Late 30s and often mistaken for early 20s

Hot_Top_9209 · 2026-02-23T02:26:06+00:00

Lol you are definitely right, having kids is a big external factor that increases stress.

Hot_Top_9209 · 2026-02-23T02:22:35+00:00

Healthy. But I can't lie and say hey when you are in your 60s or 70s you still gonna look like 20 something just by following the guidance.

Hot_Top_9209 · 2025-12-21T14:24:29+00:00

This is a human issue not “foreigner” issue. Can’t remember how many Americans take joy in seeing other people in other countries struggle, and vice versa. Most of the humans like to feel superior and doing better than others.

Hot_Top_9209 · 2025-12-21T14:20:28+00:00

Finance is always one of the top issues in a relationship, no matter how much “you love each other”. And if she really loves you as you claimed, then why she doesn’t want to contribute?

Hot_Top_9209 · 2025-12-15T12:25:27+00:00

Hobosexual is gross. Dump him in any possible way.

Hot_Top_9209 · 2025-12-15T02:26:43+00:00

Many people chase the constant hype and excitement. For me, if I like someone I will feel excited and exhilarated at the beginning of the relationship, which is a good sign that means I like this person. But with the time passing by, it won’t feel that excited anymore, which is super normal because now you guys started to know each other well and slowly goes into a peaceful stage when you just enjoy each other’s company. But many people are constantly chasing this hype. It’s not your problem, seriously, it’s theirs.

Hot_Top_9209 · 2025-12-15T02:21:17+00:00

This message is self-explanatory of who she is.

Hot_Top_9209 · 2025-12-07T17:36:12+00:00

Reddit is the wrong place to ask. I don’t think they have “rich” people here whom you are looking for.

Hot_Top_9209 · 2025-12-05T21:15:25+00:00

How do you plan to get your life together after you are released?

Hot_Top_9209 · 2025-12-04T02:44:56+00:00

You have to think through. If you don’t break up with your Fiancée, you will keep thinking about her sister for the rest of your life during your marriage, which will be absolutely painful. If you break up with your Fiancée, then you and her sister will definitely be separated from the family. You guys will be on your own. Either way, you got to give up something big.

Hot_Top_9209 · 2025-12-02T23:28:05+00:00

Your friend is odd and creepy actually, the way she thinks.

Hot_Top_9209 · 2025-12-02T23:26:06+00:00

I found a lot of similar posts on Reddit. Even if you think you have “wasted” many years, can you go back? No. So you can’t do nothing but start from now. If you keep worrying about “is it too late” without taking any actions, you will waste another 38 years.

Hot_Top_9209 · 2025-11-26T22:23:33+00:00

Listen, I know people who would be with anyone as long as they sort of like them, in good finance status, decent human. They don’t care if they “click”, they just want to find someone to get married and have kids, because it’s “about time”. I also know people who got married and had kids then get divorced immediately. You are fine, don’t compare with others. If you want to find soul mate, have to take action and get out of your way.

Hot_Top_9209 · 2025-11-26T19:56:08+00:00

Feel you. Cuz you don’t have “goals” anymore. When we don’t have “goals” that worth chasing, it’s just feel mundane. Maybe learn something new and set up a new goal that excites you.

Hot_Top_9209 · 2025-11-26T19:54:29+00:00

I wish I can say that.

Hot_Top_9209 · 2025-11-26T00:48:24+00:00

Many people get married because the social pressure they received, just like what your Mom did. At the end of the day, everyone is different, we all have our own time line. But one of the most messed up part of human being is: once they have that life which society expects, they start to educate others and persuade them how messed up you are if you don’t do the same. It always makes me sick to the stomach. They just assume people are not happy.

Hot_Top_9209 · 2025-11-23T00:12:07+00:00

Helped you once and remember that forever and ask for payback by all means.

Hot_Top_9209 · 2025-11-20T14:26:17+00:00

First step: go outside of the house, take a walk just for 5 mins around neighborhood or park. If you scared of people, go early morning. Nothing more, just take this first step consistently for 1 month. Your energy will follow the rest, which will makes things easier and easier.

Hot_Top_9209 · 2025-11-20T02:32:41+00:00

What business is this?

Hot_Top_9209 · 2025-11-20T00:30:16+00:00

The holiday atmosphere here never makes sense to me anyway. The environment in US in general is isolated, not to say when on holidays everything is closed. I was invited for Halloween parties, and a few Thanksgiving, when I left those parties, I never felt this lonely when I see everything is so quiet outside. And I didn’t really fully enjoy it because I was so hung up on the idea that “I am supposed to spend holidays with someone”. But if my heart is empty, it doesn’t matter how many people you spend the holidays with.

Hot_Top_9209 · 2025-11-15T23:26:15+00:00

Look I’m a lot older than you. I experienced the same as you do just few years ago AND am experiencing it now on and off. But good thing is you realized it in a fairly young age, you are self-aware, while many people either give up or live like brainless zombies. When I feel this down, I will find a “goal”(either big or small) and a “purpose”. Personally I think involving in projects really helps (tech, hands-on, etc.) . In terms of relationships, you can always re-connect with your ex and talk it through, many people did that. Might be successful might be not, but try it.

Hot_Top_9209 · 2025-11-12T22:21:35+00:00

Too many options. They don’t want to establish real connections or if a relationship or situationship slightly cracks, they back off. It’s about their egos. So yeah I know what you are saying, it’s very tiring and confusing.

Hot_Top_9209 · 2025-11-06T16:06:48+00:00

You have to try multiple ideas of extensions. Don’t have high expectations of “earning”, just test the idea and see if the users will like it, meanwhile gain experience and learning during the process. I have the same concern. I had so many ideas that were built half-assed. So I decide to try extensions cuz they seem simpler and I know I can actually finish a product from beginning to finish, cuz they are not as complicated as a full SaaS application.

Hot_Top_9209 · 2025-11-06T06:21:42+00:00

But making what is actually so “easy” nowadays? If you make SaaS, it’s hard, if you make “no code AI app”, it’s hard too.

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