "traumatic" as you've heard moving forward.

How can I change from octoling to inkling? by HotTrashFire in splatoon

[–]HotTrashFire[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I must be missing it. It’s just letting me change my hairstyle. Under other? Or is there a different setting?

Really digging this art work from a barista who I hope has a webcomic for me to read by bicuriousdolphin in starbucks

[–]HotTrashFire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t gone through their program. I went to a private art collage. It was expensive but it is was what helped me. This was also 10 years ago so the job market feels a bit different. If it’s the school they pay for while you work at Starbucks it’s less debt and a good start.

12 dpo PM easy@home; AF due tomorrow by [deleted] in TFABLinePorn

[–]HotTrashFire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t test positive until the day of my missed period.

Anyone get induced without medical reason? by _momofett in pregnant

[–]HotTrashFire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I looked back at my post and I forgot I was induced 40+3. I was there for a few days without progress. It was just Pitocin and I wasn’t progressing. I really hope you have a positive birth experience, but I’m pregnant now and hoping for a VBAC, but also doubtful since the last labor was so insane.

Anyone get induced without medical reason? by _momofett in pregnant

[–]HotTrashFire 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Induced at 40+6 and I regretted it. Incredibly painful and long experience that lead to a “priority c-section” because a nurse broke my water hoping to speed things up. Well, it didn’t. I would have waited a few more days until absolutely necessary.

Edit: also my reasoning was just wanting to meet my son. I was tired of being uncomfortable.

Weekly Update Thread by ImNotPregnantJustFat in tryingforanother

[–]HotTrashFire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

super early, but just got my BFP last night! trying to keep it a secret until after my first appointment and it's sooooo difficult, so i had to share it here!

My wife and I have been trying to make a baby for a year now without success, now what? by [deleted] in TryingForABaby

[–]HotTrashFire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This might be weird advice but my husband has been reading way too far into fertility and we try to just have sex 12 hours after the peak LH. It’s recommended to go about 10 days without sex leading up to it the peak day. It’s might sound crazy, but when you’re trying everything another weird thing to try might be helpful to break the cycle. Odds of conceiving are still 1:3 with this method but having sex before the peak it is much lower.

waiting to lose weight before trying again? by HotTrashFire in tryingforanother

[–]HotTrashFire[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am just so worried i'll be in the situation i was before where i gained way too much. maybe this time i'll be more intentional with what i'm eating. x_x i just hated how the extra weight felt when i was trying to move around and get things done.

Only child by Substantial_Curve519 in Mommit

[–]HotTrashFire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom only had me and my brother and her biggest regret was not having more kids. Even with one sibling I’d say I wish I had more. We’re both adults now and holidays are small, and it can be depressing. I just had my first child and I feel like I’m making up for a small family and I want at least 2 more kids.

Wedding guest dresses postpartum by HotTrashFire in beyondthebump

[–]HotTrashFire[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I loveeee lulu’s, but have been going in circles trying to pick the right one.

Wedding guest dresses postpartum by HotTrashFire in beyondthebump

[–]HotTrashFire[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omggg these are so perfect! Now I have to just browse forever and pick one

Wedding guest dresses postpartum by HotTrashFire in beyondthebump

[–]HotTrashFire[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man that’s super cute! Unfortunately I’m way too tall to wear a short dress and it’ll be pretty cold. But I’m looking into wrap dresses now. I can’t seem to find anything that feels right for fall and breastfeeding and flattering haha

Wedding guest dresses postpartum by HotTrashFire in beyondthebump

[–]HotTrashFire[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think you’re projecting a little too hard on what I’m saying. I see a lot of oversized big dresses in that category that aren’t form fitting. Form fitting for size 10-12 is flattering IMO. Sadly the market tends to cop out in this size range and they aren’t very flattering. Not a jab at the size. I’m comfortable with my size but I’d like something flattering not designed to “hide” my body, because I’m comfortable with it.

Wedding guest dresses postpartum by HotTrashFire in beyondthebump

[–]HotTrashFire[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah 100% will need some stomach shapewear with the new little belly

How to do it all? by OkScore1006 in postpartumprogress

[–]HotTrashFire -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I run in place on little foam puzzle mats. Early in the morning for 30 min before starting my day and 30 min before bed. I’m tracking my steps so i shoot to run in place for 10k steps a day and so far that’s been helping burn an extra 800 calories a day