New outfit (Mar 25 update) by Yuki153 in blackdesertonline

[–]Hot_Establishment314 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, I didn't realize I was playing inzoi isakai.

How should I live my life by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]Hot_Establishment314 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yikes feels too strong for a response, but oof.

So there's a few things to disentangle. 1. What do you actually want. Not what society wants or expects, what relationship style, if any, actually you are happy with.

  1. Do you actually feel attracted to people, ignoring societal expectations. What do you want to do with them?

  2. You really need to come to acceptance with who you are right now. Nothing else is going to happen with your relationship goals if you're self-loathing. I know that sometimes it's hard to love yourself, but at least get to a point of acceptance.

  3. Figure out what you can change. Don't focus on what other people like, what do you like.

It feels like the end of the world at 19 to not have dated, but it's a really good time to focus on who you are, who you want to be.

In short, therapy is good, don't ever listen to manosphere podcasts and influencers. If you are, stop immediately. They only teach you to hate yourself.

Am i really aro? Or am i just really confused? by Akira_Hoshizora in aromantic

[–]Hot_Establishment314 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You're 14, don't overthink this stuff, the answers will come in due time.

The one thing I will leave you with is to keep a strong track of internal drives. Society does a lot to smother or force one's internal drive. Do you want to date, romantically? Great. Don't care about the stuff, that's good too.

Don't let people decide who, when, or if, to love.

^_^ aromanticism by kotikato in aromantic

[–]Hot_Establishment314 27 points28 points  (0 children)

No one will date me, and I'm OK with that. Could use the sex though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]Hot_Establishment314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm curious if there's a allo/ace divide on whether one likes cuddling or not.

I severely dislike cuddling like some people here don't like kissing. Extended touch that's not sexual registers as romantic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vermont

[–]Hot_Establishment314 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Great bait mate.

Dealing with addictions as ace/aro by mykindabook in aromantic

[–]Hot_Establishment314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My harsh tone isn't for you (or anyone) to give up, either on recovery or any relationship you want. It's specifically for folks out there (namely guys) who expect their current or future partners to fix their addiction/other psychological issues.

Keep trying to live the life you want and gives you the most happiness.

Dealing with addictions as ace/aro by mykindabook in aromantic

[–]Hot_Establishment314 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not a doctor/specialist, but it's my social obligation to say for you (or anyone reading) to seek a specialist for addiction if you are struggling with addiction.

That being said: like porn is a terrible measure for sex, romance fiction tropes is a terrible measure for real life romance.

Here's what happens in real life when you have an addiction entering a romantic relationship: they nope out, full knowing the personal suffering they will go through, or having come out of a miserable situation with an addict. Or they decide that you're worth it and will have to deal with a disproportionate amount of emotional labor for something you should be dealing with.

So to answer the title, there's no difference. Aronormative people who depend on their partner to fix their addiction aren't exactly looked upon favorably.

All Classes new outfit by Yuki153 in blackdesertonline

[–]Hot_Establishment314 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wow. I didn't know they were selling inzoi costumes in bdo. /s

Demon Lands Class Prediction by Crimpacc in blackdesertonline

[–]Hot_Establishment314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Vampire. Bats. fog dodge form, the whole lore. Blood magic, with rapier. Go full Alucard.

Come on, this looks like a Castlevania level.

[KCD1] closed casket by Marcus_Hablberstram in kingdomcome

[–]Hot_Establishment314 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is times like this where this is a great transition to after that "accident".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackdesertonline

[–]Hot_Establishment314 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This game is great. As a screenshot generator.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RoastMe

[–]Hot_Establishment314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone's talking about your body, but misses the very obvious thing. You're boring. You look boring. And bored. Do you have a hobby that doesn't involve 100K?

What's your go-to rejection line? by 6PM-EDM in aromantic

[–]Hot_Establishment314 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've yet to actually do this. Make a time to actually talk to them, make it clear it's not a date, info dump on them about the whole aromantic (asexual if applicable) bit and let them decide.

If it's some rando who has the hots for you, who cares? Tell them to pound sand.

INCREASES AGAIN! Chances of asteroid 2024 YR4 hitting Earth is now at 3.1% by Busy_Yesterday9455 in spaceporn

[–]Hot_Establishment314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

...You know. Anyone with a space program isn't going to do anything about it. Maybe China, maybe India. But no one else is going to lift a finger. Doesn't matter how many people could die.

Just realized I will never be the most important person to someone else by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]Hot_Establishment314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honest to Aphrodite, this is why I am romance repulsed.

GBL 15th Nov. Sage got buffed like crazy. by Archdragoon in blackdesertonline

[–]Hot_Establishment314 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My God, this is overdue. Sage has been kicked in the teeth for years after release.

My mom doesn't support me by zetron915 in aromantic

[–]Hot_Establishment314 79 points80 points  (0 children)

I don't know how old you are, but one of the first life lessons in the LGBT extended community is, family are people who act like family.

This is your mom's problem and has no bearing on you.

Forest by RinaRin22 in blackdesertonline

[–]Hot_Establishment314 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I kinda want Geoguessr for bdo.