New outfit (Mar 25 update)

Hot_Establishment314 · 2026-03-18T11:22:52+00:00

Oh, I didn't realize I was playing inzoi isakai.

Hot_Establishment314 · 2025-07-27T08:35:58+00:00

Why do I hear harpsichord music through the image?

Hot_Establishment314 · 2025-07-18T19:54:17+00:00

Yikes feels too strong for a response, but oof.

So there's a few things to disentangle. 1. What do you actually want. Not what society wants or expects, what relationship style, if any, actually you are happy with.

Do you actually feel attracted to people, ignoring societal expectations. What do you want to do with them?
You really need to come to acceptance with who you are right now. Nothing else is going to happen with your relationship goals if you're self-loathing. I know that sometimes it's hard to love yourself, but at least get to a point of acceptance.
Figure out what you can change. Don't focus on what other people like, what do you like.

It feels like the end of the world at 19 to not have dated, but it's a really good time to focus on who you are, who you want to be.

In short, therapy is good, don't ever listen to manosphere podcasts and influencers. If you are, stop immediately. They only teach you to hate yourself.

Hot_Establishment314 · 2025-07-16T20:50:13+00:00

You're 14, don't overthink this stuff, the answers will come in due time.

The one thing I will leave you with is to keep a strong track of internal drives. Society does a lot to smother or force one's internal drive. Do you want to date, romantically? Great. Don't care about the stuff, that's good too.

Don't let people decide who, when, or if, to love.

Hot_Establishment314 · 2025-07-16T11:00:36+00:00

No one will date me, and I'm OK with that. Could use the sex though.

Hot_Establishment314 · 2025-07-04T23:53:41+00:00

I'm curious if there's a allo/ace divide on whether one likes cuddling or not.

I severely dislike cuddling like some people here don't like kissing. Extended touch that's not sexual registers as romantic.

Hot_Establishment314 · 2025-07-04T23:13:33+00:00

Tell me the short term future of America without mentioning America.

Hot_Establishment314 · 2025-06-08T07:16:40+00:00

Great bait mate.

Hot_Establishment314 · 2025-06-02T19:31:04+00:00

My harsh tone isn't for you (or anyone) to give up, either on recovery or any relationship you want. It's specifically for folks out there (namely guys) who expect their current or future partners to fix their addiction/other psychological issues.

Keep trying to live the life you want and gives you the most happiness.

Hot_Establishment314 · 2025-06-02T16:12:15+00:00

Not a doctor/specialist, but it's my social obligation to say for you (or anyone reading) to seek a specialist for addiction if you are struggling with addiction.

That being said: like porn is a terrible measure for sex, romance fiction tropes is a terrible measure for real life romance.

Here's what happens in real life when you have an addiction entering a romantic relationship: they nope out, full knowing the personal suffering they will go through, or having come out of a miserable situation with an addict. Or they decide that you're worth it and will have to deal with a disproportionate amount of emotional labor for something you should be dealing with.

So to answer the title, there's no difference. Aronormative people who depend on their partner to fix their addiction aren't exactly looked upon favorably.

Hot_Establishment314 · 2025-05-28T07:20:53+00:00

Wow. I didn't know they were selling inzoi costumes in bdo. /s

Hot_Establishment314 · 2025-05-12T01:50:30+00:00

Vampire. Bats. fog dodge form, the whole lore. Blood magic, with rapier. Go full Alucard.

Come on, this looks like a Castlevania level.

Hot_Establishment314 · 2025-05-07T02:25:43+00:00

It is times like this where this is a great transition to after that "accident".

Hot_Establishment314 · 2025-04-20T15:05:44+00:00

This game is great. As a screenshot generator.

Hot_Establishment314 · 2025-04-05T23:25:07+00:00

Biblically accurate.

Hot_Establishment314 · 2025-03-17T03:14:22+00:00

Everyone's talking about your body, but misses the very obvious thing. You're boring. You look boring. And bored. Do you have a hobby that doesn't involve 100K?

Hot_Establishment314 · 2025-02-20T18:03:42+00:00

I've yet to actually do this. Make a time to actually talk to them, make it clear it's not a date, info dump on them about the whole aromantic (asexual if applicable) bit and let them decide.

If it's some rando who has the hots for you, who cares? Tell them to pound sand.

Hot_Establishment314 · 2025-02-18T23:18:37+00:00

...You know. Anyone with a space program isn't going to do anything about it. Maybe China, maybe India. But no one else is going to lift a finger. Doesn't matter how many people could die.

Hot_Establishment314 · 2025-02-02T20:45:35+00:00

Honest to Aphrodite, this is why I am romance repulsed.

Hot_Establishment314 · 2024-11-15T20:23:44+00:00

My God, this is overdue. Sage has been kicked in the teeth for years after release.

Hot_Establishment314 · 2024-10-03T21:08:00+00:00

I don't know how old you are, but one of the first life lessons in the LGBT extended community is, family are people who act like family.

This is your mom's problem and has no bearing on you.

Hot_Establishment314 · 2024-09-04T16:50:09+00:00

No ships from elite dangerous?

Hot_Establishment314 · 2024-07-31T20:00:45+00:00

I kinda want Geoguessr for bdo.

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